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MAHERS OF THE HEART AND LOINS
My roommate just moved out. He and I are
still friends, but we have never been very close.
We work in the same building and know a lot of
the same people. So, he rented a room from me
for almost a year, and then recently he started
dating this woman, and now he's moving in
with her. Cool. Good for him. I don’t necessar
ily need the money anyway, and I am perfectly
happy living on my own.
So, I was at work the other day, and I saw
his new lady-friend talking to another guy
I know outside. I was having a
cigarette, and she didn't see
me. They seemed like they
might have been in a
fight or something, but
I couldn't tell. So, she
walked away, and I was
still standing there, and
the guy saw me and
walked over. He told
me that she is his ex,
and that they had bro
ken up recently, and
she’s seeing somebody
else. I know all of this
already, so I nod and ask
him about something else.
But he is obviously wound
up about it, because he won't leave it alone.
He ends up telling me that she has done this
before, does it all the time, in fact, and that he
knows she will be back because she always is.
"I just have to be patient," he told me. "She’ll
come back around."
So, it turns out that this has been a pat
tern for years, and that my old roommate is
merely one in a long line of guys that she plays
with until she gets tired and goes back to
the other guy. This being a small town, I
found out that I know some of the other
guys she has dated. And it seems that
this is true. So, now I wonder if I should
tell my old roommate before he gets
hurt? Or should I mind my own busi
ness? Like I said, we’re not very
close, but I don’t want to see him
get hurt, either.
Anonymous
There is a chance that this
time is different, and that the
woman in question is actually ready
to leave the guy she's been back*
and-forth with for so many years.
There is also a chance that if you
tell your old roommate, he won't
believe you anyway, and then he
might tell her and suddenly you
will find yourself caught up in
something that is currently Not
Your Problem. The thing is, if
he is already so attached to this
woman that he has moved in with
her, he's going to get hurt either
way. It's not like getting him out
now will make much difference.
Keep this information to your
self and, if you can afford to,
keep his room open.
My roommates have a friend who I think is
totally hot They are both like sisters to him, so
there is no danger that I would be stepping on
any toes, but I am a little nervous to bring it
up. He spends a lot of time at our house, and
it seems like he might be interested in me as
well but I can't tell. Should I ask them about
him?
I guess that depends on what your rela
tionship with your roommates is like. My
instinct is that you should just ask him out
yourself, but if you and your roommates are
good friends, or at least get along pretty well,
then asking them might be easier and might
save you the trouble of dating a guy who is
potentially not good for you. I have plenty of
guy friends that I think are fabulous but that
I would never recommend to anybody for more
than a roll in the proverbial hay. If you think
you can trust them, and you're sure that ask
ing isn't going to cause any drama, then
start there. If you can't, then you
might want to think about how it
will affect your living situation.
My friend is super picky.
She is in her early 30s and
she is very pretty, but she is
super high-maintenance. I
hate going out to eat with
her because she's always the
“on the side" girl, and she often
sends things back. She is very
polite but can come across
as condescending. And with
men, she is super picky about
the most ridiculous stuff. I
have known her forever, I am also single, and it
is so stupid how she treats men, but they keep
lining up anyway. 1 always like the guys she
dates, and she always ends up dumping them
for the most shallow reasons.
The guy she is with now is very cute, very
smart, and he obviously really likes her. She has
been complaining that she "isn’t sold" on him
because he doesn't dress very well (he looks
fine in a t-shirt and jeans, and it isn’t like
we live in L.A.) and he’s not tall enough.
He is taller than her, but if she wears
heels he won’t be very much taller than
her. I think she is being ridiculous and
I am actually sick of hearing her
complain because I don't even
go on many dates at all and she
has so many to choose from that
she is just being shallow and a
bitch. Should I just tell her she
should stop acting like this? Or
should I stop hanging around
with her? I don't know how
much more of this I can stand.
The Other Girl
Is your friend aware of her
attitude? Does she know that she
might seem condescending? If not
then by all means please explain it
her. You're the only one who has
a chance of making her a decent
human being.
As far as the guys are con
cerned, maybe you should make
an effort to get to know some of
them a little better yourself, so
that when she finishes picking
them apart you can ask them
out. I have had plenty of boy
friends who didn't work out for
one reason or another, but whose friends have
remained my friends because we had so much
in common. It's entirely possible that you may
benefit from her mistakes.
Jyl inov
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