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MAHERS OF THE HEART AND LOINS
Boy and Girl work together. Girl thinks Boy
is hot and so flirts shamelessly, then bocks off
(a strategic move). Boy comes out of shell and
notices Girl and makes move. Girl accepts. Boy
and Girl talk regularly and have slumber parties.
Then Boy stops making effort because
Boy "doesn't have to anymore.
Girl notices but doesn't re
ally care because Girl just
wanted to have a good time
with Boy anyways. Then
Boy stops communicating
with Girl. Girl wonders, but
is unsure, until eventually
it is clear: Boy has pretty
much ditched Girl. Was
Boy never really actually
interested in Girt? Or
did Boy realize Girl was
never really actually in
terested in Boy? Or maybe
Boy lives on a different
planet where feelings don't
really actually exist. A side
note: Despite slumber parties, Boy and Girl didn't
have sex. So what happened?
Girl
Boy and Girl both play stupid game. Neither
speaks to the other about the rules of said game,
and both lose. Sound about right? Grow
up. Girl, or you will lose every time.
I think it’s crap that some
people simplify guys by say
ing "alt they really care about
is sex." It seems to me that
I’ve come across quite a few
guys who would place sex
somewhere in the middle of the
priority list. Of course, there
are a few who are clearly
just looking for a roll in
the hay, but even those
guys seem to also be
looking for something else
(intimacy, comfort, etc).
I also think the previ
ously mentioned things
apply equally to girls.
So basically, my question
is: do you think there really
is such a big difference be
tween guys and girls when it
comes to what people want
in relationships?? I think it
depends on the individual
person and that gender plays a minor role. Am
I naive? Or blind to some truth that the rest of
world has noticed?
WTF
The Onion, my favorite news source, has a
bunch of new merchandise out right now. One of
their t-shirts bears the slogan "Stereotypes Are
A Real Time Saver." That pretty much hits it on
the head for me, WTF. Of course, individuals are
different, but most of us fall pretty neatly into
categories.
Guys are less likely to tie their emotions into
sex, but there are plenty of women out there who
are just as casual about it. Because of this differ
ence, men are much mere likely to feign deeper
feelings in order to get a girl into bed. Women
typically don't do this because they don't have to
bother. This is due to the double standard that
society has for men and women and higher num
bers of sex partners.
Is there a difference between what men and
women want in relationships? Not so much. The
difference is the point at which men and women
ire ready or willing to actually be in a relation
ship. Men, especially younger ones, are less likely
to want to be monogamous. Young women like
sex just as much as young men, but most would
be just as happy (if not happier) sleeping with
the same person all the time. Part of this also
has to do with the fact that women don't get off
as easily as men do, and practicing with the same
partner makes it easier to get off every time.
Most young guys either don't know or don't
care enough about how to satisfy a woman
sexually, which is why most "hookups" are
not very mutually beneficial.
The important thing is to figure
out what you want, communi
cate it to potential partners,
and try not to get hurt. You
probably will get hurt any
way, but that's okay. It helps
you grow as a person.
Why is it that every time I
date a guy whom I actually be
gin to fall for, I get ditched for
someone who turns out to be
the "love of his life?" I always
think these girls are rebounds
due to the lack of grace pe
riods between relationships, but they always end
up sticking around! I know this is a hard question
to answer if you don't know me, but I'm not an
unattractive person, and when I say unattractive.
I’m talking in terms of all around personality and
appearance. I don't freak out and get clingy, ei
ther. I have a friend with this same problem (and
she's also not unattractive), so I'm wondering
if there's some sort of personality trait (or
traits) that might drive guys straight
into the arms of someone else. My friend
and I like to tell ourselves that guys
aren't ready for girls like us and so they
freak out and settle with girls who are
less... colorful. We need a reality check
JyL Be nice.
Fine and Dandy
Maybe you two are
the rebound girls’? You
said that every time you
v "begin to fall..."—so I as
sume th t you are talking
about newish relationships,
in which case there prob
ably isn't a required "grace
period." I don't know you, F&D,
so I guess I can't really say, but
"colorful" is difficult, and most
people—guys especially—don't
really want to work that hard,
you know? As much as people
give lip service to wanting
something more, something different out of life,
love and relationships, the truth is that very few
people actually live outside the box. That's why
Wal-Mart and McDonald's and law school are so
popular: People don't know what else to do. You
ladies may have to kiss a lot more frogs, but at
least when you find your princes, you'll know
that your palaces will have interesting decor.
Will I ever forget about the big lie she told
me? I'm trying to forgive, but forget hasn't hap
pened yet. Signed,
Nobody's Perfect
You may eventually forgive, but you will never
forget. How could you? If you are really and truly
able to forgive, you won't have to forget. Put if
the lie is big enough and bad enough, you may
never forgive, either. And you will probably never
fully trust her again. Give it some time. If you
can't forgive, then walk away or you will end
up torturing her and yourself over it, and you'll
never have a healthy relationship again.
Jyl Inov
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