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Problems '
o/rmr ried Life
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[Copyright, by pi ern i ng jj. Revell
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Springtime of Married Life.
rJ I balmy and
X glowing
~ ing in the spring
time of marrifel
Mf/L'lsoer 9fe. There * s tlle
Sfinlfll joy of anew be-
V y 'gSC'CT ginning wh e n
two face anew
J , Jp||oß world together,
, V |L- lilv e Adam and
I Eden of old. Life
1 I Hffll 1 "with infinite
I 1 ■WI I possibilities, and
£ IWITO' sibillties and
P J iW new habits, de
termining it liar-
vest of good cr
I Springtime. f m for both, put
ftrth their first tender buds of prom
l" and prophecy.
1 Dual living means the harmonizing
If twv lives in unity. It requires eon-
B?icusVbnsecrnted effort toward attain
ment. In this period of becoming used
■> each other, of learning, experiment,
ftmpromise and adjustment mistakes
fte inevitable. This springtime should
ft taken seriously, but not too serious
ft -Little inharmonles are dangerous,
ftt in themselves, but in the bitter
Memories they may leave.
■ [Those married people who tell you
In fifteen years after the wedding
lat there never lias been one cross
word spoken between them,'never a
Moment of even irritation, never a sin
no shadowing cloud of disagreement,
ftlong to one of three classes: They
ftve been mercifully endowed with a
for forgetting, they handle truth
a certain shyness, or one of them
silent, overawed victim of the
other’s personality.
Slave you ever heard an old sea cap-
An boast that In all his experience he
fld never seen a squally sea. never a
(fill, heavy, storm laden sky. never
Sard the tempest shriek through the
Aging anl%hreaten to tear away the
Asts? His pride is in his skill, not in
k luck. The matrimonial sea never
pwnains absolutely serene and calm,
no ruffing’ for years at a
The i vitjy, point is that the
Arms lmve'lm been weathered in
and the love and trust, puri-
TMd by time, remain undaunted.
|n the days of courtship two may
i that they thoroughly understand
Ah other, and that no matter how
Any marriages may fail their Lap-
Acss together is absolutely assured.
' At courtship is only the kindergarten
matrimony. Courtship is the
JBgttatory canter, not the r -a. 1 rare.
|||||||HA mat
rtfltfAie ae,
IgiiHomi :
e of the
nope; marriage is the long cruise
across uncharted seas.
Happiness in married life means the
happiness of two. made by two; neither
cB do all. No individual can sing a
(At. They should feel glad to bear
Arthlng and everything that fate may
ling them for each other, but not
Am each other. With union toward
(losing conditions and unity between
tßm selves they can command happl
lAs. Their attitude is of supreme lm
jwtance; everything else is secondary,
ills not what comes to them, but the
slrit in which they meet it. that really
cants.
In love, loyalty, comradeship and
ritual dependence, even trial, sorrow,
sikness and poverty, may bring them
olv nearer and dearer, soul serene
nil heart glad that they still have each
oler. This condition never comes
tfcugh drifting, by letting things take
i- course, by just hoping that some
it will all turn out right. Merely
it and wanting it will neither
-Ste nor keep this harmony: they
Into t fvill to make it. determine, by
li|lg individually at their best, to
ulte in the finest unity. The responsi
hl :y rests on both; the failure may be
dl to either.
I iere will come a time In this spring
til when they awaken to the con
i™ApMyfciltf,leusunt traits in each
fflKm f 1 •
■ ■
sin*
MlfAl itv but a chronic tender henrt
edness that makes it hard for him to
{()odby to a dollar^
too. may suddenly find himself
ous of unnoted imperfections In
nd they loom large before him.
are, at times,-a sharpness and a
less In the upper register of her
Ing voice that almost suggest
illlty. She would never win a
nednl as a housekeeper and one
> be bun T * '
u g. on.'ersaliunal charm
spetn^fwumm^vorm^fuhereormriom
place when subjected to the test of
continuous performance. Her hair is
not always rigorously brushed into
orthodoxy, and she does not seem to
worry much about the immacuiateness
of her attire around the house.
The items in the catalogue of pro
gressive revelation vary: their impor
tance depends largely on the spirit of
the interpretation. They are a bit dis
illusioning. it is true, but they are not
fatal. We all are human and have
faults, failings and foibles. We have
no right to expect perfection unless we
can give it in return. Ter feet people,
too, would be awfully tiresome to live
with; their stained glass view of things
would seetn a constant sermon without
intermission, a continuous moral snub
of superiority to our self respect.
Let us not consign the Venus de Milo
to the rubbish heap because she has
no arms; she is greater without them
than any other marble lady, fully
armed. In all the world’s history. Let
us accept the little failings of those
we love as we do a mortgage on a valu
able property: if we,cannot remove it
or decrease it. pay the interest cheer
fully and then forget it.
When the young wife asks her hus
band to point out all her little faults
so that she can correct them, any little
thing that does not come quite up to
his ideal, for she “loves him so much
that she wants to be absolutely per
fect in his eyes,” let him realize the
sacred sweetness, the instinctive fine
ness. the tender, wistful longing of its
consecration and show himself worthy
of it. This cry of the emotions, this
high tide of a mood of genuineness, is
a crucial moment. Conscious that he
is nearing the thin ice of heart di
plomacy, let him tenderly assure her
with a caress that she is flawless as
the Kohinoor and gently smile away
the possibility of even perfection itself
being as perfect as she.
The first storm usually arises from a
trifle, and in a few moments a gentle
zephyr of misunderstanding becomes a
whirlwind. There are only three or
four moves on each side, and in sur- !
veying the emotional wreckage both
may be dazed and unable to say how j
it started. Each may say more than :
is meant; each may take the other’s j
words too seriously; each oversensitive
and hugging a petty pride may feel
aggrieved and too hurt to think of in
stant attempt at restoring peace and
sunshine. There may be sops, pro
tests and wounded dignity on the part
of one. while the other may become
coldly, stolidly calm, as if .carved in
mahogany.
A slight misunderstanding may be
invaluable to both as a warning, as a
revelation of tendencies, of a charac
teristic of one that the other must
recognize, sis a small blaze may inspire
a realizing sfense of needed precautions
in a home that may make a conflagra
tion later hardly possible. The two
should mark the trait that caused the
trouble as a rock in the channel, a dan
gerous reef that should be removed if
possible. If not removable It should
have a bell and si light so that it may
be recognized and avoided.
When the air of a discussion sud
denly grows sultry and the temptation
comes to cap one sarcasm with another
more sarcastic there should be a pause.
Orators facing an audience and feeling
a twinge of stage fright take a mo
ment to get their bearings to pull them
selves together and conquer the invad
ing nervousness; then they speak their
first few words In a low voice slowly,
gently and deliberately. The orator’s
pause taken in the early stages of a
breakfast table discussion often guar
anteesr peace. When a first misunder
standing Is permitted to degenerate
into harsh and bitter words of con
tempt they leave a stain. They soil
the ermine of delicacy and fineness In
the relation of two that only the big
ness of a great
love can ever
quite restore:
y they make repe
tition easier and
reparation hard
l |P|K/ past and the sun
\ W/l shines bright
I | again, talking it
I Ifei* over and ho!d
--£ i/ ■ ing rehearsals
y and postmor
\ ) J terns is unwise.
j I It should b e
t 1 Li / / buried f'rora
l Lj Xj .memory forev-
Zxyf ( $r as a body Is
£/ „ committed to
_. . 0 . the depths of
The First Storm. .
the ocean In a
funeral at sea. Let us forgive and for
get. If we hold a hurt feeling and
i adopt a martyr pose we show we for
! get that we have forgiven.
It is what follows misunderstanding
1 that really counts. Does it leave a
train of bitter words and recrimina
tion that becomes tuttooed into mera-
I ory, a fit of sulks, tears and lndiffer
-1 ernes that no sunshine of loving
word onn banish, closed Bluebeard
I chambers of remembrance whose doors
we shut with a slam If In later years
■ . iN-m inadvertently? Is
. i itber or both to per-
I p sun of life's
ui .i Ou-Cci. ii?. or do
bringsweeter music ln"fFTe"<Tnys™ ft er
because they are now understood and
vanquished, or. unconquered, do they
recur more frequently and with great
er intensity? Little misunderstand
ings may be summer thunder showers
that clear the air of the home, leaving
it sweet, pure and balmy, or cold, driz
zly November rains that depress and
deaden.
There may be none of this little dis
cord when the individuality of either
is suppressed, when one personality
absolutely dominates the other, when
one always meekly echoes what the
other says, when one meekly walks
the matrimonial chalk line, when the
husband or wife has been “trained.”
Where love has faded into cold in
difference, where a tacit truce of tol
erance is established between two to
whom marriage has become but a
mirage fading away into the perspec
tive of memory, there may be no mo
ments of misunderstanding or inhar
mony because they are in the danger
ous mood of "don’t care" when emo
tion seems paralyzed.
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