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— Griffin Daily News Wednesday, August 10,1977
Page 12
Do many women
just pretend?
By Abigail Van Buren
1977 by The Chicago Tribune N Y News Synd Inc
DEAR ABBY: Three cheers for LIVING A LlE—the
woman who was honest enough to admit that she did not
enjoy sex, but had "faked it” in the bedroom for 20 years
I, too, was married for 20 years and never really enjoyed
sex. I have come to the conclusion that many women do not
enjoy sex, but this in no way affects their ability to love.
Furthermore, I feel that there are many women who
have been living a lie and “faking it” for financial reasons
and because they enjoy all the other aspects of marriage.
Please print this to see if there are other women honest
enough to admit this.
HONEST IN TUCSON
DEAR ABBY: I have been reading, with pleasure, your
column containing the letters from the 50-year-old and the
36-year-old, both of whom seem to value love above sex.
I am happy to know there are others who feel as I do. I
had about given up and decided maybe I was some kind of
freak. I value sex highly, but as a fulfillment of love. I am
very affectionate, and enjoy being held close, kissed and
caressed by someone I love; and the feeling of love
between us is what turns me on. I am considered frigid
because I feel this way, and because I cannot crawl into
bed with no love or tenderness involved, and go through all
kinds of mattress acrobatics, as if jlaying a game, and fdel
I had a wonderful time and complete fulfillment.
I am not saying this way is wrong, but it is not for me
and I resent being considered odd because I feel this way.
It is good to know there are others who believe in love.
When the sex drive is long gone, love and tender memories
«sr ill fit ill thpTP
ANOTHER AFFECTIONATE LOVER
DEAR ABBY: Why will no one ever come right out and
say that sex can be uncomfortable, sometimes painful and
often messy? Sex isn't always that heavenly experience
that sex manuals and porno promoters would have us
believe.
Sometimes it's 0.K., particularly if one can bathe
luxuriously, get glamorous and beautified, and get into a
good and relaxed mood. But how many working women or
women with small children can do that?
I feel that I have been denied an outlet for real affection
all my life. Affection to my husband has always meant sex.
For my part I've come to hate even the thought of it. I
could hardly wait until menopause, and have since then
just said, "No, I’m too old.” But I would like to have said
■’No" much earlier.
LIVING WITHOUT IT
DEAR ABBY: When I was young, I thought of sex as
being a dirty game. I never really enjoyed it. I just put up
with it. You can be kind, loving and good to a man without
having sex. I would rather just lie in his arms.
I am normal and have two children but I never went wild
over sex.
Thanks for printing some letters in your column from
women who feel the same as I. Until I read them I was
ashamed of my feelings and thought that something must
be wrong with me. I wanted to write a letter like this 24
years ago, but didn't have the nerve.
Everyone has a problem. What’s yours? For a personal
reply, write to ABBY: Box No. 69700, L.A., Calif. 90069.
Enclose stamped, self-addressed envelope please.
X’s mark the spots
in center’s ‘war room’
By STEPHEN C. SMITH
Associated Press Writer
BOISE, Idaho (AP) - The
room has a panoramic view of
the southern Idaho desert, but
no one has time to enjoy it.
Technicians scurry from radio
consoles to maps of the western
United States marked with big
red X’s.
Each X represents a forest
fire. This is the “war room” of
the Boise Interagency Fire Cen
er, which is coordinating a
battle against flames that have
consumed nearly 2 million
acres in seven states.
Near the maps, each fire and
its size is posted. On a large
board nearby, the location of
fire fighting aircraft is plotted.
Voices are heard checking the
location of men and equipment.
Spread over desks are situ
ation reports, cold cups of cof
fee and half-smoked cigarettes.
Tension fills the room. The
fire situation remains critical,
and the long hours and hard
work are beginning to show on
the faces of crews who staff the
centers 24 hours a day. Some
have been on duty almost con
stantly since last Thursday,
when a special fire emergency
plan was put into effect.
The fire center is a coopera
tive effort of five federal
agencies — the US. Forest
Service, the Bureau of Land
Management, the Bureau of In
dian Affairs, the National Park
Service and the UJ. Fish and
Wildlife Service.
Through it, men and equip
ment are routed to fight fires in
California, Oregon,
Washington, Alaska, Colorado,
Utah and Arizona.
“This is the most central lo
cation for large forest fire lo
gistical supply, manpower and
equipment to the western
United States. This is where the
largest forest fires occur and
where the need is the greatest, ’’
said the center's director, R.L.
BJomaen.
On Monday, more than 1,000
experienced firefighters were
either waiting at Boise or en
route to the center for dis
patching to other western
points, said Arnold Hartigan, a
fire information officer. Since
Thursday, he said, nearly 2,000
men had been dispatched
through the center.
After the crews arrive at the
center, they usually rest for 24
hours, receive training in the
use of protective fire suits, then
are airlifted to areas where
more crews are needed.
Crews from the East and
Southeast have been summoned
to augment the weary local
firefighters, stretched thin as
the blazes continue to spread.
Several crews arrived early
Monday morning from Knox
ville, Tenn., and spent most of
the day relaxing around the
center, waiting for orders to
head for a fire.
Arthur Bradley of Laurel,
Miss., said this was the seventh
time he had flown west to fight
fires. “I’ve fought fires in Mon
tana, then in New Mexico... and
last year we were in Virginia,
Kentucky, then on that big one
up in Michigan," he said.
The mess hall was full Mon
day as crews flown in the night
before ate lunch and waited for
the call to move out. They had
come not only from Mississippi,
but from national forest and Job
Corps crews in North Carolina
and Virginia, and from state
divisions of forestry in Ten
nessee and Pennsylvania.
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