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4B Midweek Edition - June 17-18, 2020 The Times, Gainesville, Georgia | gainesvilletimes.com ENTERTAINMENT WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY ACROSS 1 Pie shell 6 Mound 10 Estate recipient 14 Nouveau — 15 Augments 16 TV’s Hawkeye 17 Comedian Steve — 18 In a wanton manner 20 Den dwellers 21 Geol. formations 22 Stage productions 23 Soft drink brand 25 Notch’s shape 26 Comstock Lode state 29 Intermittently (3 wds.) 34 Orchidlike flower 35 Threat 37 Passing grade 38 Yellow vehicle 39 Masseuse employer 40 Duffer’s goal 41 Rye partner 42 Language suffix 43 Wane 45 Benchmark 46 Motorist’s stop (2 wds.) 48 Trouser feature 50 ER personnel 51 Basketball shot 53 Fly the shuttle 56 Seed vessel 57 Wait in line 61 Turbulent situation 63 More certain 64 “— do for now” 65 “I came,” to Caesar 66 Freshman course word PREVIOUS PUZZLE SOLVED 6-17-20 © 2020 UFS, Dist. by Andrews McMeel for UFS 67 Afternoon socials 68 Off. helper 69 Fable writer DOWN 1 Find fault 2 Exasperate 3 West Coast campus, briefly 4 Himalayan guides 5 Stiffened 6 Injures 7 Version 8 Fusses 9 Calif, hours 10 Towed 11 Lohengrin’s bride 12 Lazily 13 Sunbeams 19 Kitchen tool 24 Mollycoddles 25 Motel sign 26 More pleasant 27 Wipe out data 28 Intuitions 30 Where hackles rise 31 Nobel biochemist Severn — 32 Dreads 33 Cherchez la —! 36 Soften 39 Leans 44 Taverns 45 Far-out planet 47 Quavering sounds 49 Chagall’s homeland 52 Own up to 53 Fail to include 54 Tempo 55 Composer — Bartok 56 Corporate VIP 58 Diploma word 59 “Quo Vadis?” role 60 Let fall 62 Water-power org. Answers on next page 5)2020 UFS, Dist. by Andrews McMeel for UFS ACROSS 1 Flight of steps 6 Suggestions 11 Pooh- — 14 Employee’s request 15 Trip itinerary 16 Malt beverage 17 Major artery 18 Human eaters 19 Veto 20 Feel 22 Slight amount 24 Clears, as a drain 28 Skinned 29 Fit in with 30 Electronic device invented in 1904 32 Columbus’ home 33 Pie serving 35 “Lost Horizon” role 39 Sofa ends 40 — been robbed! 41 Poetic twilights 42 TV set 43 Beauty’s swain 45 Ancient Briton 46 Parts of speech 48 Main course 50 Too much 53 Expert in demolition 54 Shows the way 55 Files and chisels 57 Goof it up 58 Border state 60 Made logs 65 Dec. neighbor 66 Molds 67 Ignited 68 Brutally dismiss 69 Winemaker’s need 70 Absolute DOWN 1 Tijuana “Mrs.” 2 “—TeChing” 3 Tire filler 4 Devotee’s suffix 5 Figure out 6 Certain group of golf clubs 7 Eggy drinks 8 Righteous 9 Navajo foe 10 Tried out 11 Hackneyed 12 Mrs. Kramden 13 Put the whammy on 21 Souffle ingredients 23 Keeps in office 24 Lusitania sinker (hyph.) 25 Kind of jacket 26 Go up 27 Untied 28 “Annabel Lee” poet 30 Prima donnas 31 Sorbets 34 Legal claim 36 Circumvent 37 Confused fight 38 Rayed flower 43 Commuter vehicle 44 Not keep a secret 47 Harden 49 Bahamas’capital 50 Ms. Verdugo 51 Office copier 52 Whittle 53 Aid by speaking well of 55 Rhett’s hangout 56 Electrical units 59 Woodland creature 61 Fore opposite 62 Life of the party 63 Sooner than anon 64 “The,” to Fritz Answers on next page 5)2020 UFS, Dist. by Andrews McMeel for UFS ACROSS 1 Tall vases 5 , so good! 10 Mumble 14 Hang on to 15 Wet lowland 16 Rabbit kin 17 Auction site 18 Moxie 19 Iridescent stone 20 Rani’s garments 22 Use incorrectly 24 Shade of green 27 Tailed amphibian 28 Circulating 32 Comes ashore 36 Golf coup 37 Regularly 39 America’s Cup entrant 40 Raid the fridge 42 Male voice 44 Fruit or bird 45 Chip maker 47 Scuttlebutt 49 Jiffy 50 Prospector’s test 51 Fiercely 53 Mine car 56 —vu 57 Pestered 61 Orderly grouping 65 Qatar ruler 66 Conform 69 Trademark 70 Prefix for billionth 71 Nobleman 72 Ms. Dinesen 73 Make a sketch 74 Dozed off 75 Diligence DOWN 1 Hawaiian guitars, for short 2 Ms. McEntire 3 Within reach 4 007’s forte 5 Tax-form ID 6 Feel grateful 7 Grow crops 8 Sergeant—York 9 Ebbets Field great 10 Chat about the job 11 Reindeer herder 12 River in Asia 13 Feel sure of 21 Rural tower 23 Hole-making tools 25 Raise 26 Put in a log 28 Fixation 29 Screen images 30 Robins’ abodes 31 Canis, for dogs 33 Chaotic sound 34 Wooden rod 35 Like gingersnaps 38 Herd follower 41 London airport 43 Wander 46 Homer’s instrument 48 Rani’s spouse 52 Pesto seasoning 54 Swift horses 55 Citation 57 Make crooked 58 Epps or Sharif 59 “I, —” (rock autobiography) 60 Be brave enough 62 Diva — Ponselle 63 Seaweed derivative 64 Dress part 67 Kind of quiz 68 Amatol ingredient 1 2 3 5 6 7 8 • 11 12 13 14 15 17 18 „ 20 22 23 24 25 26 ■ 28 29 30 3^^H 32 33 34 35 36 ■ 1 39 40 41 ■ 42 43 ■ 44 45 46 1 1 48 ■ 49 50 ■ 1 52 53 54 55 ■ 56 57 58 59 60 1 62 63 64 65 1 66 67 68 69 70 73 " " Unscramble these Jumbles, one letter to each square, j to form four ordinary words. | BAITI Z”X Li Z Z"S. 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Answer here: TTYTTYTT X SUDOKU DIFFICULTY RATING: ★★☆☆☆ 8 5 7 1 3 4 8 5 9 4 6 7 2 8 3 5 1 6 7 1 8 9 5 9 3 4 9 8 2 4 9 6/17 © 2020 Dist. by Andrews McMccl Syndication for UFS DIFFICULTY RATING: 5 4 2 6 7 5 8 1 2 6 7 7 1 9 4 5 8 2 6 8 2 1 6 4 4 3 8 4 9 2 3 6/18 © 2020 Dist. by Andrews McMccl Syndication for UFS DIFFICULTY RATING: ★★★★☆ 8 1 9 3 2 4 1 7 2 9 8 6 4 9 2 7 1 8 6 2 6 5 4 7 1 3 1 3 6 6/19 © 2020 Dist. by Andrews McMccl Syndication for UFS My in-laws don’t consider me a part of the family Dear Carolyn: I have been married for 30 years to a guy whose family does not consider anyone outside the immediate family as family, we — spouses, significant others — are asked to step aside for “fam ily” photos, and these photos are all over his mom’s house remind ing me I am not part of his fam ily. Hubby has recently started a texting group with the “family,” sharing photos, celebrating mile stones, etc., and I am not included. Other than our kids, I do not have my own family. I don’t want to be part of a group that doesn’t want me, but still feel sad. Your thoughts? — Not Family My thoughts are along two lines. The first is sympa thetic. I am sorry your husband’s family hasn’t folded you into its ranks. I am sorry, too, that you don’t have your own tribe to give you this sense of connection. I won’t join you in condemning wholesale the family-only text chain or photograph — I’ve been in a few myself, and excluded from a few, and it seems OK by me to acknowledge occa sionally the pack that grew up together. It is a shared history that warrants its own attention. Again: sometimes. Plus, it’s quite clear this isn’t personal, apply ing generally to all the family’s partners. But I will ache with you that you’re always on the outside. That his mom chooses to display only the immediate-family photos makes a per suasive case — in one fact alone — that she’s ground zero for the toxic exclusion you feel. The other line of my thoughts can be described in two words: Thirty. Years. That span can cover the painful discovery years, the try- everything-to-f ix-it years, the anger years, the giving up point where you realize nothing you do to reposition yourself will get you out of your mother-in-law’s blind spot, and the years after that where you work to build your own kind of family with people who are attentive to you — and still have some years left over at the end. So now I’ve got questions for you that I hope you will ask your self: Why is this wound still so fresh? And what do you think you need to heal it? Don’t make “inclusion” your answer, though. That’s in his family’s control, not yours, and 30 years of letting them hold the reins on your feelings is enough. Maybe try this for an answer instead: kindly, openly appeal ing to your mother-in-law, if you haven’t tried that yet. There’s something else worth your focus, which you merely graze: your husband, who “recently started a texting group with the ‘family.’” Where is he on this? Maybe he shares the fam ily blind spot, or has tried to take up your cause over the decades and since declared it futile? But it seems so simple to ask him to include you in the text group that I hope you did so. Immediately and without fanfare. Within these three points lies a rational strategy: Ask for what you want, kindly and plainly; don’t live and die (emotionally speak ing) on whether you get these things; and invest most of your energy in people who welcome it. They’re your tribe. This strategy is hard emotional work that gets easier with time: Take what you can get, then go get what you need. Chat with Carolyn online at noon each Friday at www. washingtonpost.com. CAROLYN HAX tellme@washpost.com
