About Atlanta senior life. (Sandy Springs, GA) 2016-2023 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 31, 2019)
Journey Along the River of Life Proactive Mental Wellness Program Cobblestone at Park Springs offers personalized Assisted Living households for general assistance needs, mild memory care, or more challenging physical needs. All of these households practice the Household Model of Care ™, creating an environment of warmth and family between the community of Members and Care Partners. Our memory care program uses research-based methods that are shown to improve and maintain cognitive ability. Members flourish through the prolonging of independence that comes with our care programs. Learn More at ParkSprings.com A Life Plan Community Independent Living | Assisted Living Memory Care | Skilled Nursing COBBLESTONE AT PARK SPRINGS Asdi&ted Living 678-684-3800 STONE MOUNTAIN, GA PARKSPRINGS.COM DECEMBER 2019 ATLANTASENIORLIFE.COM MAKING A DIFFERENCE COMMON SENSE COLLABORATION OLLI instructor Fred Glassman offers legal mediation class By Mark Woolsey Fred Glassman has had a profound conversion. Not of the religious variety, but more that of a both legal and humanistic nature. His new belief: contentious showdowns should be replaced by collaboration and head-butting should give way to “two heads are better than one.” The 79-year-old Georgia resident emerged from UCLA law school to craft a high-profile legal career in Los Angeles based on the more traditional “I win-you-lose” approach of the profession, founding his own firm and handling sports and entertainment, then family law. Glassman said his common-sense Midwestern roots (shaped by his childhood in small-town Iowa) served him well as he handled divorce cases for such luminaries as boxer Muhammed Ali and author Harold Robbins. Glassman recalled that his very first split-up battle involved NBA basketball great Elgin Baylor. Glassman said he had done some legal work for Baylor in the restaurant business then “one day he called me up and said, ‘my wife filed for divorce and I want you to represent me’. I said, ‘I’ve never done a divorce’ and he said, ‘just ask your colleagues what you need to know.’” Glassman said he did about 2,500 divorces in total, for many years utilizing the then-standard legal framework. “I did litigation because that was the only way people could get a divorce,” he said. “That was before mediation and collaborative law.” Not all cases were knock-down drag-outs. He recalls handling Ali’s divorce from wife Veronica in the mid-1980s. “He was very considerate about his wife Veronica’s well-being and that of the children. I never knew that someone with all that fame and glory could be so down to earth,” Glassman said. Still, the frequently adversarial nature of the proceedings caused consternation. “It always bothered me because I’d come home after being in court and my wife would ask me how I did, and I had a hard time answering the question. I’d think, ‘Did I extract more support from some spouse than what was deserving or made sense? Or did I get somebody to pay less (than was proper or deserving)?’ “I thought there must be a better way.” Turns out there was. The concept of mediation emerged, with a neutral person representing both parties. Glassman saw that some cases were ripe for mediation and he tried to get his clients to travel that route whenever appropriate. Then along came collaborative law. It’s a legal framework in which both parties in a dispute hire attorneys, but the lawyers formally agree not to go to court. As Glassman explained it: “That changes the dynamics of the negotiations. If an attorney can’t take a case to court, they’re forced to sit down and work out a settlement.” The back-and-forth becomes interest- based instead of positional and adversarial.” He added that if an attorney knows that whatever is said or what documents are prepared won’t wind up in some adversarial forum “you have more incentive to let it flow and you’re not afraid it will come back to bite you.” The process pays dividends, he said, so much so that it’s now enshrined in a uniform statute in 19 states. Georgia is not one. But he hastened to add that Georgia has a collaborative law association and that it can still be practiced here if the parties ink a private agreement. The framework avoids the uncertainties of a court proceeding but does call upon the kind of folks that might otherwise be courtroom witnesses. A financial expert might be brought in to discuss cash flow A mental health professional might work as a communications coordinator. A child development specialist can render assistance as the needs any O FACEBOOK.COM/ATLANTASENIORLIFE
