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19 THE SOUTHERN ISRAELITE July 28, 1978
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Atlanta’s
Matchmaker
The One and Only
That You
Saw on Today in Ga.
Heard on WRNG
Read about in
The Southern Israelite
The Constitution
The Senior Tribune
Off Peachtree
Creative Loafing
What else do you
need to convince
yourself to call for
an appointment and to
be one of the people
she already represents
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Have I got an answer for you!
by Ira. L. TedofT, Ph.D.
I work in a large office and
occasionally hear someone say,
“be Jewed me down” or “he Jewed
the price down.” As a Jew, should I
take oftense at this?
Of course, if you find such ethnic
expressions offensive, they are
going to be offensive to you,
regardless of whether I or someone
else tells you that you should feel
differently.
However, expressions such as
those you have mentioned, arc not
necessarily intended by the user to
be prejudicial or disparaging.
Although in some circles, “Jewing
someone down” may be regarded
as negative and be indicative of
anti-Semitic feeling, such
expressions frequently are used by
individuals in either a neutral, or
complimentary way. In the latter
instance, these expressions have
attached to them a positive
connotation.
Slang expressions, such as these,
while originally spawned in a
fertile environment of anti-
Semitism, for many people have
become a colorfully descriptive
way of acknowledging, in a
positive sense, shrewd and
successful business skill. After all,
is not such a skill admired and
rewarded in our free enterprise
system! And have not may non-
Jews been heard to proclaim as a
form of self-praise at having
transacted a successful business
negotiation, “I Jewed him down!”
I, therefore, believe it important
to determine how an individual is
using such expressions before
assuming that the individual is
anti-Semitic. You may be in for a
surprise, should you choose to
check out where your office
colleagues are coming from.
My sister passed-away and was
buried two weeks ago. Her
husband has not cried about her
death as yet. I question whether or
not he loved her, or had any kind
of feeling for her because of his not
showing any emotion. Could his
lack of tears mean anything else?
A lack of expression of feelings
of sorrow and emotional pain at
the death of a loved one is not
necessarily indicative of a lack of
love tor, or caring for the deceased.
Many people experience
difficulty in accepting the death of
their spouse, and tend to defend
against the horrifying painful
reality by blocking out or “not
allowing" themselves to experience
those intense feelings of sadness.
Others, are so scared at the
prospect of living without their
loved one, that they “fight” against
“owning" and expressing their
feelings, for fear that they will be
rendered incapacitated by them,
and unable to function.
Still other people do their
mourning in private, even though
doing so is often psychologically
unhealthy in that it is extremely
valuable for the mourner to feel
others’ empathy and caring for
them. Such individuals may view
the expression of such feelings as a
sign of weakness. Men are more
likely to adopt such a position
because of the socialization
process in our society whereby
men have not been given
“permission” to express their
feelings.
Whatever the reason for an
individuals' “choosing” not to
express their feelings, doing so
may prove to be potentially self
destructive. A mourning period
after death of a loved one is not
only normal, but healthy for the
individual. Such unexpressed
feelings, which do not get worked
through, may lead to lengthy
periods of masked or hidden
depression, and even psycho
somatic illnesses.
MILLER FOR LT. GOVERNOR
ECONOMIC DEVELOPMENT — As Chairman of the Ga. Council on
Economic Development, was instrumental in 1977s record $1.1 billion in
manufacturing capital investment
CONSERVATIVE GOVERNMENT — Less than 90 new employees
added in the past 3 years to State government Expenses for the Office of Lt
Gov. dropped.
EDUCATION — An educator from a family of educators, he was a leader
in passing the best budget for education in recent history this year. ,
EQUAL OPPORTUNITY — His staff and appointments reflect his
concern with blacks, women and students prevalent Leading
spokesperson for the elderly.
SENATE REFORM — Brought dignity and significant change with
sweeping rule changes, a modem research staff and open meetings.
LAW AND ORDER — Peace Officers overwhelmingly support him for
upgrading their qualifications and pushing for swift and sure punishment
for offenders.
TAX REFORM — Called it a “must” and proposed a study commission
years ago! First to advocate property tax relief by the State assuming the
required local effort for education.
PAID POLITICAL ADVERTISEMENT
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Get hopping and the chicken
grease popping for a traditional
Shabbat din-din on Friday, July
28, with the Forum (ages 23 to 35).
For details give Mark Eisenberg
a cackle at 636-4086 from 9 a.m. to
5 p.m.
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Sip some brew, if you're new, we
welcome all—even you. Come to
the Atlanta Leisure Club's (ages 28
to 45) new members’ coffee on
August I at 8 p.m.
The hostess with the mostest is
Arlene Briskman. Give her a ring
or a bracelet at 791-3794 or call
Patsy at 876-3634 for further
details.
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Golden bodies will reveal all in
Eric Taylor’s slides of his recent
trip to the golden isles of Greece
Plenty of women for you men and
plenty of men for you women in his
city sights and glimpses of hidden
beaches.
So slide on over to the Thursday
Singles at the AJCC on August 3 at
8 p.m. Cost is 50cents for members
and SI for non-members. Coffee
included.
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Pitch a tent and cut loose for a
weekend in the woods with the
Atlanta Leisure Club as the group
hosts a camp-out at Stone
Mountain, Saturday and Sunday,
July 29 and 30.
The outing includes hiking,
biking, sunning and whatever you
wish.
Cost is S4 per tent, with a
maximum of 65 tents to be issued
on a firstcome, first-served basis.
For biking rather than hiking,
join the group on Sunday, July 30
and peddle away your Sunday
around Stone Mountain. Bikers
should meet at Stone Mountain
Park’s bike rental location, at 1:30
p.m.
Bike rental cost is $2 for two
hours or S5 for the day.
For arrangements and
reservations call Phyllis Kahn,
634-7983 (home) or 351-6510
(work).
Chef Heinz brings YOU
THE “COOL” ONES
For your mid-summer enjoyment
From our menu
Fresh Fruit Platter
Chicken salad Singapore,
Sesame seed and honey dressing
nZ
Earth and Sea Platter
A Dining Experience
With International Flair
The Brass Key Restaurant
Peachtree Battle Center
2355 Peachtree Rd. - Reservations 233-3202
Brunei} Saturday 12:00 Noon - 3 p.m.
Lunch . Dinner
Mon. - Fri. ™>" - Thurs. Fri. & Sat.
