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[For The Suddt Sooth.]
A MOTHER'S PRAYER,
{Dedicat'd to Mrs. . of St Louis.)
Father! in the battle-fray,
Shelter his dear bead. I pray!
Nerve hie young arm with the might
Of Justice, Liberty and Right.
Where the red hail deadliest falls,—
Where stern duty loudly calls,—
Where the strife is tierce and wild,—
Father! guard, oh! guard my child!
Where the foe rush swift and strong,
Madly striving for the wrong,—
Where the clashing arms men wield
Ring above the battle-field,—
Where the stifling air is hot
With bursting shell and whistling shot,—
Father! to my boy's brave breast
Let no treacherous blade be pressed!
Father! if my woman’s heart—
Frail and weak in every part—
Wanders from Thy mercy’s seat
After those dear roving tee\,
Let Thy tender, pitying grace
Every selfish thought erase;
If this mother-love be wrong,
Pardon, bless and make me strong.
For when silent shades of night
Shut the bright world from my sight,—
When around the cheerful fire
Gather brothers, sisters, sire,—
There I miss my boy’s bright face
From his old familiar place,
And my sad heart wanders back
To tented field and bivouac.
Often in my troubled sleep,
Waking, wearily ta weep,—
Often dreaming he is near,
Calming every anxious fear,—
Often startled by the flash
Of hostile swords that meet and clash,
Till the cannon’s smoke and roar
Hide him from my eyes once more !
Thus I dream and hope aud pray
All the weary hours away;
But I know' his cause is just,
And I centre all my trust
In Thy promise—“As thy day
So shall thy strength be ” alway!
Y’et I need Thy guidance still,—
Father! let me do Thy will!
If new sorrow* should befall,—
If niy noble boy should fall,—
If the bright head I have blessed
On the cold earth finds its rest,—
Still, with all the mother-heart
Torn aud quivering with the smart,
/ yield him, ’m ath Thy chastening rod,
To his country and his God l
[For The Sunny South.]
Empty Cradles—Short Graves.
WHY ARE (It R PEOPLE UNHEALTHY t
BY JNO. STA1NBACK WILSON, M.D.
The history of nations and the teachings of
philosophy sustain the idea that intermarriages
of the same race, but of different nations, give
rise to a more vigorons offspring and are more
prolific than other marriages. This being true,
the people of the United States of America should
become the greatest on earth, both in physical
and intellectual development.
Here we have the heantiful and intellectual
Caucassian race, in which the sturdy Anglo-Saxon
is the dominant and all-pervading element. On
this vigorons parent stock we have engrafted
every shade and variety of the white race, which
has always shown itself superior to all other races
of men, not only in mental power, but also in
physical endurance, where its inherent native
strength has not been paralyzed by the enervat
ing refinements of civilized life. And notwith
standing a thousand health-destroying influ
ences unknown in the savage life of the dark-
colored races, the Caucassian race, though more
diseased than any other, shows wonderful resist
ance and tenacity of life.
This is doubly due to a more perfect physical
organization, which gives strength and endurance
to the internal machinery of the organism, just in
the same way that this superior physical organi
zation gives greater external beauty*to the people
of this race.
Now, with such elements of health as these;
with such a broad and solid basis for physical
perfection as this; with the constant infusion of
new elements refreshing and purifying the stream
of life and checking the transmission of that most
fatal class of diseases known as hereditary; with
a people among whom “ marriage is honorable in
all,"and the conjugal union, so essential to health
and happiness, is protected by the strongest sanc
tion of law, social, human and divine; with a cli
mate free alike from the dwarfing and depressing
effects of extreme heat or cold; with a government
which leaves our men free from military con
scription, and at liberty to enjoy the peaceful
and healthful pursuits of home-life; with a land
of overflowing abundance, where every one may,
without exhausting toil, provide an ample sup
ply of the necessaries and even the luxuries of
life for himself, for his wife, and for as many
children as he may reasonably expect; with all
these advantages and more, which I will not at
tempt to enumerate, why should not the people
of onr country he the most healthy in the world ?
And yet they are far from being healthy. This
being admitted, let us briefly consider some of
the causes of this ill health.
To begin at the beginning, the prime, the prin
cipal difficulty is the want of robust health among
our children, and especially our girls. American
girls are beautiful, so far as beauty can exist in
the absence of perfect health. But this beauly
is of the fragile, fading kind, taking its tints
more from the lily than the rose, foreshadowing
consumption, scrofula and amentia, and fading
before the stern experiences of womanhood like
morning glories under the heat of a summer
sun. Europeans are struck with the beauty
of onr girls, and equally impressed with their
feebleness. Lady AmLerly, visiting the public
schools cf Boston, exclaimed: “I never saw
before so many pretty girls together;" and then
added, “They all look sick." And how could
they look otherwise when the mind was forced
like a hot-honse plant at the expense of the
body, and when these frail and beautiful crea
tures were composed of hot soda-biscuits, strong
tea and coffee, sweet-meats, etc.
One-half the children of both sexes horn in
this country die in infancy for want of proper
knowledge on the part of mothers as to the way
in which children should be reared. Most moth
ers know no more about sterpiculture or the
great art of raising children than they do of the
Hebrew language. They either know positively
nothing, or worse than nothing: their knowledge
consists of absurd nursery traditions, which, in
most instances, are unfounded superstitions.
For want of this kind of information, infants are
fed on meat and coarse food before nature indi
cates her readiness for such food by the appear-
THE TROUBLE WITH SOUTHERN FOWLS.
Boy.—“What's all dal staffin' you got dar under yer coat, Ink George?"
Uncle Geokge.—“Go long 'bout yer own bizness, yer Impudent nigger you.’"
Boy.—“Yes, dat's de reason ole missus can’t raise no turkeys."
Uncle Geokge.—“Looker here, boy, I sqush de life outen you,—fore God 1 will!
Boy.—“Yes, yer done squshed it outen dat ole gobbler."
ANSWERS TO CORRESPONDENTS.
A Word to Correspondents.—Your questions
must he short to receive attention. We give plaee
this week to some which are entirely too long,
and after seeing how innch they make in type,
we regret having admitted them. A large, num
ber are therefore crowded out and left over for
the next paper. State your case in as concise a
manner as possible, and leave room on the sheet
for onr reply, as we answer all questions on the
same sheet, for convenience, and thus hand them
to the printer.
Lottie, Dawson, Georgia: “I take the liberty
of asking you a question, which I wish you to
answer in The Sunny South. It is this. Where
was Byron horn ?” . . . He was born in Holies
street. London, on the twentv-seeond of Janu
ary, 1788.
Stella and May, Tuskegee, Alabama, ask: “Is
it proper for a young lady to sit on the colonade
with a young gentleman, after coming from
church, provided he refuses to go in the par
lor?” ... If you mean at night, it certainly
is improper, and the young man should bid you
good evening at the door unless he is willing to
go into the parlor. Female character is like
snow—easily blemished—and girls should never
allow themselves to be placed nnder circum
stances that might give rise to a whisper of
scandal.
D., Orangeburg, S. C., asks: “Is it proper for
a young lady who is engaged to go to ride with
another young gent?” . . . Certainly. Hope
you would not begin to restrict the poor thing’s
liberties before marriage. This is a bad showing
for a prospective husband, and we are even now |
Wynona and Rosa, Jefferson. Ga.: We have
been nnable to find space to rt-ply to your ques
tions. It would require a column to say what
we would like to say on that moon question.
But to answer the whole thing in a few words,
we tell yon it is all miserable superstition and
nothing more. Your teacher, no doubt, knew
better, and put the questions to you in jest.
R. M. D., Tuskegee. Alabama, says: “There
has been a debate between a young gent and my
self as to whether a young man that will steal
for his employer will or will not steal for himself.
I took the affirmative side (lie will), and I need
vonr assistance to convince him that I am cor
rect. Please inform me through your column of
‘Answers to Correspondents’ which of the two
you agree with.” ... It requires no argument
to prove that a boy or man who will steal at all
would not stand long upon the question whom
he should steal for. The only point to settle is
whether he would steal at all. When that is de
cided. the other points amount to nothing.
H. G. A.. South Carolina, says: “I am in my
nineteenth year, and am deeply in love with a
beautiful young lady of about seventeen, with
whom I got acquainted several months ago in a
neighboring town, and have been corresponding
with her ever since. A short time ago I pro
posed to her. She would not accept nor did she
entirely refuse me; but after a second pleading,
she promised to be a friend and carry on a
friendly correspondence, but nothing* more.
Now. could I consider this as any encourage
ment, and would I be justifiable in asking her
to exchange photographs with me.” . . . It is
certainly much encouragement. Remember that
faint heart never won fair lady. Never despair.
Show her the character of your mind and depth
of your affection in your letters. But let the
photograph question alone for the present.
Alabama” says: “ I am asked by a friend for
The dress of children is no less a cause of in
fant mortality than the diet. Mothers, for want
of knowledge of the plain principles of physi
ology, or in criminal obedience to the demands
of fashion, leave the necks, arms and legs of their
children, the parts which most need covering,
bare, thus driving hack the blood upon the in
ternal organs and causing diarrhoea, bronchitis,
cholera infantum, and all the long train of infan
tile diseases which make so many empty cradles
and disconsolate mothers, and which, with a
mistaken pity tLat is in truth a sacrilegious im
putation on the great Creator, are attributed to a
mysterious dispensation of Providence.
morals from what nature designed them to be;
and hence, instead of th6 free and easy romping,
rosy-cheeked, bright-eyed, natural, healthy girls
of the olden time, we have a race of pale-faced,
crooked-backed, small-waisted. affected, sickly
“ little women.” who are a caricature on child
hood, and would he on womanhood, if their coun
terparts could not be seen in an exaggerated
degree in the real woman— the wives and moth
ers of onr land. This dominant idea of making
women of girls guides and shapes her whole ed
ucation at home and at school; the only differ
ence being>hat it is more rigidly inculcated and
enforced when she is sent to school, and espe-
sorry lor the poor bird which you propose to advice how to act in the following case; Oer
cage. Come, now, when you get her, don’t cut twentv vears ago he took a little penniless or-
ofl all her privileges and make her feel like she p han girl, then some ten years old, into his fam-
is in prison. Husbands are generally too tvran- ily, gave her a good literary and musical educa-
meal, anti a jealous one is a perfect despot. tion, did for her as if she was his child; in fact,
A reader, Nashville, writes: “There is a fern- has P etted 1111,1 loved her more than most parents
love their daughters. Lately, a person has
sought her hand in marriage, who is not her
ilv living near here,—two sisters and one grass
widow. They were teaching a class in the peni
tentiary, but were made to stop it on account of e fl U!l1 ! ) ntl ls objectionable in many respects; be-
making love to some of the convicts; and they sldes ’ ls some years her junior in age. Her pro-
go to see them every Sunday. Don’t you think j letdor has given her his reasons why she ought
it a great disgrace to the three ?’’ . . . Perhaps
the three women are no better than the convicts.
Doubtless it would be the best thing for them if
regular employment should be given them inside
the walls. Y r ou know birds of a feather will
fiock together.
A subscriber, Smithville, says: “There is a
not to many this person, still she persists in
her intentions to marry him. Is she not un
grateful ? Because she is of age and has power
to act for herself, do you think she ought to dis
regard his wishes? As to money, he can and
will make her independent should she remain
single or marry to suit him. Do you think an
honorable man would marry this young lady in
Our children suffer also for the want of pure ! cially if sent to a “ boarding school for young
air and bright sunshine. They are kept too ladies.” Here her education is finished; and
much in close and over-heated rooms, with too
much covering on their bodies while sleeping.
I say on their bodies because, while these gener
ally have too much covering, the extremities are
often either not sufficiently protected when the
generally about this time her health is also Jin-
ished by the unnatural and health-destroying
restraints to which she has been subjected,* and
she steps out on the great theatre of life “as
little fitted for encountering the toils or fulfill-
fair and intelligent young lady ol sixteen sum- j opposition to her protector? Would a gentleman
mers to whom I have recently become attached. | do it? Please give me your opinion in the next
She loves another, who lam sure does not care | number of your valuable paper.” . . . Under
anything for her, but keeps her in suspense. I the circumstances, we think she should by all
love her dearly, but she will not accept the offer j means consult the wishes of her guardian and
of my hand. What must be done on my part to
obtain the young lady’s confidence and to gain
her affections ?” ... Be faithful and constant
still. She will soon find out the deception of
the false jularker, and then her heart will all be
child is put to sleep, or the exposure occurs by ing the duties of life, as are the plants of a hot- y 0urs , and she will love you all the harder he-
‘ kicking oft the cover at night - something by house for being transferred to the open borders.” Clinse of yonr constancy and the deception of the
no means uncommon among children. And as I No wonder, then, that woman is physically unfit other
wish not only to point out errors, hut also the
means of rectifying them, I may stop my fault
finding long enough to say that all this trouble
can be avoided by having drawers of cotton or
flannel, according to the season, and long enough
to go well over the hands and feet and to fasten
below them. As to the air and sunshine, the
remedy is obvious.
When the child is in-doors the room should he
well ventilated for the sake of the mother as well
as the child. All that is necessary' is to avoid a
physically
for her duties as woman. No wonder that she
fades in beauty, pines in disease, and sinks to an
early grace, leaving a legacy of inherited weak
ness to her descendants. For how can the stream
be pure when the fountain is corrupt? How
can womea thus falsely educated be the mothers
of a healthy people?
Having now noticed somewhat in detail the
principal cause of the fading beauty and the ill
health of the American people, I can find space
for only a general reference -to the remedy for
current of air between doors or windows, and this state of things. This is to be sought in
doing this, there is no danger in the free admis- the pli)fjiiii education of our girls and women,
sion of air into any room by day and by night. I But*little, progress can he made in this direction
Dr. Hall never made a truer remark than when
he said, “ More people die of air-tight rooms
than unchincked log cabins.” It is well known
that those who camp out or live in log cabins
are the most healthy. But children are not only
deprived of fresh air and sunshine in-doors, hut
even when they are sent out, they are either
muffled up under a shawl in the nurse’s arms,
or they are laid hack in a carriage with the face
covered so as to prevent the free access of air
and sunlight, nature’s great restoratives and
health preservers.
Another frequent cause of the numerous short
graves to he seen in every cemetery is to he
found in the drugging to which children are
subjected. They are drugged by doctors, moth
ers and nurses on all occasions, for all diseases,
real and imaginary; and this drugging is not con
fined to catnip or calamus teas and other nursery
simples, hut it often includes the strongest and
most dangerous drugs, such as tartar emetic, lo
belia, calomel, opium, belladonna, etc.; and
many mothers, not content with the doses given
by the doctors in cases of real sickness, give
“spring physic” in the form of vermifuges and
drastic purges to word oft' imaginary diseases:
and, worse still, a little diarrhoea, colic, or rest
lessness on the part of a child, from any cause,
is treated by mothers with paregoric, laudanum,
Godfrey’s cordial, or some soothing syrup con
taining opium, and thus are thousands of chil
dren hurried to the grave, or afflicted with a
chronic invalidism which incapacitates them for
all the duties of life should they have sufficient
vital power to resist the murderous onslaught of
mothers, nurses and doctors—for he it known
that soothing syrups and other preparations of
opium are oiten Ielt in the reach of nurses, and
that they do not fail to secure their own rest for
the time being by the use of a drug which puts
many children to rest for all time.
Again, American children of the “higher class”
are over-nursed as well as over-fed and over
drugged. They are kept smothered up in a
close cradle or the nurse’s arms, thus interfering
with those free muscular movements which are
as necessary to the health and vigorons growth
of a child as food and pure air. Children thrive
best who are allowed to sprawl on a home pallet
on the floor, or a large crib or bed where they can
roll over and bring all their muscles into action
without the slightest restraints. This is doubt
less one great reason why the children of poor
people, with all the disadvantages under which
they labor, are generally more healthy than
the children of their more wealthy neighbors.
This much for children in general, including
hoys and girls. But the great trouble is with
our girls. These suffer not only in infancy from
the causes mentioned, but sLould they have suf- .
ficient vitality to survive the health-destroying
influences to which they are subjected in the
beginning of life, they enter on childhood with
feeble and shattered frames to encounter even
still greater trials. And should they escape
these, in what a pitiable plight are they for the
stern duties and responsibilities of maternity !
As soon as the unfortunate little feminine
emerges from the nursery-room, no time is lost
in impressing her mind with the great idea that
is to govern her whole after life: that she is not
a boy, and not evtn a child, hut “a little woman:”
that she must be prim, demure and careful in all
her movements “like mamma." If she runs,
romps, kicks up her heels, soils her clothes,
rumples her dress, or follows any of the prompt
ings of her childhood nature, she has brought dis
grace on her embryo womanhood, and is shamed
into unnatural womanly habits by calling her a
tom-hoy. The result is that a very large propor
tion of the girls in the higher and middle walks
of society— in that class, to which we must look
without an entire revolution in the prevailing
ideas as to the true character and mission of
woman. She must be no longer regarded as a
tender exotic, as a mere toy to amuse the idle
hours of man, hut as a help-meet: which she cer
tainly cannot he when she is a helpless, ever-
complaining invalid and constant tax on the
time, patience and pocket of her husband. This
is an error that needs correction more among
men than among women. But women them
selves must learn that their own health and the
health of the whole human family is to he found
in obedience to the laws of health—in correct eating,
drinking, sleeping, breathing, clothing, exercise;
and the proper regulation of the passions, and
not in drugging and health-destroying customs
and fashions of the day. Physiology and hygiene
should form apart of common school education;
and girls should be taught the laws of health at
the mother's knees as a part of their education
and one no less important than chastity, mod
esty, or any other moral excellence.
But, how shall mothers imbued with the pre
vailing^ false notions as to the causes, cure and
prevention of disease, who have never learned
even the rudiments of health themselves, teach
their daughters ?
This can be done only by reading such works
as teach the true science of health—not medical
works, but hygienic, such as the Science of Health,
an excellent monthly by S. R. Wells, and the
other publications of the same house. These
and other works of that kind, if heeded, will do
more for the health of our women and girls, and
for the health of our people generally, than all
the drugs and doctors in the country, teaching,
as they do, how to live so as to preserve health,
instead of liow to take drugs and get sick.
Some of the teachings of these works may be
somewhat ultra, hut even the ultraism as to meat
eating and the exclusion of all drugs “leans to
virtue’s side,” and are harmless, when compared
with the excessive druggings so much in vogue
among physicians and people. For it would he
far better to use no drugs at all than to have
them abused as they are. It would he better to
use no meat than to have half or more of our
the
other.
Linda, Polly, Frances and Sally, Madison,
Georgia, ask: “Will you please tell us if you
think it improper to pin flowers on a gentle
man’s coat? Also, do you think it wrong to
throw kisses to our ‘hoy friends?’ By answering
these questions, you will greatly oblige four wild
girls." . . . Both are very improper for even
“wild girls.” Neither Linda, Polly, Sally nor
Frances should ever be guilty of either, unless
the gentleman be a brother or near relative.
“Four wild girls” must be particular, or their
favors and kisses will cease to be appreciated by
the young men. They are queer fellows—these
b’hoys.
protector in all things. He has done a noble
part by her, and as he is still able and willing
to protect and support her, she will one day re
gret it if she now takes so serious a step contrary
to his judgment. Men are better judges of men
than women. If he has been kind in his treat
ment of her, she is certainly at great fault in
wishing to leave him and unite her destinies
with one who is unworthy of her. Let her
think twice before she leaps.
Jeannie Dean and Maud Clyde, Houston, Ga.,
say: “We both write to know if you will be so
kind as to recommend ns to some good, useful
gentlemen, as young ladies in quest of husbands.
We have both been in company a great deal, hut
no gentleman has yet fancied our strange style
of beauty. That you may form an idea how we
look, we will take the liberty of describing our
selves to yon. My friend has very light sandy
hair, large, black eyes, and a very pretty, sharp
Roman nose, and a lovely size,—only about six
feet high, and weighing what any sweet little
Annie Johnson, New Orleans, says: “I love a angel would, about one hundred and seventy-five
-’• L - —’ ’ pounds; but she is most too small,—that is the
only objection the young men down here have to
her. As to myself, I cannot say that the descrip
tion of my looks will be very flattering; hut
young men these days want domestic wives, so I
am the one to suit them. Not praising myself at
all, I think I am the best cook and housekeeper
about here. I can make those big fat biscuits, so
that when yon look at them, yon would almost
fight for some. But excuse me if I am verging
on to egotism,” etc. . . . We will tak^great
pleasure in recommending you both to the very
next squad of Modocs or Comanches that comes
along. Any one who wears sandy hair should
have a Modoc husband to keep her scalped reg-
yonng man in this city, and he drinks like a
fish. I am engaged to get married to him, and
I want to know how to stop him from drinking.
Do you think it would be better for me to break
off the engagement, as plenty of young men are
after me? But I love him with all my heart,
and if I do not marry him I think I will be an
old maid. What do you think is the best ? Let
me know in your next paper.” . . . Never
marry a man who drinks. Better be an old
maid or an old anything else. No one so miser
able and poor as the drunkard’s wife. When
the habit is once formed, it hinds like hooks of
steel. If he drinks like a fish now, he will
drink like a whale when he gets older.
r . ... , „ TT ..... ularly. But you have allowed your friend to eat
Charles W illlam, Accomac C H. \ irginia: too £ of .? those bi fat The little
“I am in love with a young lady who I have delicate thing is killing herself. No wonder that
reasons to believe loves me equally as well. In
fact, she tells me she loves me with the strength
; thing is killing herself,
no one has fancied her for a wife.
It would re-
rVT ,U Y I,C VTr T " lui r e Slren g tu I quire too much flour to fill her up. But as you
ot her whole soul, and I feel sure she is true to ?an cook , wash an(] njake good biscuits, we are a
what she professes; but still I have a good-looking little snrnns , ( , tbftt no n „” baB ,. flnH ,red „„
and icealthy rival, whose attentions she receives
with as much gladness as she does mine; and
although she loves me so dearly, she will not as
yet consent to unite her destinies with mine.
What must I do ? I can love none other save this
one, and am anxious to marry at once. Tell me,
for pity’s sake, or I perish. ”... She is sim
ply testing you? If she is true, as you say, to
what she professes, you are all right and she is
all right. She cannot he guilty of deception and
duplicity. She is too pure and good.
Vallie, Madison, Georgia: “What is the ori
gin of ‘Barkis is willing’? What is the correct
little surprised that no one has captured you yet.
You must be cross-eyed and red-headed, or per
haps those “big, fat biscuits ” have enlarged you
to four hundred pounds or more. Send some of
them np this way; we have a lean, hungry look,
and an excellent voice for good biscuits.
A subscriber, Quitman, says: “I am in love
with a young lady who is engaged. When I
first met her I felt towards her as I had never
felt toward any young lady before. As our ac
quaintance increased, my love also grew stronger.
After I had studied her disposition and satisfied
myself that she would do, I told her how much
I loved her. She did not doubt, but gave me
wish him to address her ; how should she act in
order to prevent this, and yet retain his friend
ship?” . . . “Barkis is willin’” is one of
Dickens’ expressions; one of his characters in
“David Copperfield ” is made to use it. It would
be difficult to pronounce “cy-clone” wrong.
The most effectual way to kill off a fellow when
peopje afflicted with scrofula, abominable skin you can't encourage his propositions, hut dis-
diseases, fevers and tape-worms, as the result of like to tell him so, is simply to pass it oft' as
earing swine s flesh. jest. Treat the matter lightly, and make l.i>n . Things, of whicTi was V^tl 7 innocent
'Wlnle vegetarianism may not be the best sys- think yon do not believe linn m earnest He In a b few da ys she returned several* little tricks
doing wrong
tinue. She assured me that she loved me, and
said that she cared nothing for the other.
Weeks passed away and nothing more was said
of it. In the meantime, another young man had
been paying her attention, but found that I was
too far ahead of him. He then sought to destroy
our friendship, which he finally succeeded in
doing. He told her that I had spoken very un
kindly of her, and told a great many other
tern for all. it is a well-established fact that vege
tarians live long and enjoy good health without
meat And while drugs do not always kill out
right, and many even give relief in some cases,
there can be but little doubt but that the world
would be better off without them; that they are
palliatives and not curatives, and that the true
secret of preventing and curing disease is to be
found in obedience to the laws of health and
the use of the hygienic agents — embracing bath
ing. rest, and wholesome food, exercise, pure air
and the proper regulation of the passions; or,
in other words, that nature cures our diseases in
all cases, and all the aid she needs is to surround
the patient with suitable health conditions and to
give her fair play.
onlhebrakeT” 6 dis « Usted ut himself and P at j of mine that she had been keeping, and wrote
President Porter, of Yale College, recently
gave the following laconic advice to the students
in the course of nn extended address: “Don’t
drink, don’t chew, don't smoke, don’t swear,
don't deceive, don't read novels, don’t marry
until you can support a wife; he earnest, be self-
reliant. he generous, be civil; read the papers;
advertise your business; make money and do
good with it: love God and vonr fellow-men.”
Brown Hair addresses The Sunny South thus:
“I have short, curly, brown hair. Some people
think it remarkably pretty. I want it to be
golden. Will you be kind* enough to ascertain
for me if there is any ‘stick pomade’ of that
color (golden not red) in Atlanta? I have a
friend who uses the black pomade, and it gives
her hair a lovely gloss. You have been so kind
heretofore to all yonr correspondents (girls es
pecially) that I feel almost sure you will not
throw my letter in yonr ‘trash-basket.’ If yon
do, I’ll just ‘pay you back in your own coin.’
. I will quit trying to get my friends to subscribe
for you. You see I have a slight tinge of spite
fulness in my nature, and all the boys think I
am a very independent little creature (for I am
little in height). I have a ‘heap’ of questions I
want to ask you, but will wait until another
time. I am getting so impatient for yon to be
published every week. Tell Mr. Seals to ‘ hurry
up the cakes,’ and let me have you every week.”
Now, my dear “Brown Hair,” I have too little
fancy for red or golden color to assist you in
me a very kind note, but made no explana-
nation why she returned them. After that, she
refused to see me. I tried to find out what the
trouble was. I wrote her two or three notes, but
she gave me no satisfaction. She soon returned
home, and a month passed away. I never heard
anything of her. A short time since, I learned
that this young man, who had always pretended
to be my friend, was the cause of all this trouble.
Now, what I want to know is, do you think that
I ought to try to make up this difficulty when I
see her, which will be very soon, or not? I
still love her as devotedly as ever. Her engage
ment with the other young man still exists.
Please answer in the next issue, as I am anxious
to he advised as to how I should act.” ... If
yon still love her. as you say, you will find the-
inclination to reconcile matters very irresistible
when you see her again. “The heart that has-
truly loved,” etc.; you know the balance. But
it seems that she was not to blame. The ubiqui
tous “middle man ” had his fingers in yonr love
tart, as he does in everything. But when mat
ters are reconciled, the result will be, as is
changing your pretty locks to either of *them, always the case where third parties interfere in
and must therefore decline to inquire for the j love affaire, that this poor fellow will receive the
Don’t like to see a young lady’s head
combined and concentrated maledictions of both
At a recent wedding in Ohio, the minister was pomade. _ a .
about to salute the bride, when she stayed him looking like a dead pine-top nor a gorgeous sun- parties. But what your “ sweetly smiling ” is to
with, “No, Mister, I give up them vanities now.” * ~
ance of the teeth: or what is quite as bad, they | mainly for the physical, moral, and intellectual
stuffed with fine flour, arrow root, and other ^ improvement of therace—are stinted and dwarfed
tarehy, constipating articles of diet. j in body and perverted in mind, manners and
Mrs. Oates, our charming American bouffer,
has quarreled with Tracy Titus, her husband,
and has become wild Oates once again.
set. Deliver us from red or golden heads. They do with her engagement number one, is the
remind us too forcibly of storms, tornadoes and question for you to consider. Think she will do
cyclones. Yet we have seen some red-headed to watch. She may be something of an aceom-
irls pure and sweet enough in disposition to be plished flirt, and you had better keep a sharp
called angels in calico.
look-out.