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The South-west Georgian. (Oglethorpe, Ga.) 1851-18??, May 22, 1851, Image 1

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@l)c 00 tt 11) * wtot Y'CBjNGpSIOD & ALLEN, ProVietors, VOL. I. ipsa #®®wi[4wiiia?p ®a®3vsj?^.ssi’ IsPMished toery Thursday Morning, in the new Town oj j Oglethorpe, Jtlacon County, Cfl., | CHARLES B. YOUNGBLOOD, Publisher. ROBERT W. ALLEN, TRAVELING AgENT. TERMS—S3 Per fear in advance RATES OF ADVERTISING. One Dollar per square (of U lines or lefsl for tlie first insertion,and Fifty Cents ft- each insertion thereafter. A liberal cl, auction will he made to those who adver tise by the year. ... . , Advertisements not specified as to time, will be pub lished till ordered out and charged accordingly. AU Letters on busings must hr addressed to the Publish er, Post Paid, i-i or.ft- >■> seem* attention. MMMprnr - r The Power of Patience. BY TANARUS, S. ARTHUR. I have a very excellent friend who mar ried some ten years ago, and now has her own cares and troubles in a domestic establishment, consisting of her husband end herself, five children, and two ser> Vants. Like a large majority of those limilarlv"Situated, Mrs. Martinet finds her natural stock of patience altogether in adequate to the demand therefor; and tltat there is an extensive demand, will be at once inferred when 1 mention that lour of her five children are hoys. Id think Mrs. Martinets family b by . nv means perfect, though *he has certainly very flinch improved i, and get> on with far more cointo t to her self and all around than she did. For the improvement at which I have hinted, I take some credit to myself, though lam | by no means certain, that, swre l situated | w, m IH y friend is, l should govern my lam ilu as she governs tiCb. lam that a maiden lady, like’ myself, young or old, it matters not to tell the reader which, can look down trom the quiet regions where she lives, aud see how easy it would he for the wile and mother to reduce all to order in her turbulent hau U’. of ihejifticuliies that beset tile wife ami mmhejf h the incessant, exliaus *■ ling and heaitbJestroying nature of her duties, and h<v tier mind, from these causes, must, mu rally lose its clear see* ing qualities lien most they are needed, and its calmed even temper when its ex ercise is of nst consequence. Too lit tls allowance! am satisfied, is made for the mother,fin, with a shattered nerv ous sy>tem,‘id suffering too often, iron) physical ftftimlion, is ever in the midst of her I'u'lniuily of restless spirits, and compelled, administer to their thousand wants, to glo, guard, protect, govern. ■nd restratheir evil passions, when of ■II things, T|se and quiet of. body and mind lor etla brief season, would be the grea-testlssing she could ask. 1 have srl wife and mother, thus sit uated, bettul into a hasty expi ession, or lose l -9f <pei>k wnjJwpff , ice to achild, ded to be soothed by a J WWSjiPWpollen word; and I have seen her evcU'iniWed ImshaiHl, who knew not feel a pain, or to suffer lrom jrvous prostration, reprove that wife wih a look that called Hie tears to her e\w. Sue was wrong, but he was 1 wrongnvii greater degree. The over tired wif needed her husband’s sustaining patience md gently spoken counsel, not his Cold epi oof. Husttisis, as far as my observation gives the ability to judge, have far less co deration for, and pa ieiice with their cs, than they are entitled t<> re ceive. should know best the wife’s trials, a wrings; and incessant exhausting duties, is the husband, and he ol all others, ould be tbe last to censure, if, from v v prostration of body and mind, ■he be| meiimes betrayed into hasty *jnerally do more harm and domestics than total Ito what is wrong. But on. . lied, stale ol tyoried to death Kale!’ lr 1 came in. . F ,T; 1 “•* re ; PH Vlrcelv 4 , ' Vf ‘ r nv ,e9(i that i v pWnce • lr,ed .‘° “ e ViiStiet every body m the A°"*e ,/„ ‘Mil or she likes, or else there ” i’mie lam not ajlowed to •*** ourM£p" l ’ without some b eins Wfended/ \ Cm y? a great trial as well as respond hiHi * have tfi|kclia>ge of a family,’ 1 re may ‘lnUf, well say that. No omAjows what it lubnt slm who has the trnl The greatest trouble is with your dolttics. Asa classjtlkyare dir ty, cnreQpod impudent. think itl-ts them pleasure to iritewMk widi arrangemehts, artm t,,r( !' v a Vo, disorder. This seems es peciaby Ip the spirit of my present cook. -M husband is particular about having hileals ’nt the hour, and is nev er pleasedVp,, irregularities occur, al though heL s not often say anything;; this i told Ynali when she first came, ami have s'yd her about being behind hand ad >xxoies since; and yet we do not have a im at the hour ofiener than two or three I a ‘1 his mot Mr. I\l ar ii ne t asked me if I woulfW), particular in seeing that dinner vwkj t | le table exactly at two o clock. JCon as | )e was g onej I went down^intchit c |, en anc j sa i ( j > j) 0 lor mercy s s AHannah, have dinner ready at the h(L_ dav> Mr Miminel particularly dd },,’ Hannah made oo answer. It l e 0 f |, er disagreeable habits when yoti|i t 0 | ier _ .£) i(] y()ll hear me? I I,s l(|.iiie out of patience • i . .. Tu..l ... ‘iiu tJW t ill with her. Thel ( ,,. e |„ o | t( .d „p a( me with an impudti-e an d said, pertly, •I’m ru t deal.’ V ell , v !, v didn’t you answer me wheA. )llk , ? h’savery ugly habit thatyiLA 0 f „ ol ~P p |y m' a when any one ad* s \.ou, How"is it in he known tHajVcar what is said?’ I The spirts in vv^ic winMi met my’ re quest to have dinnVdV time, satis fied me that she w* so\ nagp as to throw it off |, our< j left the kitchen ee ''3f s .- well suppose, exceeding!w‘ r, ed.‘\ ie Just then the room 'Vhi c l, Z w e ere sitting was jwn openV ‘* ( hang, ond in bouncy an 'y> Mrs. Mv ‘ r tinet’s eldest boy-/ld young scaped ‘* grace of a fellow—l 1 * pooped out soine,[_,'. jj er startled and annoyed .C”"’ |ci terruption, ordered him to leave the room instantly. But Harry stood his ground without moving an eyelash. ‘Do you hear?’ And Mrs. Martinet stamped with her foot to give stronger emphasis to her words. ‘Liny snaHied mv top-cord out of my hand, and won’t give it to me!’ ‘Go out nf this room!’ ‘Shan't Ltni'e rive me my top-cord?’ ‘Go out, I tell you!’ •I want my top-cord.’ ‘Go mil!’ Mv poor friend’s face was red, and her voice trembling with passion. Willi each renewed order for the child to leave the room, she stamped with her foot upon me floor, Harry, instead of going out as he was directed to do, kept advancing nearer and nearer, as lie repealed liis complaint, until he came close up to where we were sitting. ‘Didn’t I tejl yon to go out!’ exclaim ed his mother, losing all patience. As she spoke, she arose hastily', and seiiing him hv the arm, dragged, rather than led him from the room. ‘1 never saw such a chidj’ she said, re turning after closing (he door upon Harry. ‘Nothing does but force. Yon might talk to him all day without moving him an inch when lie gets in one of those moods.’ Bang! went the door open, and, ‘1 want my top cord!’ followed in loud er and more passionate tones than be fore. ‘lsn’t it beyond all endurance!’ cried my friend, Springing up and rushing across the room. The passionate child, who had been spoiled by injudicious management, got a sound whipping and was shut up in a room by himself. After performing this rather unpleasant task, Mrs. Martinet re turned to the parlor, flushed, excited, and trembling in every’ nerve. ‘I expect that boy will kill me yet,’ she said, as she sunk, Ipfiniiiip iu*n a chair. *|i is surprising InSw sni'hhnm and f.elf uilled he grows. I don't know linn to account for it. He never has Ids own Wi ,y —I never yield an inch to him when lie gets in t!iee terrible humors. Oh. Heart I feel sometimes like giving up in despair.’ I did not make a reply, for I could not say any tiling that would not have been a reproof of her impatient temper. Af ter nyy friend had grown cajmer, she re newed her narative about the dinner. OGLETHORPE, GEORGIA, THURSDAY, MAY 22, 1851. ‘As I was saving, when that hoy inter rupted us, 1 left the kitchen very much worried, and fell worried all the morning, Several times I went'down to see how things were coming on, but it was plaiti that Hannah did not mean to have din ner at the hour. When it was time to put the meat on ‘the roast, the fire was all down in the range. Half an hour was L&t in renewing it. As I expected, when BfcHmshand came home for his dinner, at SUHjlkgular time, the table was not even iJgEjLme!’ Ife said, ‘isn’t dinner ready. I told ygkthat I wished it at the hour. p3rtioi)larlfej 1 have a business engaee ment at half feast two, that inn-t be met. It is 100 bndfßnC am out of all p with these I can’t wail ol course.’ ‘And saying this, Mr. Martinet turned upon ids heel and left the house.-ygAs you may suppose, I did not feel very froni fortable, nor in a very good humor wills Hannah. When she made her appear ance to set the table, which was not lor a qarter of an hour, I gave her about as good a setting down, I reckon, as slteev er had iu her life. Os course l was paid back in impudence which L could not stand, and therefore gave her notice to quit. If ever a woman was tried beyond endurance, / am. My very life is becom ing a burden to me. The Worst part of it is, there is no prospect of a chance lm the heller. Things, instead of growing better, grow worse.’ ‘lt is not so bad as that / It <pe,’ I conic) not help remarking. ‘Have you never thought of a remedy for the evils of which you complain?’ ‘A remedy, Kate! What remedy is there?’ ‘lf not a remedy, there is, I am sure, a pallative,’ I returned, feeling dnwbtfu! of the effect of what 1 had in my mind to express. M rs. Martinet looked at me curiously'. U remedy nr pahuive of it ‘-'/-’ k'ke a d tn „, f Van) eil for goodness I he g ot n, ng mtln I will clutch [ . ring clTis “ Stra J*. J ‘The remedy is Patience .’ Oxy-s-v.,, slightly faltered as I spoke. Instantly the color deepened on the face of Mrs. Martinet. But our close inti* macy, and her knowledgs of the fact that I mas really a friend, prevented her from being off-tided. ‘Patience!’ sin: said, after she had a little recovered herself. ‘Patience is no remedy. To endure is not to cere.’ ‘ln that, perhaps, you are mistaken,’ 1 returned. ‘The effect of patience is cure domestic evils. A calm exterio', and e gentle, yet firm voice, will in nine cases in ten, effect more titan tl e mosl passion ate outbreak of indignant feelings. 1 have seen it tried over and over again, and I am sure of the effect.’ ‘I should like to have seen the effect of a gentle voice upon my Harry just now .’ ‘Forgive me for saying.’ I answered to <his, ‘that in my opinion, if you Had met this passionate outbreak at the w rong lie bad suffered in tbe loss of his top-cord, in a different manner trom what you did, that the effect would have been of a like different character. My friend’s face colored more deeply, and her lips trembled. But she had good sense, and this kept hei Horn being offen ded at what 1 said. I went on— ‘There is no virtue ui'ire necessary in the management t-f household than pt tie nee. It ncconuil'Wies almost every tiling. Yet it is a hard virtue to practice, and I were in your place F would practice it any belter than you do. But it is of such vital importance to the order, com fort, and well being of a family to be able patiently and calmly to meet every dis orderly circumstance, that it is worth a struggle to attain the state of mind requi site to do so. To meet passion with pas sion does no good, but harm. The mind, when dislurbyd from any cause, is dis turbed more deeply when it meets an op posing tnind in a similar state. This is as true of children a< <>l’ grown poisons, and perhaps more so. for their reason is not maimed, and therefore, tln-re is noth ing to balance their minds. It is a! o more true of those who have not learned from reason to control themselves, as is as js the case with too large a portion of our domestics; who need to be treated with almost as much lorbeaiance and con sideration as children.’ These remarks produced a visible ef fect upon Mrs. Martinet. She became silent and reflective, and continued so, to OUR COUNTRY'S GOOD IS OURS. a great extent, during the half hour that 1 remained. Nearly tw o weeks elftpsed before I cal led upon my friend again. I found I.*r, happily in a calmer state of mind than upon my previous visit. We were in the midst of a pleasant conversation, half an hour after / had come in, when one of the children, a hoy between seven and eight years old, came into the room and made some complaint against his brother. The little fellow was excited, and broke in upon our quiet chit chat with a rude jar that / felt quite sensibly, /expected, of course, to hear him ordered from the room instantly. That had been my friend’s usual proceeding when these interruptions occurred; at least it had been so wli ui / happened to be a visitor. Hut instead of this, she said in a low, mild, soothing , voice, ‘Well, never mind, Willy. You stay iti the parlor with os, where Marry can’t [trouble you.’ This cvns just tiie proposition, above all others, to please the child. His face brightened, and he came and nestled up closely to his mother, who was silting on the corner of the sofa. Drawing an arm around him, she went on with the re marks, she happened to be making when the interruption of his entrance occurred. No very long time elapsed before the parlor door flew open, anil Harry entered, asking, as he did so, in a loud voice, for Will v. ‘Willy is here. What do you want with him?’ said the mother, iu a quiet, but firm tone. ‘/ want him to come and play.’ you were not kind to Willy, and he does r.otwisli to piav with you.’ •Come Willy and play, and 1 will be kind,’ said Harry., ‘Will you lei me be the master some times?’ asked the little fellow, raising him self from where lie had been seated beside his mother. ‘Yes, you shall be master sometimes.’ ‘Then I’ll play,’ and Willy sprang from the sofa and bounded from the room as Happy as he could be. Xhe mother smiled, and looking into ed re alone said— w |, ‘You see, remedy, patience.’ ‘With most happy results, 1 am glad to see.’ ‘With better results than 1 could have believed, certainly. Gentleness, consid eration, ami firmness, / find do a great deal, and their exercise leaver my own mind in a good state. There is a po*w er in patience that 1 did not beUgve it possessed. I can do more by a miltily spoken word, than by the most emphatic c ommand uttered in a passion. This is the experience of a few weeks. But, nlrts! Kate, to be aide to exercise patience —how hard a thing that id ‘7t requires constant watchfulness and a, constant ef fort. Every hour I find myself"-betrayed into the utterance of some hasty word, and feel its powerlessness compared to those that arc most gently spoken,’ ‘Do you gel on with your domestics any better than you did?’ ‘Oh, yes! Far better.* ‘J suppose you sent Hannah away some time ago?’ . ‘No, 1 have her yet.’ ‘/u deed’ ‘Yes, and >he does veryywell.’ ‘Does she gel your meals ready in time ?’ .‘felie is punctual- to the minute.’ ‘Really site must have changed for the better! And is this, too, the result of pa tience and forbearance on your part?’. ‘i suppose so. What you said in re gard to having patience, at your'fast vis it, struck me forcibly, and canned me to feel humbled and self condemned. The more 1 thought of it, the more satisfied was I that you were right. But it was one thing to see the use of patience, and another thing to exercise it. To be pa tient amid the turbulence, ill-tempers, and disobedience of children, and the ir regulariies, carefesness and neglct of do tl,sties, seemed a thing impossible; 1 was b tip-state of ihuibl as to my ability tp ev rci'f the virtue so much needed in mv bust hold, when Hannah cause •> the door ol the room where 1 was sitting in no very h.’tppy mood, and notified me ol some waul in- the kitchen in an exceed ingly provoking way. I was about re plying sharply and angrily; hut suddenly checking myself, I said iu quiet mild ay, ‘Very well, Hannah. 7 will see that it is supplied.’ ‘The girl stood for some moments, looking at me with an expression of sur prise on iter face, and then walked away. This was a victory over myself, and 1 felt, also, a victory over her. Not half an hour elapsed, before, on passing near the kitchen, she said to me, in a veYy re spectful manner: ‘1 forgot to tell yon this morning, that lea was all out. But / can run round to the store and get some in a few minutes.’ ‘Do so, if you please, Hannah,’ Ire turned, without evincing the slightest feel ing of annoyance at her neglect; ‘anil try if you can, to have tea ready precisely at six o'clock.’ I wiil have it ready ma'am,’ she replied. And it was ready. ‘Had I not exercised patience and self con trol, the interview would have been some thing after this fashb’n: About ten minutes before tea time, Hannah would have ernne to me and said, with provoking coolness— • The tea’s all out.’ ‘To which l would have replied sharply— ‘Why, in the name of goodness, did not you say so this morning? You knew that you had used the last drawing! I declare you aro the most provoking creature I ever knew. Yeu’ll have to go to the storo and get some.’ ‘l’m not fit to be seen in the sireet,’ she would in all probability have replied. ‘And tlinn I, losing ail patience, would have soundly scolded her, and gained nothing but a sick headache, perhaps, for my pains. Tea, in al! probability, would have Leen served at about sea tno J ‘lsn't it? As there a ,j*pwer in patience iwmStTn ed of by those who seek not its exercise. Next morning when I had occasion to speak to Hannah, 1 did so with much mildness, and if l had occasion to find fault, requested a change rather than enunciated a reproof. The girl changed as if by magic. She became re spectful in her manner toward me, and e\inr/ a constant anxiety to do cverythina''^. shed to have it done. Not once . , ../binutes later -b&d.-vii'eal as much as ten vj’ than ‘I could not but"eJjiTrss the happiness I felt at the change, and urge my excellent friend to persevere, This she has done, and the whole aspect of things in her family has changed. There are times,fhowever, when from ill health, or a return of old states, she recedes agrin into fretfulness; but the reaction upon her is so immediate and perceptible, that she isilrivon in self-defence to patience and for beaiance, the result of which is order and quiej in her family just in the degree that pa lieijce and forbearance are exercised. HOW A “HUM” CUSTOMER GOT SERVED. ‘Have you got any good West India rum, sir ?’ asked a woman, a day or two since, of one of our disciples of Lsculapi us, as she slowly unfolded her shawl, and placed on the counter a goodly seized bot tle. for the accommodation of the ‘crit ter.’ ‘ Far what purpose do you want it, marini- inquired lie, as lie scanned her connivance. ‘Oh, simply for bathing, sir; I never use the vile stuff for any other purpose.’ ‘ Well,* said lie, ‘ I have a iitlie left, but it is not of the best quality. I have heard much Complaint of my last barrel, but it is excelant for bathing in sick ness, as it isjust weak enough, without the W dilution with water.” *ii have the bottle filed, and try and she. And haveing received it, left, wondering why sheshold he question ed so closeley about a little rum. Our rum is all out* C——, “said lie to? his dark the next moaning, “l will try to procure a better article than the last prey ed to be.’ \ ‘ All out, sir!’ replied the astonished clerk; ‘ why I sold a quart just before yon came, and it didn’t run dry then, for 1 |, ft it running by accident and lost near ly a gallon —there must be near ten gab lons left yet, for I have sold very little of it lately.’ • Why you roust be mistaken! I had to tip the barrel yesterday to fill up the measure. Do show me where you draw it.’ • What barrel did you take it from ?’ asked the clerk, a little frightened, fetxr^ | TERMS: $2 in Alliance. ing lie must have been dispensing, alco hoi. ‘ Why, this one, of course !’ replied ha (pointing to the one nearest the door.) ‘ I have sold fora fortnight from it!’ The clerk could now contain himself no longer. * Why,’ said lie. as soon a . he could smother his laughter— ‘ that is a barrel of rain tenter that 1 brought in to use for any plants, and I had it filled al the hong to save the head.’ ‘ Well, C , keep this entirely to yourself-— 1 haw been selling rum from it foa ten days at least! and have wonder ed that people complained of it, as I al ways try to kefcp the hestjkind. Keep mum, C , keep mum !’ Spirit of tke\Timet. Taking the Sensu*. A census taker going round lnt sass, stopped al an elegant brick dwelling home on Western How—the exact location of which is no business of ours. lie was re ceived at the door by a stiff, well dressed elderly lady, who could be easily recog nired as a widow of som:: years standing. On leaving the mission of Iter visitor, ih lady invited him to a scat in the hall,— Having arranged himself into a working position, he inquired for the number of persons iu the family of the lady. ‘ Eight, sir,’ replied the iady, includ ing myself. ‘ Very well—your fgy,; madam ?’ ‘My age, sir,’she replied, with a pier cing dignified look ; ‘ /conceive ids noM of your business, what my be vou nre inquisitive, sic,’ JflLagl| * The law compels me, madam, to take the age of every person in the ward—it is mv duty to make the inquiry.’ * Well, if the law compels you to ails, / presmn it will compel me to answer. / am between thirty and forty.’ ‘ 1 presume dialing n0 suchufing—/ am ‘ No sir, it of age.’ only madam, putting down the ‘ * ju3t as you say. Now fur the of the children, comment ing with ’ the youngest if you please.’ * * Josephine, my youngest, is ten year* of age. ‘ Josephine—pretty name—ten.’ ‘ Minerva was twelve last week.’ * Minet va—captivating—twelve.* * Cleopatra Elvira has just turned fif teen.’ ‘ Cleopatra Elvira—charming—fif teen.’ ‘* Angelina is eighteen, sir—just eigb een.’ Angelina—favorate name—eighteen.’ * My eldest’and only married daughter, s ; r, Anna Sophia, is a little over twenty five.’ Twenty-five did you say, madam i* ‘Yes, sir. 7s there anything remark able in Iter being that age.’ ‘ Well, no, 1 can’t say that there is— but is not remarkable that you should be her mother ax only eight years of age V About that time the census laker was observed sailing out of the house, closely pursued by a btooitmick. 7t was the hut time lie pressed a lady to give her exact age.. Every morning when we go forth, we lay tiie moulding hand on our destiny and every evening we have left a death less impress upou our character. Wo touch not a wire but vibrates in eternity —not a voice but reports at the thrdtnrbf God.—Let youth, especially think of these things,and let every one remember, that in this world where character is in its formation state,it is a serious thing to think, to speak, to act. If we go at noonday at the bottom of a deep pit, we shall be able to ste the stars which on the level ground are in visible. —Evefhso.from the depths of grief —worn, wretched, sealed and dying—the blessed apparitions and tokens of heaven make themselvs visible to our eyes. What you do know, know thoroughly. Thera are few instances in modern times of if'rise equal to that of Sir Edward After one of the Weymouth slmt up with him in a carriage for tjgtflved, hour*. I ventred to ask. him eve cri ofhi* success. His anu(y own, and when bugioing to read ry thing 1 acquiredlo£ nv 0 f my compo nevergo to a as i read in a acomplished of twe ; ve months my ti,or , S rC ui/2 fresh as it was on the day it JjftjlSd,- while dteiri had glided •* 3drreealleetinw. NO 6