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By JOHN J. KANE, Ph. D.
Professor of Sociology
University of Notre Dame
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I am a girl, almost thirteen
years old, and since winter
started I have changed. When I
go ice-skating, I smoke with the
boys. I also flirt with them. I
am not spoiled like a lot of kids,
but when I get around boys I
act that way. My parents don’t
know this but it is getting so no
one likes me any more. Please
help me.
* * *
Joyce, I want to compliment
you for the insights you seem
to have. At least you realize
something is wrong but you
can’t quite pinpoint it. Further
more, your problem is not un
usual. In fact, it is almost
chronic among girls of your
age. Let’s put it this way—it
is a combination of being a young
adolescent, groping your way
to what you think is maturity,
trying too hard to compete with
the other girls, and being a bit
precocious.
Precocious is a big word, so
I’m going to begin by explain
ing what it means. It is attemp
ting to think and act much old
er than you really are. It is
trying to be eighteen when you
are only thirteen. It is always a
little silly, if not downright ri
diculous. Have you ever watch
ed young children dressing up
like men and women, playing
the parts of husband and wife?
You probably smiled at them as
we all do. It is harmless. Af
ter a while they will tire of it,
take off the long dresses and
trousers and turn to another
game. In a way you are doing the
same thing but it just isn’t fun
ny. You are not a young child
and you are not playing. You are
in earnest.
You have reached a stage in
life when you have left child
hood but not yet entered upon
adulthood. For the next five or
six years, possibly longer, you
will vacillate between childhood
India: Where We Hijpe To Complete A Chapel
KOORKANCHERY is a village in Trichur diocese in southern
India. It has a population of 1200 families, mostly Hindu and
Moslem. There are 350 Catholic
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$70 is a year’s earnings! Still their
efforts only resulted in a half-
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$3,500 for materials to complete the building. They help with
their own labor but their Bishop writes us to say they have just
about exhausted their own resources. He begs us to appeal to
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and adulthood, probably at times
to the despair of your parents,
teachers and everyone else, in
cluding yourself. Some of this
is inevitable but it can be made
a little easier if you understand
yourself.
It would be strange if you
were not beginning to become
interested in boys at your age.
You have reached the age of
puberty, i.e. you are maturing
sexually. God placed the sex
drive in men and women so that
later in life they can marry and
become mothers and fathers. It
is part of conjugal love, the
kind of love a man and woman
have for each other in marriage.
But sex, while part of this love,
is not all of it. Herein lies a
danger.
The sex urge begins before
boys and girls in our society
are able to marry. You have
years of education ahead of you.
You must grow up, mature and
be ready to accept all the res
ponsibilities of marriage be
fore you enter upon it. All of
this is some years away so it
is disastrous to try to behave
now as though you were nine
teen or twenty.
I’m not certain just what you
mean by flirting with the boys.
You probably mean you go out
of your way to attract their at
tention. This may be quite in
nocent on your part but boys
may misunderstand. The boys
with whom you are associating
are also beginning to experience
the sex drive. They may inter
pret your flirtation as some
thing more than that, as an in
vitation to sexual liberties. So
you may be inviting real moral
problems for yourself and the
boys.
At your age you should know
many boys as casual friends,
companions with whom you
skate, slide, talk and joke. You
are a bit young even to date.
Hold that for a few years. There
will be plenty of time to date
later, and you will undoubtedly
have plenty of dates when the
time comes. But of this I am
certain. You are uncertain. That
is why you smoke with the boys.
Smoking with the boys, which
apparently the other girls
do not, gives you — or so you
think — an inside track with
them. In view of recent re
ports on smoking, it is quite
clear it is fraught with serious
health problems. The earlier
you begin to smoke, the more
dangerous it is. In fact, any
young person today who has
never smoked, should never
do so. It is far easier not to
begin that to try to stop.
These boys are probably not
permitted to smoke, sowhenyou
join with them, you are both do
ing something secretly which is
forbidden. Have you every won
dered what these boys think of
you? I am reluctant to tell you,
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but they probably conclude if
you do one thing which is for
bidden, you may readily do other
things. Among themselves, they
probably criticize you and won
der just what kind of girl
you really are.
Of course, you are unpopular
with the girls. Some girls are
viciously catty, not only at this
age, but especially at this age.
Girls compete with other girls
for boy friends, just as boys
compete with other boys for
girl friends. Basically this is
the way things are. The big dif
ference with you is that you
using unfair methods. I refer
to your smoking with them in
order to get closer to them. I
also refer to your flirting which
I suspect is extravagant.
There are certain rules of the
game in dating and courtship
which you will have to learn
when the time comes. You don’t
take unfair advantage, as you
have already done. You have
probably antagonized your girl
friends, so start right now to
win them back. You need them.
You need them because soon
these girls will be having par
ties and socials to which they
will invite boys but not you. We
all need friends of the same sex
as confidants, as companions,
especially before marriage.
You will lack them and with
whom will you associate most
of the time? If you continue as
you are, you will be an outcast
from the group, a lonely, de
jected girl, just the type who
can meet and marry the wrong
boy.
You may not be spoiled, but
just now you are spoiling your
self with the boys and with the
girls. The girls dislike you be
cause they feel you take ad
vantage of them. The boys,
who pretend to like you, do so
because they think they can
take advantage of you. For
tunately, this has just started.
It is not too late to mend
your ways.
Begin by having a talk with
your mother about the prob
lem you mentioned. Be frank
with her. She may be angry
about your smoking and if.
so, she is right. In your case
it is both a health hazzard
and possibly a moral haz
ard. Ask her about associat
ing with boys. If she has nev
er given you any sex instruc
tion, ask her questions. Some
mothers are a bit timid in this
respect but nearly all will rise
to the occasion if asked.
Next, begin to cultivate your
girl friends. You can easily do
this by proving you will not en
ter into unfair competition with
them for boy friends. Unless
you feel very inferior to all the
other girls, you don’t have to do
things they refuse to do to gain
boys’ attention. This means
smoking with them.
And finally, try to relax a bit.
Some of the changes you note
in yourself are all part of
young adolescence. You are not
the only girl of your age ex
periencing them. At any rate,
you realize you have a prob
lem, and this is half-way to
solution, if you do something
about it. If you don’t want to
become a real brat, stop act
ing bratty now.
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Dr. Kane will be unable to
answer personal mail. How
ever, he welcomes your sug
gestions of topics that would
particularly interest you. Ad
dress Doctor Kane in care
of this newspaper.
Columbus
NCCJ Hears
Bishop
COLUMBUS - Bishop Thomas
J. McDonough addressed the
Columbus branch of the National
Council of Christians and Jews
on Thursday evening, March
5th.
His Excellency was asked to
appear before the group to dis
cuss the Second Vatican Coun
cil.
Reader’s Forum
Dear Father:
Your editorial concerning the
John Birch Society, which ap
peared in your February 20,
1964 edition, was very interest
ing. However, you seem to be
reflecting the current liberalis-
tic trend that President Kenne
dy could do no wrong nor could
he be duped by the appeasers
and accomodaters that sur
rounded him. One needs only to
look at the many executive or
ders he issued in order to re
cognize the immense power he
was gaining. A Communist he
was not — but an unwitting tool
— yes. Perhaps it sounds un
believable but you should inves
tigate his actions with an impar
tial mind and you would discover
a glimmer of what actually went
on behind the scenes and which
was not released by the news
media. Abraham Lincoln is still
criticized for some of his ac
tions — should JohnF. Kennedy
be immune to criticism? In an
attempt to make him a martyr
I sincerely hope the Church does
not want to make him a saint.
The editorial stated that our
system of government was re
presented by checks and balan
ces between the legislative, ju
dicial, and executive branches.
Please inform me as to what
checks and balances we have
when the Supreme Court makes
decisions favoring the philoso
phies of Communism. (Ruling
against prayers in public
schools is just one). Father,
let’s not be naive concerning
these decisions; they are cal
culating and work against the
true principles of our constitu
tional form of government. So
again I ask: What checks and
balances do we have concerning
Supreme Court Decisions. A
constitutional amendment is the
only answer and you are well
aware of how cumbersome a
process this is.
I had no personal hatred for
Mr. Kennedy. He was respected
as an individual and as the
president. However, I disagreed
with him on many political
issues that deprived individuals
of their private rights and
favored a certain minority
group. I disagreed with him on
his policies of appeasement and
accomodation with the Com
munists. Cuba and Yugoslavia
are but 2 countries in which he
became the appeaser. Before
you start criticizing an organi
zation that is devoted to true
constitutional government,
which incidentally, grants the
right to criticize, you should
definitely check into their ob
jectives and principles. You
would be surprised at how truly
American they are. Disagree
with Mr. Kennedy — yes — but
no John Birch member ever
desired such an end to a fine
man. Don’t ever forget Father
that he was killed by a Com
munist — the enemies of our
Church.
As a Catholic and a father of
four children, I was saddened
over Mr. Kennedy’s assassina
tion. I believe every Catholic
layman in this country felt a
sense of personal loss because
of the proud fact that a Catho
lic had been president. Our
prayers were offered for the
repose of his soul. So Father,
while many Catholics are mem
bers of the John Birch Society
and while many Catholics both
respected and disagreed with
Mr. Kennedy, we did not have
a personal hatred for him.
I sincerely hope that you will
take the time to read and digest
the enclosed information con
cerning the beliefs and princi
ples of the John Birch Society.
Perhaps some day you will
write an editorial which reveals
the true purpose of the organi
zation and its members.
Respectfully,
Philip R. Viviani
3858 Lyons Street
Macon, Georgia
(Ed. Note: Mr. Viviani en
closed a copy of remarks out
lining the beliefs and principles
of the John Birch Society as
reported in the Congressional
Record June 12, 1962)
Dear Editor:
I have a question about Cath
olic Schools.
What should be the proper
way to select the clothes to be
, i o >ni
worn to school?
1 think that the home and
school association should have
a vote on this problem.
WILLIAM H. CLEARY
Savannah
* * *
(ED. NOTE: We don’t know
whether there is a uniform
procedure used by all our
schools in selection of school
clothes. Perhaps readers or of
ficers of local Home andSchooL
Association can enlighten Mr.
Cleary and us.
South Vietnam
(Continued from Page 4)
nam communists hope to con
tinue it with impunity until they
have forced acceptance for a
government of their choice in
the south. It would start as
’’neutralists.” Within a couple
of years it would be absorbed in
an all-communist unification.
This is not only an aggress
ive war. It is a massive viola
tion of the Geneva cease-fire
agreement signed by the North
Vietnam Communists in July,
1954.
The State of Vietnam, now the
Republic in the South, did not
sign the agreement but it pro
mised ’’not to use force to re
sist the procedures for carry
ing the cease-fire into effect.
The U. S., represented by
Special Ambassador Walter B.
Smith, participated in the Gen
eva Conference but did not sign
any agreement. On July 21,
1954, Ambassador Bedell Smith
declared, in behalf of his gov
ernment, that “it will refrain
from the threat or the use of
force to disturb” the agree
ments. He declared further
more that the U.S. '‘would view
any renewal of the aggression in
violation of the aforesaid agree
ments with grave concern and as
seriously threatening interna
tional peace and security.”
Nearly one million people,
most of them Catholics, left
their homes in North Vietnam
in 1954-55 rather than live un
der Communism. These people
and millions of their compa
triots are vividly aware that
the aggression has been re
newed by the communists. It
brings the shadow of what they
fled from, 10 years ago, dark
ly again over themselves, their
homes, their churches and their
children’s future.
4th Degree
For Group
From Brunswick
BRUNSWICK — Eight erd de
gree members of the Henry T
Ross Council #1939 Knights of
Columbus journed to Atlanta on
February 22nd to become 4th
degree Knights.
The exemplification class of
42 Knights, held at the Christ
The King Auditorium, was fra
ternally dedicated to the mem
ory of Sir Knight John Fitzger
ald Kennedy, 35th president of
'the United States.
Included in the group from
Brunswick were the Reverend
Paul Burkort, S.M., pastor of
St. Francis Xavier Church,
Richard Brunegraff, Gerald B
Gardner Jr., Perley B. Homans
Jr., Arthur N. Martin, Bernard
Newkirk, Manuel Santos and L
Buddy Spaulding.
El
When family life stops, delin
quency begins.
KAREN JORDON, fifth-grade student at Most Pure Heart of Mary School, Savannah
received first prize in Class III entries in Essay Contest sponsored by the Savannah
Deanery of Catholic Women. Class III includes grades 4, 5, and 6. Essays were titled
“My Parish - Source of Grace and Christian Training.” Shown above at presentation
ceremony are Mrs. Anne Jordon; daughter Karen; Mrs. Sonora, Prouty Chairman
of the Council’s Home and School Committee who made the presentation; Miss
Harriett Polite, Karen’s teacher; and Sister Mary Ephrem, School principal. This is the
third year Karen has won this honor.
The Southern Cross, March 5, 1964—PAGE 5
EAKLY EVIDENCE OF CHRISTIANITY ?—This cross,
18x13 inches, carved deeply in the plaster of a wall in a
house in the Roman city of Herculaneum is believed to
have been placed there long; before the city was buried by
the eruption of volcano Vesuvius in 79 A.D. The ruins of
the city were uncovered in the 18th century. Professor An
tonio Maggi, director of the Naples Archeological Museum
believes it was a Christian cross and is among the earliest
records of the spread of Christianity in the very early days.
(NC Photos)
Obituaries
J. J. Bresnahan
AUGUSTA - Funeral services
for Mr. James Joseph Bres
nahan were conducted March
2nd at St. Mary’s-on-the-Hill
Church with the Rt. Rev. Msgr.
Daniel J. Bourke officiating.
Survivers include his wife,
Mrs. Clara Estill Bresnahan,
two sons, J. J. Bresnahan, At
lanta, and Joe E. Bresnahan,
Augusta; a daughter, Miss Clara
M. Bresnahan, San Francisco,
Calif.; two brothers, John A.
Bresnahan and Edward S. Bre
snahan, both of Augusta; a sis
ter, Mrs. Charles Weigle, Au
gusta; four grandchildren and a
number of nieces and nephews.
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Survivers include his wife,
Mrs. Rose Demas; four sons,
Tony, Joe and James Demas, all
of Bloomingdale, and Pat Demas
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