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ATHENS BANNER * SUNDAY MORNING. MAY «U8S1
CAN WOMEN KEEP STILL?
"WOMEN’S TONGUES" HUNG ON A
TREE IN NA88AU.
VlMaew Hw* to Talk Iw.m Mm Dn'I
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One or the moat frequent jibe* of man
kind against woman kind U it can
not hold ita tongne, must have the last
word in a controversy, 9, note the fa
in on* acimors dispute between a man
and iila wife, where he, irritated beyond
endurance, threw her into the well, and
■h>% too nearly drowned to speak, held
one hand above the wafer and worked
the fingers to imitate a pair of aeiaaon,
and no maintained her opinion not only
with her last breath bnt after it was
goon.
i know I have mentioned before, and
yet I runxt mention again, my mingled
amnnement and indignation at a little
incident of my visit to Nassau. In the
town xquaro of that pleasant little city
stands a very large tree, I believe of the
locust speciee. When we were then it
was covered with long pods filled with
needs, which being ripe and dry clattered
against each other in every breath of
wind, producing a constant murmur and
whisper, rising occasionally to a perfect
babel of inarticulate voices.
Of course we inquired the name of so
singular a tree, and 1 shall never forget
the demure satisfaction with which the
consul who accompanied ns replied,
“Well, they call it Women's Tongne,
tiecanse, you see, the merest breath is
enough to set it to talking,"
Now, of course, this is a prejudice so
deeply implanted in the masculine mind
that it is quite hopeless to try tb eradi
rate it, but is it a well founded preju
dice? *
My own impression is that the sexes
in Ibis, as in many other directions,
share the foible about equally, and that
there ,w as many male as female ebat-
terboxes.
The public prints some time ago noted
the death of a woman who certainly was
a notable instance of the feminine power
of silence.
Some thirty years ago this fair lady
hud a dispute with her husband, at the
close of which he pettishly exclaimed!
"Oh, do hold your tonguel I’m sick
to death of the sound of your voice!”
“You are, are you!” retorted the wife,
hurt through and through in the faahion
only a woman can comprehend. “Well,
you never shall hear my voice again.”
And she kept her word. After a day
or two of silence on her part the husband
grew uneasy, and finally made advances
toward reconciliation. These were re-
„<X'ved after a fashion—that is to say, the
•wflfo’s face resumed its usual expression,
.she [performed her household duties and
,looked) After her husband's comfort: she
was cheerful with her children, and soon
taught thou, to understand her signs as
well an t hey might have tier language, but
.even to them, even to her little baby,
she never spoke, never laughed aloud
.nev
heard, lest to wlionwver phe spoke her
1, nsband might catch its AOBfld, Then
the .man, fully aroused to the seriousness
of tho occasion, expostulated, command
ed, begged, wept and pleaded upon his
knees that M* wife should break this
terrible resolution. He brought the
minister to iut'erccJe for him: he brought
her nearest relatives, and ho taught the
oldest children to plead for him and for
themselves.
Bnt one course was as n*oles8 as an
other. Tho woman had bnt ono reply,
and that she wrote upon a slip of paper
and presented to each petitioner.
-1 said he never should hear my voice
again, and he sha’n't!”
When, after several years’ use, this pa-
jxt became soiled and tom, the stubborn
creature wrote out another, and never
did she add.» word or make any farther
explanation of her course.
At last the husband lay upoD his death
bed. and as his wife ministered to his
needs he caught btT hand, and in the hol
low and broken voice of a dying man he
begged his wife to forgive hint if indeed
he had offended her so deeply, and to
*l*v»k to him, if only to toy goodby,
and bid him depart in peace. It was the
Inst chance she would have, be reminded
her, aud those who needed forgiveness
should be ready to make forgiveness.
She listened poMently, and then wrote
for ons of her daughter? to read and re-
iK-at that she had nothin? to forgive,
aud that she hade "him .an affectionate
goodby; bnt she bad said he never shwJu
hear her voice.again, and he never should.
But. added nhe, neither jshould any
body else, for she never shook] speak
again so long os she lived. And with
•tsi* strange comfort cite lot hijn die.
Tlten began a new struggle, for the
children pleaded that they had ffioyer of
fended her: there was no pretep.ee of n
cause for renewing her- vow of silence
against them, and begged and besought
Iter to set it aside and come back from
fo/r terrible isolation to be once more
vtU**/* mother,
Bujt still she shook her bead, and only
-wrote opt a new slip of paper:
"i promised him I never would speak
again, and / won’t.”
And so she lived another ten years or
so, .and finally she died, dumb even upon
her deathbed, in spite of the piteous en
treaties of the children, who stall loved
her.
Now. after suchan instance M that,
-does any man as.y that a woman oaonot
hold her tongue?
Of course I don’t mean this as an ex-
nrnple, nor do I think mefc persistency a
Womanly or amiable trait <of character,
hut it surely showed strength of purpose,
and from Lt we may fcdily argue that if
-a woman has determined to hold he?
tongue she is quite capable of doing it.
Of comae every one knows that A
■woman’s tongne is tar men nimble than
a man’s; thatahe has a great deal more to
•ay, and thinks of a reply or a retort#
•great deal sooner than a mao does; that
•her thoughts or fancies formulate them-
Selves more readily, and she has a greet
many more of them; and for all than
it is all but inevitable that she
should talk more than a man does, but
that is not toying that she is unable to
remain sOent if she phases to.
Then again, women in society have to
talk mare than men do—that is tomy, the
avenge woman has to talk
the average man, or those awful psnw
ensue which are so fatal to a social occa-
I appeal to my sister women to'
me out in the statement that 00 per cent,
of the expense of conversation (as the
French call it) in society, or for that mat
ter to private, except among the nearest
relatives, is borne by our sex, and fm
sore I don't know what would become of
society or of man in his social relations
if the women, to refute the charge of
being great talkers, should form “a
trust” and put up the price of speech
and board it in the treasury of their
own brains for a while.
1 tried it on once myself. It was at a
reception, and I was tired and fagged
and rather vexed at some jocose remark*
some of the men had made about the lo
quacity of women and the impossibility
of their keeping anything to themselves,
so 1 suddenly took a resolution of silence,
not so entire as that iff the woman whose
story I have told, bnt I resolved for once
to let somebody elm be at the expense of
the conversation, and only to bear that
burden of response and complacent list
ening usually assumed by the masculine
party.
It was really most amusing; the very
gentleman who had been so funny at the
expense of woman's loquacity was pre
sented to me, and I smiled and bowed.
He made one of thoee brilliant remarks
about the weather usually opening u
conversation. I assented to his state
ment and remained silent, with my eyes
fixed upon his face in the expectant atti
tude I have so often noticed in my mas
culine friends; in fict this gentleman
himself wore it at that very moment.
He cleared his throat, and said there was
qnite a crush in the rooms, and I smiled
most amiably anj replied, “Quite so
Then he began to fidget, glancing help
lessly into my face, as much as to say,
“Why don’t you give roe a lead?” But I
remained blandly unconscious, and in
fused into my manner an air of waiting
for him to speak that must have been
simply maddening. At last he said:
“Yon must meet a great many people
in the course of your travels.”
“A great many,” replied I, and closed
my lips.
“And—and—I suppose you like to,
don't you?’' •
“Like to-^-what?” asked I, with- the
same sort of judicial air 1 have noticed
ig men when they are replying to what
they consider an irrational remark. And
wasn't this irrational?
“Oli, see people you know, and-^-and
ail that sort of thing. Don’t you like to
see people?”
“Do you?" inquired I briefly, and the
poor inan, who thought he had at last
started me off upon a topic congenial
to my experience, wiped his forehead
and stared aghast at finding it thus
tossed back to him.
How the conversation, if you can call
it so, went on I do not now remember,
. , ,, „ , . hut it certainly did not last very long.
». fact, allowed in* voice to be^ jmJ f afterwar / heard that Mr . Land-
So considered Mrs. the hardest per
son to talk to he had ever met. I only
hope he may see this letter, and decide
for himself whether the self sacrificing
exertions most women make to keep up
a conversation ft) society is matter of
derision or of admiration.
And not in society only. In thq fam
ily circle, when the head of the house
comes home tired, rather cross aud dis
posed to grumble at everything, does it
cheer and recuperate him to find a silent
wife aud daughters, each occupied with
her own thoughts or her book, and al
though ready to respond to his remarks
with perfect amiability, originating
nothing and relapsing into silence the
moment his questions are answered?
I should like to see tljat experiment
tried, and recommend it to aqy woman
so happy os to possess a home, and whose
husband Is under the iinpreision that
women are too loquacious, Don’t let
him have any chanoe to call you glum
or sulky or “in the dumps.” Be perfect
ly bright and smiling, prettily dressed
and with a good dinner punctually
served, but don’t talk auy more than is
absolutely necessary; don't, according to
your usual wifely fashion, bring out all
the little events of your day, dressed up
in a fancy garb of comic or pathetic or
marvelous hue; don't tell what Mrs.
Jones said about Mr. Brown, nor how
queerly ska was dressed; don't mention
what you had for lunch, nor how the
poulterer saved this pair pf pheasants on
purpose for yon because tost time you
thanked him so prettily. In fact, out
off all superfluity of language and let
your yea be yea, gpd your nay nay, in
iisifcite strictness. I dou’f believe one
woman to ten is able to do this a whole
evening; not, mind you. because she
couldn’t, but beaauso she wouldn’t—her
kind heart wouldn’t let her; she would
watch not of the corner of jher eye the
growing despondency, the gloom gnd
the dullness overspreading the face of
the man she loved, and al| at once she
would throw off her reticence, laugh like
• brook just breaking through the ice,
perch upon her husband’s knee, and be
wilder him with such a sparkling freshet
of chatter as that same brook may ex
hibit for the delight of the stately trees
whose roots she refreebee and retnvig
call interviews when we bat
ourselves to talk as gayly and as hope
folly as we could, perhaps openly upon
the subject of our friend’s own affairs.
perhaps only in a vague and general
way suggesting hopes *n<l possibilities
and recalling bygone succssms and eulo
gies. watching all the time for the mo
ment when the unsuspecting victim of
our arts begins to brighten, and
straighten up. and (flume himself, and
resume his faith to himself and his des
tiny, until, when he begins to patronise
and instruct us, we feel that the cure is
accomplished for that time, and meekly
accept the commendation he is apt to
bestow upon our light heartedness and
easy flow of language.
And even between lovers—yes, to that
tenderest and least intellectual of rela
tion between men and women—the nim
ble tongue and lively thought of the
Juliet is of infinite service to Romeo
The fact of being in love and engaged to
be married does not materially changn
the mental attitude of the sexes; the man
still needs to be entertained, enlivened
taken out of his commonplace routine,
he needs sympathy, encouragement, ad
vice and expostulation, and how is he to
receiri) them except from the Ups of hi>
betrothed?
In fact, if the girl is as silent as the
jibes of men might tempt her to become,
she fails of half the influence she onght
to have over her lover, and worst of all
they both, in spite of their love making
will find a good many halt hours han^
heavily on hand, and he will remembei
the cigar in his pocket, and she will
stifle a little yawn and wonder what
o'clock it is.
So down with the malicious and mis
taken heresy that women’s tongues are
beyond their own control or that they
run too fast! We could be very silent if
we chose, but we talkoutof pure charity
to mankind, and women’s tongues are to
men’s reason what champagne is to malt
Don't you like champagne?
FURNITURE,
CASKETS, Etc.
No. 835 Hast Broad Street, Athens. Q-a.
Call and compare prices before buying elsewhere.
Marsh IS
eFeb 1
Castor i A
for Infants and Children.
"Oastorta Is sewed adapted to cfafldrea that
r * “ruiqinrlm tnsnjpnsnil|illisi
known to me.” H. A. Aacaxa, M. t..
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Sour Stomach, Diarrhoea. Eructation,
Kills Worms, ghee sleep, aad promotes <B-
Wltnoot injurious i
Tsa Cssrsna Compost, 7T Kerrey Street, K. T.
Our Spring and Summer Stock
IS NOW READY FOR INSPECTION!
The Fashions of Paris.
The “Campanella” form of skirt gains
in popularity with the advance of spring
weather, and nearly all walking dresses
are made in this shape—that is, the skirt
is cut narrow and close fitting at the top
and spreads out at the bottom, and in the
back it falls' into a demi-train with all
the relief massed into a few deep plaits
at the middle of the back. The bottoms
of these Campanella or bell skirts must
have a very stiff band around them to
bold them ont rather widely around the
feet
To wear with these there is nothing so
suitable as the
jong poat, which
may olosely fol
low some regime
or other, or may
be made to suit
the taste or figure
of the wearer
without refer
ence to Louis XV
or any other royal
personage. The
coat in this illus
tration is, like the
skirt, of the new
English Bedford
cord, in light
almond shell
brown, trimmed
with dark moss
green velvet, and
braided with nar
row soutache in
greet) and gold.
One costume
made in similar
style had a trim
ming of narrow
sontachein black,
and with a band
five inches wide
mode of black carpahsiaa costume.
ostrich feathers closely curled. This
feather trimming ou dresses is very pop
ular, and this and velvet are to be worn
on clean streets with impunity. They
jvould scarcely be suitable to wear, how
ever, oq pountry roads or on pavements
that were not plenq.
House and corner lot near Lucy Cobb insu
lt comprises all the latest designs of foreign and domestic manufactures tUte ‘ al '* e lot - stable, *c. At| 1 order,
carefully selected by Mr. C. H. Ferris. It is the most complete selection
we have ever offered. Everything that is new and stylish has been bought.
Taking these facts into consideration, in connection with our established
reputation for good fitting, stylish and well-trimmed clothes, we are^morr
than ever able to give satisfaction.
And that man, and many, many more
of his kind, knows at bis heart, what
ever his tongue may say, that woman’s
facility of speech and willingness to use
U rightly is the true sunshine of hie
And in otter relations of life. A man
has a woman friend whom he loves to
seek when he feels the need of a fresh
impulse to his mental life and new hope
fulness end cheer in his work, whatever
that may be, It is she who does the
most of t>» talking; sometimes he only
sits sod gases jst her iq that helpless sort
of fashion peculiar to tired men—a port
of mute appeal for aid from a discomfort
too vague to put in words, Haven’t wp
all some such friends? Don’t we all re-
A Handsome California Woman.
The wife of Michael H. de Young,
editor and owner of the San Fran
cisco Chronicle, is a handsome blonde
of medium size, with golden brown hair
and large gray eyes full of soul, and
with a peaches-and-cream complexion,
or shell pink. She has a sweet, low
toned voice, and a mouth of more firm-
Tailors and. Outfitters,
820 BROAD STREET. - - - AUGUSTA, GA.
Samples mailed on application.
Feb 27—cdecl3—d3m
PIANOS AND ORGANS!
HA9ELTON & XtOZIER'8
PALACE MUSIC
The only place, ,‘Northeast Georgia to purchase nrst class
mos a.nd
We ;i»e, partial list of onr many customers for reference:
Lucy Cobb Institute.......... ...Eleven Pianos.
Mrs. Crawford, French School Oar Pisnos exclusively.
Cspt. G. H. Tsncey, Athens Capitalist and Merchant,
C»pt. J. J. C. McMahan, Athens Pres’t Exchange Bank.
Billups Pbinixy, Esq , Athens Capitalist.
Miss Ellen Mell, Athens Music Teacher.
Fred. Morton, Esq., Athens Cleric National Bank.
W. W. Lampkin, Athena Capitalist
Dr. Steedlj, Athens, Physician.
Dr. Quillian, Athena . Physician.
112 .Clayton St. Next Post Oice.
FRED S. MORTON,
INSURANCE AGENT.
The Merchants of Newark. The Amazon of. Cincinnati
The Girard of Philadelphia. The Greenwich, of New York.
The National, of Hartford. The Glens Falls. Glens Falls.
The New York Underwriters Agency, N. Y.
—AI.SO, AGENT FOR—
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Office at the NATIONAL BANK OT ATHBNS.
Dili & I
KE1L ESTATB AGENTS.
We call particular attention to the folio wins
properties, in, onr hands for sale. We have
»ou>e of the most desirable lots in the city.
y*’ 11 ®* »f building this summer, »ui
find It to their advantage to cation us before
•electing a lot.
See Some of What We Have.
MJLLEDGK AVESUK.
Vacant lot corner Meigs, 123x400. Magnifi
cent shade trees. Just the spot for a fine house.
This Is one of the best lots on the whole street^
Be .-lire you look at it before buying.
Lot 100 x 450, two fronts, south of Baxter St.
On the west side of Milledge Avenue we hsvs
a lovely lot 2S0 x 500. This la an A 1 place,
ook at lt. r
A nice lot 70 x 200 on Milledge Avenue, west
side, close to Cobb St.
PRINCE AVENUE.
Beautiful lot near the Park, 90 feet front. Oa
the market for one week only.
Beautiful lot 00 x soo. Now Is your chance
for on A 1 building lot, There are only a very
few on this at. now for sale.
COBB STREET.
Two beautiful lots on the Md chandler prop-
jjertjr, overlooking the Phlniay estate. No finer
Large house and severs! acres land on this
street. One of the finest homes In Georgia.
Now Is your chance. This will only be offered
for a short time.
DEARLNG STREET.
comer Harris St. Prof. Barrow has placed
with us i la beautiful borne, lot 192 x 200. House
in first class order. All modern Improvement*,
hot and cold water bathrooms, Ac., Ac. Near
Lucy Cobb Institute,
Vacant lot, corner Pope St., 106 x 400, through
»o Broad St. Would sell half-way through.
WsDDELL 8T. A nice corner lot, 70x209.
WIU tell cheap for cash,
BAXTER STREET.
Corner Harris St., 4 room house, all In good
order. Lot 100 x 400. Two lrontt.
On same street 6 room house, lot 100 x 400,
splendid well, fine fruit. No better situation in
town.
BROAD STREET,
Several fine lots on this street. Now Is your
time to secure them. Will soon advance very
much in price.
BARBER STREET.
We can offer you some beautiful lota on the
west side, right ou tbe Electric Car line-fine
shade trees. This la In every way ■ most desi
rable property. About llOu feet will be rut in
building lots and be sold .on reasonable terms.
Call ana see ns at once.
On same street we have some low priced lets
beyond tbe G.,C. A N. track.
HANCOCK AVENUE.
^Tbat beautiful property owned by Mr. Mc
Duffie. Unless sold at once lt will be taken ott
the market. Our price Is 84609 00 We are
open to an offer.
We have other
owners do not
us about them.
r properties on this street that
wish advertised. Call and nee
Base Balls, Bats, Caps and Belts,
GARDEN AND FLORAL TOOLS.
—FOB Sale at—
Miss Rosa, A. 'Von der Lieth’s*
Nos. 14 and 16 College Avenue
April A cfeb 26—dly.
NATHANIEL F. JACKSON,
Real Estate and General Insurance Agent,
REPRESENTING
MBS. M. H. DE YOUNG.
ness than to usually allotted to beautiful
women. Mrs. de Young has a majesty
of presence, which, with her proudly,
well poised head, gives her the appear
ance of a much taller woman. She is
the daughter of James R. Deane, a pio
neer merchant of ’Frisco, who was as
popular as his charming daughter, who
graduated pit f3t Catharine’s convent,
Benicia, Cal., witl) all the honors. She
was married after one yeap in society a(
the age of eighteen. Mr. and Mrs. da
Young have four children.
Commercial Alliance Life Insurance Co, of N. Y.
Preferred Mutual Accident’Association, of N. Y.
—AND—
The Farmers’ Savings and Building and Loan Association
of Nashville, Tenn.—Capital $20,000,000.—Shares at
$100.00 each. Special Agent for Clarke and
adjacent counties.
211 Clayton. St. - -, ATHENS, GA
April *1—dly.
JACK- ON STREET.
We have the Episcopal Rectory, at present
occupied by Mr. Davis. This lot fronts on Jack-
son -t. and college Avenue. Will sell either ae
n whole or In part.
Jackson 8L, corner Stlhug, * story house-
fine lot, back part can be eold for (1,3)0. This
Isa bargain.*
On same street, large cottage, good lot, 90s
200. A1 situation.
COLLEGE AVENUF.
We have several most desirable properties
that owners will not let as advertise. Cal) and
see ns. One block that la well rented aad pay
ing 121-2 per cent. net.
BROAD STREET.
Vacant lot 400x112 opposite the Campos. If
you want it come at once as tt will be sold.
LUMPKIN STREET. .
Several beautiful lots, part of Mrs. Coaptaa’s
property, beautiful shade trees.
Two lots, corner Baldwin St. These are very
valuable. Don’tmlaethem. .
HANCOCK-AVENUE.
Large house and grounds dose to Milledge
Avenue aad tbe Lucy Cobb. Large garden,
good well, stables, Ac., Ac.
And Many Others.
PARR BROS,
House ud Sign Painters
DEOORATOSl) AND DEALERS IN
Wall Paper, Paints, Oils, Varnishes, Brushes,
No. 17 North Jackson Street. Next Door to Banner Office
Oates & Do.
Real Estate Agents.
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