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MAHERS OF THE HEART AND LOINS
How do you make your husband leave you?
I married very young and have been in love
with another man for 10 years... I am so sick
of my husband's unappreciative and down right
disgusting habits that I can't take it anymore.
Recently, we have discussed divorce, but he will
not move out or sign the divorce papers I had
drawn up. I want to try to start again with my
old flame, but don’t want any extra baggage
tailing behind. PLEASE help me
make my husband leave me.
Anonymous
It seems to me that
if you want the divorce,
you need to move out.
And don't fool yourself
into believing that you
are a victim here.
If you stay in an
unhappy marriage
with a "disgusting
and unappreciative"
man for 10 years, you
are just as responsible
for your misery as he is
Relationships take work,
and it doesn't sound like either of you is work
ing very hard at anything except pissing each
other off. That's not healthy. If you ask me,
you don't exactly sound like a ball of sunshine
yourself. Maybe if you get out you'll feel bet
ter. Hell, your husband probably will, too.
But maybe not.
By the way, does the other guy, your
old flame, even know you're in love with
him? Is he in the wings, waiting for you
to make a move, or are you just fixated on
him because you think he is the answer to
all of your problems?
You should focus on getting out of
your current situation first, get your
head together, and then try getting
into a relationship. I know you're
not going to listen, but I thought jB
I'd give it a shot. In any case,
pack your bags and make the
first move. Once your hus
band realizes you mean , V'
it, you will either have an
easier time getting him to
sign the divorce papers,
or at the very least, a foot
out the door. And that's progress.
Dating shows and articles are always telling
us that if you can read someone's body lan
guage, you can tell if they like you or not. Is
there any truth to this? I mean, "a girl might
like you if she brushes her hair out of her face
when she sees you." Really!?! When does a girl
NOT brush her hair out of her face? And the
whole gently touching your arm thing? Aren't
some people just touchy? Then, one article
says they like you if they look you in the eye,
and then, another says they like you if they
avert their eyes. It all seems pretty useless. Do
you have any experience with this? The only
reason I ask is because I always seem to zig
when I should've zagged. I'm up front with
girls who have no interest in me and then shy
away from girls who I found out later actually
liked me.
Help.
Dating shows and articles aren't always
telling us anything, Help. You know why?
Because many of us are not wasting our time
watching dating shows and reading bullshit
i
women's magazines. When does a girl not
brush her hair out of her face? When she has
short hair, or a ponytail^or when she's wear
ing enough hair product or there is no wind.
It doesn't necessarily mean anything. Ditto
with the touching, although I would argue
that somebody being too touchy is reason
enough to avoid them. Some people are just
naturally like that. This is something to con
sider before you decide to ask a girl out,
too. Do you want to be with some one
who is always pawing at everybody
they meet? Ugh. And eye contact?
Really? How much time do
you devote to deciphering
this shit before you realize
that the person has already
moved on? Stop studying
and start socializing. Yes,
you can read a person like
a book, but just because you
can read them doesn't mean
they'll actually like you. Stop
listening to "experts" and
start talking to people.
So, I'm here because I'm
one of the millions of women out there with a
common problem. I have two children and am a
stay-at-home mom. My husband works outside
of the home, obviously. He and I have a fantas
tic relationship and neither of us rarely
has anything to complain about.
But here's the deal. For the past
six months, I have been telling
my husband that I need a break
from the kids. I have said that I
need me time, alone time, a little
bit of a break, etc... I've told him
we need to go on a little getaway, a
long weekend, etc... I have told him
about great deals on airfare or travel
packages or even what I thought
would be fun to do. All of this for
six MONTHS!!!! And all his response
is... "I know you do," or "That does
sound like a good deal,"
AAHHH! So here's my dilemma. Is he
really hearing me? I'm about to my wit's
end with the kids and we just need some
grown-up time. We have the money (I do the
finances) and currently have the time. What is
going on, and why is he ignoring my desperate
hints and cries for a break?!?!?!?
Thanks,
Stressed Out Momma
He hears you, Momma, but he's not listen
ing. What you need to do is put the kids to
bed, turn off the TV, sit him down and tell
him "It's time to make a plan. Now." Have
some destinations in mind, as well as a time
frame. Make him understand, and make him
help you decide. Preferably right then. Tell
him again that you need this. If he tries to
avoid it, give him a deadline. Tell him if he
doesn't want to go that's fine, you'll go with
a girlfriend. Maybe a few days alone with the
kids is what he needs to realize what your life
is like. But don't let him ignore you or let him
put you off again. You are only going to get
more stressed out, and then you're going to
start resenting him (if you haven't already).
Jyl Inov
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