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FAMILY CLINIC
The fact that there are
no relatives to help rear the
children further complicates
matters. But you should take
heart by placing your trust in
God and taking certain steps
now when you are able to do so.
During these final weeks or
months, it is easy, or to put it
more strongly, it is difficult for
you not to become discouraged,
pessimistic and depressed. Your
husband and children will car
ry memories of you with them
during the rest of their lives.
The kinds of memories they
hold will depend in part, and
fra* the young children almost
flKirely on how you behave dur-
these trying days ahead.
So far as your health permits,
you can spend whatever time
possible in teaching your chil
dren about God, virtue and in
giving them a truly religious
outlook on life. At the same
time you will have to try to
keep up your husband’s spirits.
He too ust be suffering keen
ly if he knows of your probable
impending death.
If you have any property, real
or personal, you should consider
how you wish to dispose of it.
If it is of any significant value,
you should call an attorney and
make a will. Talk this over
with your husband and the law
yer. The latter can offer sound
advice if you have money or in
vestments, particularly if you
wish to establish a trust for’
your children. 117 ' ' ’
You indicate that you are
young and I assume you hus
band is too. Life will be quite
lonely for him and while some
widowers do an outstanding job
of rearing cnildren with
out help, it is quite difficult. He
must be absent from the home
during most of the day. A
housekeeper will help and some
times they make marvelous fos
ter mothers. But there are not
the ties that would exist if your
husband remarried.
Talking to more than one hus
band who has suffered a recent
bereavement, I invariably hear
the same remark. So long as
the children are around in the
evening, things are fine. But
when the children retire, or if
older, go out, he feels a sharp
pang of loneliness for his late
wife and companion.
It may not be easy for you
to do this, but you should sound
your husband out on this mat
ter and encourage him. Ob
viously, it will be difficult for
him to discuss it at all and he
probably will not want to do so.
A great deal depends upon your
approach. If you do this on the
basis of the mutual love you
have for each other and for the
children, as well as the welfare
of all, I think he will under
stand.
In the event * of your death
and your husband’s eventual de
cision to remarry, he will want
someone like you. He will also
need someone who is not merely
willing, but eager, to assume the
role of mother to three young
children. So his choice will have
to be made prudently and after
some interval of time.
I would not recommend a
quick marriage after a short in
terval of mourning. He will be
too emotionally upset to make
a careful decision. Furthermore,
his memory of you will still be
strong within him and he will
make constant comparisons be
tween his widow and his wife.
During this interval a house
keeper will have to fill in and,
in fact, it may be you already
have such a woman because of
your illness. If so the transition,
in the event of your demise,
will be somewhat eased.
There are several alternatives
to the course of action I have
suggested. Perhaps an older wo
man could be employed to live
in the home and give most of
her attention to child rearing,
while another could carry on
the household, chores.
Or as the children grow older
they could be placed in board
ing schools coming home during
vacation periods. This I would
definitely not recommend be
cause it deprives children of a
true home life, in which they
can learn what marriage and
family living really are. Thera
are cases in which such proce
dure must be followed and
there are some fine boarding
schools. But at best they make
a poor substitute for a good
mother in a good home. The re
marriage of your husband may
make this possible for your chil
dren.
by JOHN J. KANE, Ph. D.
Professor of Sociology
University of Notre Dame
What can a young mother do
for her husband and three chil
dren when she is dying? There
are no relatives to rear them.
How can I assure myself they
^■jfl be properly raised spiritu-
, mentally and emotionally?
jT say emotionally since I be
lieve my death will be deeply
disturbing to three young chil
dren. I am not afraid for my
self, not spiritually anyway, but
it crushes me to think of my
children.
Your letter, Catherine, is an
unusually sad one. It is almost
inevitably a tragedy for young
children to lose a mother, and
the home broken when young
sters are below the teens does
present greater problems than
later.
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The Southern Cross, February 4, 1965—PAGE 5
CARDINAL DESIGNATE
Growing Role Of
Catholic Press
In US Stressed
(Cardinal - Designate Lawrence
J. Sheehan of Baltimore, chair
man of the Press Department,
National Catholic Welfare Con-,
ference, in his statement on the
1965 Catholic Press Month ob
servance during February notes
that “within the Church a
lengthy period of growing pains
is in the offing’’ and that Catho
lic journalism must be “ade
quately equipped ‘to disturb the
comfortable and to comfort the
disturbed’.”)
hv.
Cardinal-Designate
Lawrence J. Sheehan
Since the day when journal
ism itself became a significant
force in society, Catholic jour
nalism has been a profession
of vast potential. As the general
role of journalism gained influ
ence through the growth of
democratic institutions, the cor
relative vocation of Cat h o 1 i c
journalism became more neces
sary for the formation of Christ-
centered faithful and Christ-
minded citizens.
Hence, for all its accuracy,
the repeated assertion has long
grown threadbare that “never
has true Catholic journalism
been more necessary than now.”
We are therefore condemned to
a cliche when we justifiably
make that same assertion in a
year when the Second Vatican
Council will most likely end and
a postconeiliar age will begin.
Cardinal-Designate
Lawrence J. Sheehan
Once again, history proves that
nothing is so true as a truism.
History — both past and ex
ceedingly recent — likewise sug
gests that within the Church a
lengthy period of growing pains
is in the offing. During this pe
riod, Catholic journalism will
be uniquely challenged and
must be adequately eauipned
“to disturb the comfortable and
to comfort the disturbed.”
The council’s master docu
ment, On the Church, insists
that the laity should openly re
veal their needs and desires to
their pastors. This they should
do “with that freedom and con
fidence befitting children of
God and brothers in Christ.”
Further, “the laity are, by
means of the knowledge, com
petence, or outstanding ability
which they may enjoy, permit
ted and sometimes even obliged
to express their opinion on those
things which concern the good
of the Church.’’
The council document directs
that such opinions should be ex
pressed “through agencies set
up by the Church for this pur
pose.” One such agency already
exists in the pages of the Cath
olic press, where news stories,
columns of opinion, editorials,
and letters to the editor can in
a practical way both generate
and reflect that public opinion
—which, as recent popes have
reminded us — operates as a
needful part of the Church’s
life.
Public opinion, however,
should be in continuous conver
sation with the authentic teach
ers of the living Church. Here
the Catholic press is called upon
to function as an intermediary
between the divinely appointed
teachers within the Church and
the whole people of God who
are summoned to transform the
everyday world according to the
mind of Christ. As such an in
termediary, the Catholic press
offers no more creative service
than the promotion of that ecu
menical or household dialogue
which ought to flourish within
the Church between all ranks of
her members.
It would surely be hurtfully
ironic if this exhilarating age
of patient, courteous, and hum
ble dialogue between Christians
were accompanied by the ab
sence of such dialogue between
Catholics themselves. Here as
in so many areas, Catholic jour
nalists can lead the way in ex
emplifying the council’s words
about the “truthfulness, cour
age, and prudence” with which
opinions should be voiced with
in the Church, as well as “the
reverence and charity due to
those who by reason of their
sacred office represent the Per
son of Christ.”
May Catholic Press Month
1965, be the occasion of profes
sional rededication to the worth
ily classic maxim: in necessary
matters unity; in open matters,
freedom; in all matters, chari
ty. On every side may fresh
honor be given to the wisdom
of St. Francis de Sales concern
ing the superior effectiveness of
honey over vinegar. Mindful of
Pope Paul’s admonition that the
Catholic press can no longer be
regarded as a luxury, may all
literate members of the Church
resolve to serve God with their
whole minds by making the
Catholic press a conscientious
part of their ordinary reading
matter for worthy Catholic jour
nalism will provide them with
reading matter which really
matters.
Churches
Map T alks
With Rome
ADDIS ABABA, Ethiopia (NC)
—The major Eastern churches
which withdrew from commun
ion with both the Sees of Rome
and Constantinople after the
Council of Chalcedon 15 centu
ries ago have agreed on ex
ploratory conversations with
Roman Catholic Church.
At the same time they also
decided to pursue and solidify
their relations with the World
Council of Churches.
The churches involved issued
their final report at the conclu
sion of a weeklong meeting here
which was the first such “sum
mit” session. The (Jan. 15-21)
meeting was convoked by Em
peror Haile Selassie of Ethio
pia, who is honorary head of the
Coptic Church in Ethiopia.
The non-Byzantine churchmen
named a commission, with two
repre sentatives from each
church, to set up a permanent
body to be entrusted with the
work of internal reform.
FIRST SUNDAY IN LENT
More Liturgy Changes
PREPARING TESTIMONY on federal aid to education, presented (Jan. 28) to the House
Education sub-committee, was this panel representing the .Catholic school system (left
to right): Msgr. William E. McManus, Chicago, superintendent of the largest Catholic
school system in the country; Mr, Edward McArdle, Washington, D.C., who focussed on
the parents’ view of the child’s needs as the father of seven children; Msgr. Frederick
G. Hochwalt, Director, Education Department, N.C.W.C., and Msgr. John B. McDowell,
superintendent of the Pittsburgh diocesan school system. (NC Photos)
Slated For March 7th
VATICAN CITY (NC) — New
standard liturgical books soon
to be published provide for the
first part of the Mass, the Litur
gy of the Word, to be celebrat
ed at the lectern or pulpit in
stead of at the altar.
With this provision, the priest
would preside from his chair,
and not ascend to the altar un
til the Offertory, beginning the
Liturgy of the Eucharist. The
new Mass books also will direct
that the missal remain in one
spot on the altar from the Of
fertory until the end of Mass-
being placed to the left of the
celebrant and kept there, in
stead of being moved from
right to left and back.
Another innovation will be the
omission of the genuflection dur
ing the Creed, except at Christ
mas and the feast of the Annun
ciation. Instead of genuflecting
at the words, “. . . and was
made man,’’ the priest and con
gregation will bow.
These new changes were re
vealed here in an article in
L’Osservatore Romano (Jan. 28)
by Father Annibale Bugnini,
C.M., secretary of the postcon-
ciliar liturgy commission and
newly appointed! undersecretary
for liturgy of the Congregation
of Rites.
Father Bugnini disclosed in
formation concerning new edi
tions of several liturgical books
which are to be published im
minently by the Vatican Poly
glot Press. Among them is one
intended to provide guidelines
for national bishops’ conferences
for the general framework of
the common prayer, or prayer
of the faithful. This litany-type
prayer is to come into general
use immediately before the Of
fertory with the changes of
March 7, the first Sunday of
Lent.
Father Bugnini said that the
first of the revised books to be
issued will be the Ordo Missae,
the section of the missal com
prising the Ordinary and Canon
of the Mass.
Declaring that the revisions
in this volume “have changed
nothing substantially,” the priest
added: “The tone has changed
but the melody remains as be
fore, as always. Even in its re
touching, everything was deli
cately and attentively examined
with heart, rather than mind,
to harmonize the rite with the
wise and precise norms laid
down by the council’s document
(Constitution on the Sacred Li
turgy).”
Father Bugnini recalled the
provisions of the Holy See’s li
turgical instruction of last Sept.
26, to go into effect on March
7, which will require that some
Mass prayers hitherto recited in
a low voice be sung or recited
aloud. Among these are the se
cret prayer or prayer over the
offerings, the doxology at the
end of the Canon, and the pray
er for peace immediately follow
ing the Lord’s Prayer.
Regarding the Communion of
the faithful in the Eucharistic
Meal, Father Bugnini asserted:
“A Mass without the commun
ion of the faithful is like a ring
without its precious stone.”
Turning to the prayer of the
faithful, the Vincentian liturgist
said it will vary from week to
week at the discretion of the
celebrant, but within a format
to be approved by the national
body of bishops. This common
prayer is to be in the vernacu
lar, he observed, and is intend
ed to express the special con
cerns of the community in which
the Mass is being celebrated.
Father Bugnini said that the
Polyglot Press volume “is not a
collection of already - prepared
models, which would be contrary
to the laws of the prayer of the
faithful, but is a guide for prep
aration of these models.”* Thus
the book will contain seven or
eight samples formulated sim
ply to demonstrate the spirit of
the format to be approved by
the various bishops 1 conferences.
In addition to the new Ordo
Missae with its simplified direc
tions for celebrating the Mass,
the new books include a revised
Kyriale, which contains- the
chant of the Ordinary of the
Mass, and another entitled
“Chants Called For in the Rom
an Missal.” This latter, Father
Bugnini said, contains a small
selection of melodies to be used
in new forms of the Mass, in
cluding the rite of concelebra-
tion, the prayer of the faithful
and other innovations which be
come effective March 7.
FR. JOSEPH: WORKER'S PRIEST
COMMUNISTS IN SOUTH INDIA WOULD LIKE TO GET RID
OF FATHER JOSEPH CHAKIAK. Because he is the worker’s
priest, Communism has an uphill
fight in the factory town of Eloor
. . . 20,000 workers, half of them
Catholics, put in long hours for
less than $1 a day. Families have
eight and ten children, the cost of
living goes up and up, and the
Communists make false promises
Father Joseph fights vigor
ously for social justice. Does he
worry about the outcome? “David
had only one small stone when he
went out to fight Goliath,” he says
. . For the church and parish cen
ter Father Joseph needs, Archbishop Parecattil, 53, asks our
readers’ help. “The workers stand in the rain when Father
Joseph offers Mass,” he reports. “If we can build a parish
center and a church, we can guarantee for generations to come
the extraordinary work Father Joseph is doing.” . . The church
will cost only $2,900—the parish center, $3,600. Will you put a
stone in Father Joseph’s sling? Name the church (or the
parish center) in honor of your favorite saint (St. Joseph the
Worker?), in memory of your loved ones, if you build it all by
yourself. Send at least a smaller gift—$100, $50, $10, $5, $2.
You’ll be helping Father Joseph fight for the poor Christ loves.
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