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FAMILY CLINIC
By JOHN J. KANE, Ph D.
Professor of Sociology
University of Notre Dame
I am a working mother with
three children whom I do not
neglect. But I have been in the
forefront of union activity and
received some publicity which
my children dislike. I believe
in unions, and have the oppor
tunity of accepting an office
with a newly organized union,
all of which is in keeping with
my convictions. Should I
accept this position at the risk
of causing difficulties at home
with the children? Myhusband
approves.
* * *
You letter is among the most
interesting I have ever re
ceived. I believe many readers
will agree because it points
up a not uncommon dilemma of
modern parenthood; how far
do obligations to children ex
tend?
A number of American fam
ilies are really child centered,
in fact, too much so. There
are probably few parents who
have not experienced feelings
of guilt in reading much of the
p s ychiat ric, ps ychological and
sociological literature on
child rearing. Parents literal
ly are blamed for almost
everything that befalls chil
dren. More rarely are they
given credit for the success
children enjoy.
Quite obviously, some
parents do neglect children.
All parents sometimes make
mistakes in child rearing. And
so a fear gnaws at the heart
of many parents who tend to
blame themselves for any ad
verse condition suffered by
their children. Sometimes
they are responsible; some
times they are not, and this
latter part of the statement
is just as important as the
former.
Many American families to
day are moving ahead. The
middle class is expanding and
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so parents, or at least very
many parents, do try to give
children advantages they
never enjoyed. Within limits
this is good, but only within
limits.
During life we must all
undergo some frustrations
and disappointments. The
parents who tries to forestall
this during all of the child’s
life makes a mistake. Since
some of this is inevitable, how
much better to teach children
how to bear up under adversity
when it is inevitable.
As consequence some chil
dren literally become tyrants.
They not only try but do dictate
to their parents who, wilting
under fear of faulty child rear
ing, succumb. Here is an ex
ample of poor child rearing
that merits much more at
tention than it receives.
Parents are older, and ade
quate parents have learned to
profit by experience. Usually
they are in a better position
than young children to make
decisions especially about
their own lives.
So far as one can offer a
rule of thumb, it is better for
a mother with preschool chil
dren not to work outside the
home. Sometimes out of sheer
economic necessity they must.
But if children are adequately
cared for and the mother tries
to compensate for her ab
sence, no grave harm inevit
ably follows.
You say your children are not
neglected. You find union ac
tivity an area in which you
have strong convictions and
which enriches your life. I see
no reason why you should with
draw from it because of what
are literally and figuratively
childish objections.
Union activity is still a con
troversial area in some sec
tions of American public opin
ion. The publicity which you
received is apparently entire
ly misunderstood by your
youngsters, perhaps they as
sociate with friends who be
lieve unions are unsavory and
this has rubbed off on them.
Furthermore, both your union
activity and publicity single
you out from other mothers,
and at times this does dis
turb children.
There is one quite definite
step which you must take. You
and your husband, who agrees
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with you, must teach the chil
dren what unions are, what
they try to do and above all.
what the conditions of the
working men were prior to
unions. Naturally, you will
freely grant that some unions
have made mistakes and that
unfortunately graft and cor
ruption are no more alien to
some unions than to many
other aspects of American
life.
If they are old enough to
read and appreicate it, let
them become acquainted with
the lives of some great union
leaders, and also with some
of the tragic occurrences as
sociated with the efforts of
working men to organize. If
they do, they will see your
role quite differently and be
proud, not ashamed, of what
you ar e doing.
I am not going to pretend
that the children will not suf
fer some scars from your
work and from the limelight
in which you may live. One
writer, internationally known,
who handled controversial
subjects once told me how his
children were insulted by be
ing told their father was a
Communist, a charge entirely
unfounded.
Here again, is an oppor
tunity of teaching your chil
dren something about the so
ciety in which they live. Peo
ple do misrepresent and dis
tort matters particularly when
they are a vested interest
and feel they are apt to suffer
from union or any other kind
of activity even though it is
badly needed and long over
due.
All children suffer some
scars as they go through life.
Perhaps the scars yours will
undergo will ultimately seem
to them stripes of honor. For
you to give in to them on this
issue I fear is merely to
practise a type of overprotec
tion which can only harm, not
help them.
There is, however, one
danger and you must remain
constantly aware of it. As
you become more and more
involved in union organiza
tions, if you do, you may,
without being quite aware of
it, neglect your children. Some
persons quite prominent in 1
public life have done exactly
this. But forewarned is fore
armed, and you can cope with
it. If not, the withdrawal would
be indicated.
But so long as you take ade
quate care of your children,
provide a wholesome home
life for your husband and them,
I see no reason for abandon
ing your convictions for what
are childish complaints not
based on reason. If many wo
men had done this, we would
have lost some truly great
leaders and our society would
be the worse for it.
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For the first time the Catholic Newman Club at Albany State
College was represented in the college’s Homecoming parade.
Miss Veatrice Miller, sophomore and member of St. Augustine
parish, Thomasville, was named Miss Newman Club.
St. Simon’s Bazaar
St. Williams Parish Council of Catholic Women, St. Simons
Island, Ga. will hold its annual Christmas Bazaar at the County
Casino on the Island on Wednesday, December 7, from 9:00 A M.
to 8:00 P.M. There will be a wide variety of handicrafts, home
made goodies and table decorations, chili will be served through
out the day and provision made for take out orders.
Macon Discussion Club
St. Joseph’s Parish Council of Catholic Women (Macon) is
sponsoring a discussion club on the documents of the Second
Vatican Council. Meetings are held on the first and third
Tuesday of each month from 1:30 to 3 PM. The first meeting
was held on November 15th. More than 20 women attended.
The next meeting will be on December 6th.
Perry Bazaar
The Catholic Mission of Perry is sponsoring a Country Store
Christmas Bazaar on December 3rd from 10 A M. to 10 P.M.
It will be held at the Perry National Guard Armory, and will
offer Christmas gifts, decorations, candies, cakes, preserves,
baked goods and many useful items for the home. Bed spreads
will also be featured. Refreshments will be served and every
one is cordially invited, proceeds will go to the building fund
for the new Catholic church at Perry.
St. Mary’s P.C.C.W.
Instructions for the preparation and use of the Advent Wreath,
by Mrs. Elizabeth Berksteiner, were a feature of the November
meeting of the Parish Council of Most Pure Heart of Mary parish,
Savannah. Mrs. Rose Miller, president expressed her apprecia
tion to aU who had participated in the Block Rosary during the
month of October. Council members pledged their assistance
in helping with arrangements for the forth-coming Diocesan
Liturgical Conference.
Brunswick Clergy Dinner
Approximately fifty members of Brunswick’s Henry T. Ross
Council 1939, Knights of Columbus honored clergy of the area
at a “Clergy Night” Dinner at Crew’s Restaurant on November
22nd. As it was the third anniversary of his death, special tri
bute was paid the late President John Kennedy. Priests honored
were: Rev. Paul Burkort, S. M., pastor of St. Francis Xavier;
Rev. Andrew A. Walls, S. M., Rev. Raymond E. Healy, S. M.,
Rev. Timothy Sugrue, S. M. and Glynco NAS Chaplain Lt. Robert
Quinn.
Brunswick P.C.C.W.
Mrs. George Loughlin presented a program on the Advent
Wreath at the November meeting of St. Francis Xavier’s (Bruns
wick) Parish Council of Catholic Women. Members will gather
in the K. of C. Hall on Monday, December 5th, to pack clothes for
the Bishops’ drive. Plans were formulated for the annual Christ
mas party to be held Wednesday, December 14th, at Renaldo’s.
In lieu of exchanging presents, it was decided that members
would make donations for layettes which will be forwarded to
the Holy Father’s Storehouse. The meeting was held at the
home of Mrs. C. A. Cloud. Co-hostesses were Mrs. Ferman
Ricks and Mrs. Donal Brunegraff.
THANKSGIVING GIFTS — Miss Nancy Stock and
Miss Sharon Peters (in uniform) arranging gifts
presented by Student Nurses at St. Joseph’s Hospi
tal, Savannah, to needy family. The basket of food,
as well as clothing, was delivered to the family on
November 23rd, and highlighted a Thanksgiving
program which included a Bible Vigil conducted
by the Reverend William Simmons.
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BANS DISCRIMINATION
Holy See Endorses U.N.
Civil Rights Document
UNITED NATIONS, N. Y.
(RNS)—The Holy See has en
dorsed the International Con
vention on the Elimination
of All Forms of Racial Dis
crimination.
Msgr. Alberto Giovannetti,
the Vatican’s permanent ob
server to the United Nations,
signed the first international
civil rights treaty in the of
fice of Secretary General U
Thant.
Adopted by the U. N. Gen
eral Assembly on Dec. 21,
1965, this convention binds
U. N. signatory states to “con
demn racial discrimination
and undertake to pursue, by
all appropriate means and
without delay, a policy of
eliminating racial discrimi
nation in all its forms and pro
moting understanding among
all races.”
Furthermore, the treaty re
quires “special and concrete
measures to insure the ade
quate development and pro
tection of certain racial
groups or individuals belong
ing to them.”
Civil rights legislation for
the protection of members of
racial minorities in every
field including education and
employment is to be enacted
and enforced, according to the
treaty.
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be brought before appropriate
courts within signatory states.
Nations are asked to promote
interracial understanding
through educational programs
using all media of communi
cation.
To date, 43 U.N. member
states, including the United
States, have signed the treaty.
The office of the Holy See
at the U. N. announced that
an official statement on the
significance of this first in
ternational agreement to com
bat racial prejudice and pro
mote interracial understand
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