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MAT, 1909. tion and improvement are always to be exacted of the children —never of the parent! When will lathers and mothers learn that only by the close companionship of their boys and girls, by working with by daily living before them in strict obedience to the laws of refinement and con sistency and right that are preached to these boys and girls —they can hope to rear broadminded, well balanced, attractive and useful men and women who will forever be an honor to ever-honored parents? How may we expect every parental command to meet with ready and cheerful obedience when every request of the child is cruelly ignored? How shall we look for willing, energetic, useful boys and girls of parents who never set them such example? How may we hope to see the little ones grow up skilled in the practical accomplishments which best adorn manhood and womanhood, when the first ef forts of these babies are so often discouraged be cause it is “too much trouble” for the parents to look after them or to correct what the untrained hands have done? God speed the day when the early energies of our little ones shall be daily appreciated and encouraged! * • • Occasionally we find a girl who has had drudgery piled upon her young shoulders until she knows nothing of the beauties ut life, rebels against the slavery so long Th? Average Child. endured, and harbors disgust for all things domes tic —as she knows them. It is a dangerous attitude, and, alas, it may bring both parent and child to the bitterness of disgrace! The average young girl is not a slave nor drudge, but a misguided drone, She may at one time have been thoughtful and willing, but the mother has been “too busy” (whether with work or with play) to teach her, the daughter has become indifferent and lazy, and—the sins of omis sion on that mother’s part must follow her through life and follow her child and her grandchildren after her. Here and there is a boy who is being reared under condi tions'of servitude that are enough to dwarf every sentiment of love and loyalty; but far oftener in this day of false pride and foolish training our boys grow up in the fixed belief that hard work is dishonorable, ana most of them are firmly con vinced that all work is hard. The greatest business successes ever achieved in this country of big successes, have been by those who as Loys and as men were not afraid of labor, and who recognized the impoi tant truth that all labor is honorable. But this fact is entirely forgotten by our town bred boy of the present age. He does not want work, but after a num ber of ill-spent years of desultory dragging through public schools he may very timidly inquire for a ‘ situation”- to be held as long as he ‘likes it;” and he is sure not to ‘‘like it” unless it is a very “nice” place, with easy duties and liberal pay! If he is not very promptly promoted and placed higher upon the pay-roll, he is thoroughly convinced that his pro digious abilities are not appreciated, and he becomes thor oughly disgusted with his entployer’s obtuseness. He is •usually envious of the boy who succeeds, and attributes such success almost entirely to “luck.” Think you that I have overdrawn the facts? lhen you do not know the average boy who grows up about town, Try to get acquainted with him, and try to encourage him to a saner view of life. The boy of even average ability will succeed in life if he has good health, good principles, plenty of energy, and no foolish pride. He does not place pleasure before business, but makes up his mind that work will give us pleasure if our mental atti- P-lucß VS. bucl(- tude is only such as to appreciate it. He is not envious of the boy who succeeds, but is determined to emulate his good example. He does not waste time in complaining that it takes “pull” to get desirable positions, but recognizes the fact that it does take push., and that he must do the pushing. He does not timidly ask for work as if he knows it will not be given him and is rather glad ot the fact: instead, he ap proaches a business man in a pleasant, business-like way, and makes the impression that he not only deaires a job, but is going to have one somewheie. If asked what kind of work he is seeking, he will reply that he is not particular what sort of work is offered, provided it is honorable. If asked what pay he expects, he will say that he is willing to leave that for his employer to decide after he (the boy) has proven that he is not afraid of work- that he wishes no more than he is worth, and recognizes the fact that this can be better determined after he has been tested. There is no danger of any over-supply of such boys as this and business w ill never be so dull that they cannot find some thing to do. Business men are on the lookout for them; they are so rare that they are in demand, and a man of affairs wilt “look them up” for the purpose of getting acquainted. In the beginning such a boy may work for small wages, but his greatest concern will be to earn more than he is receiv ing, with abiding patience and full faith that he will after awhile receive all that he earns. He knows that to any boy a good name is worth more than all else, and his central pur pose is to justify his employer in giving him a good name. The world needs these faithful boys, and they will never have to beg for jobs nor plead for higher pay. If it is the misfortune of such a boy to commence work with a man or firm unappreciative of such faithfulness, let him labor on in silence, all confident that after awhile other and better em ployers will find him out and call for him. If you have such a boy as this you may well feel proud of him. If your boy is one of the great majority instead of belonging with these select few, you should ascertain the cause: if it is your own fault, promptly acknowledge it and in future set him a. good example; if it is his fault, get close to him and help him to overcome it. Woman’s Work. Some men and women are so very sensitive that they do not wish to be told of a fault, even in the kindest manner. They seem to prefer continuing in the wrong rather than have any suggestions from another. I have The Sensitive Person. always wondered how such persons can consistently correct their children. They are constantly setting before those about them an example of rebellion against all authority, and yet (as a rule) they are disposed to exert authority arbi trarily and to an extreme degree. Find a man who is not willing for a preacher or teacher or wife or mother or anyone to point out his faults—even in a spirit of most considerate affection and for his own good—and you know an individual whose disposition it is to tyrannize over and to exact the most abject obedience from any and all who are subject to his authority. Show me a person who is quick to notice every “slight’ and to take umbrage at every criticism, and I will show you an individual who is prone to disregard the wishes and feelings of others—who is ever ready to criticise all per sons and all things. I wonder that such men and women are willing to as sume the responsibilties of parenthood, and how they can ever expect that tender love and sympathy and thoughtful ness which should exist between parents and'children. The spirit of considerate obedience is not meant to be cultivated by little ones alone: it should control every one of us in our relations with all persons and all things. The truly refined and the truly affectionate nature will show a delicate regard for the rights and the wishes and feelings of others. It would make wonderful differences if we could only see ourselves as we are seen—if we could see our faults as we see the faults of those about us. It would make this beautiful old woild seem almost equal to oiir fairest conception of heaven, if we would —one and all, now and always—do unto others as we would have them do to us. Try it in your home, in the schoolroom, in social and business interests —in your relations with young and old, with rich and poor—and see what a transformation it will work in your life and in other lives. Os course you will encounter some who will not ap preciate such consideration (some few persons do not ap preciate anybody or anything save self!') but the results will make the effort more than piofitable, ♦ • * Next to good character I know of nothing that will more surely promote success and happi ness in this life than will good manners and good nature. Greet the world with a smile, with cheerful words, with pleasant manner—always. G?nuin? Good Nature. Popularity is an important thing to every man and woman, and it may be won without any flattery or deception. Occa sionally an ill-natured cynic will attempt to convince us that to be popular we must resort to hypocrisy, but such assertion is not true: indeed, sincerity and true worth are always necessary to a favorable impression if we would have same to prove more than fleeting in its effects. No person in society, in business, in any of the walks of life, who is too busy or too indifferent to be couiteous, need expect strong friendships nor many friends of any kind. 1 would rather send a boy or girl out into the world equipped with a happy disposition and under all circumstances show ing the blessings of refined training, than to endow them wilh large monetary wealth and let them go forth in life bearing evidence of ill-breeding; I had rather instill within them a delicate regard for the rights and the happiness of other per sons, than to give them great riches in material things and leave them deficient in those finer qualities of mind and heart and conduct that go to make up the genuinely cul tured man or woman. Cultivate in your daily life —in all the little things of life —the so-called small courtesies of manner as well as the large ones of character, for all these are necessary in the best type of men and women. Many a person who would not steal money under any circumstances will, by indifference or rude ness or lack of consideration, steal and destroy the rights and the happiness of those who should be nearest and dearest in this life. Teach your children that ill manners and selfishness are the surest destroy ers of friendship and love and happiness and usefulness, leach them that good cheer and unfailing effort to impart it to each and every one with whom they come in contact is a priceless possession that is within easy reach of every individual. And be sure to remember that the best of all teaching is by example! ♦ * ♦ I know a certain man whom the world has nev er looked upon as a success in life—and it is thereby proven that the world is not always cor rect in its estimate of men and things. This man owns no lauds, no stocks and bonds, no in- The Richest (Uan. dustrial enterprises. He works for a moderate salary- just about enough to support his family in comfortable but simple style. People speak of him as being poor, but I have often thought that lie is the wealthiest man of all my acquaintance. The question of wealth is solely a matter of the stand point from which we view it. My own idea is that a person may own millions in mere dollars, and yet be poor indeed— that a man may be without a resting place that he can call his own, and at the same time possess riches beyond the pow er of men to count. The wealth of the friend to whom I nave refeired is not recorded on County records, but is all secure in his mind and heart and soul: it is a wealth of happiness, and of all riches a contented life is greatest and best. Looked at as a matter of eternity we have scriptural re minder that it were foolish for a manto gain the whole world at the cost of his soul’s welfare. Looked at from a temporal standpoint we have but to glance about us aud discover per haps greater discontent in palaces than in humble abodes. Watch the newspapers and you will find in their awful record of tragedies a far greater proportion of suicides among the financially independent than among those who must labor for their daily bread. It all proves that true wealth is a mat ter within ourselves and cannot be judged by outward ap pearances—except as the happy smile, the hearty handclasp, the encouraging word, may tell us in unpretentious but un mistakable terms that an individual is happy, or except as the absence of these evidences may make known the fact that a man or a woman is miserable. We are told that contentment with godliness is great gain—the proof of which is all about us at all times—aud it is a serious question if the one is ever present without the other. Did you ever see a godlike man who was not content ed? Can a man be truly contented who is not godlike? rnrr Dollar Box woman’i I nC L BELIEF on Trial. Mrs. F. H. Gaylord, 512 Madison St., Fort Wayne, Ind., says: Jan. 20, 1909. 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