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I The Red & Black’s guide to the week in entertainment
MUSIC
> 40 WATT CLUB (549-7871)
• Friday: Of Montreal/B.P. HeliunVMatthew
Johnson and Friends. Of Montreal is playing
’60s covers, just request “Monster Mash” for
me, OK?
• Saturday: Rival Schools/Pleasure Club fea
turing James Hall. Rival Schools features the
lead guy from Quicksand with a rocking-emo
feel, which comes off as sort of nicer Pixies.
Their CD was rated to be in the best of 2001
at Borders, and you know they might be bored
enough to listen to it.
• Tuesday: Polemic/Urbosleeks/Michael.
• Wednesday: Action Attack/Tilden’s Faith.
Mmm, a band formed at Georgia Tech. What,
did their computers break? Or maybe they are
searching for the one thing no Tech student
can find — girls.
>- ALLEN’S (543-8309)
• Monday: Patrick Connell. Will his three-year
string of shows soon end? Tune in next week,
same bat time, same bat channel.
> ATHENS MUSIC FACTORY (353-8820)
• Thursday: DJ Piper.
• Friday: “Charles Grant Big Blowout Bash”
with DJ Treach.
• Saturday: DJ KAS.
• Sunday: “Live Jazz” with Trey Wright Trio.
• Monday: ‘Live Blues” with Julia and
Friends/Lotus.
• Tuesday: “Hip Hop Showcase” with DJ
Crisis & Scram.
> BOAR’S HEAD (369-3040)
• Thursday: Flat Broke & Busted. I have used
this joke before, but given the way the econo
my is, they don’t pay me enough to think of a
new one.
> CALEDONIA LOUNGE (549-5577)
• Thursday: Ceiling Fan/Garbage Island. I
used to love throwing socks into my fan, but
then it got all messed up and fell out of the
ceiling one night. Try waking up to that.
• Friday: Math/The Common Cold. Sometimes
sporting a video screen full of odd Anime,
Math combines the nice side of alternative
with a twist of progressive rock.
• Saturday: Southern Bitch/Eskimos. Hehe, I
know way too many of those people. But you
southern people can be really great. I get sick
of making fun of Canadians all of the time.
> DTS DOWN UNDER (543-9276)
• Thursday: October Question/Red Leader.
Wait, wait, wait... I am feeling some
Communism here. ‘October’ and ‘Red?’ See
the connection. Workers of the world unite!
Take down the Capitalist pigs. Where is Sen.
McCarthy when we need him?
• Saturday: 3 Minute Fix/Veblen.
• Monday: “Singer-Songwriter Night” with
Doug Easteriy/Justin Evans/Shane Johns/Tim
Chancellor.
• Tuesday: “Open Mic Night.”
• Wednesday: Lions From Zion. I was walking
by AMF the other night while these guys were
playing, and the guitarist can really wail.
(Insert “Wayne’s World” reference here).
> THE GEORGIA THEATRE (549-9918)
• Thursday: Robert Cray/Eric Bibb. Famous
blues guitarists and their bands, yay.
• Friday: Legend Has It/No Option.
• Saturday: David Allen Coe/Barry Sell. Yes,
Coe wrote “Take That Job and Shove It.”
Check out an article by Mack Williams on
Friday.
• Wednesday: Battle of The Bands. Call to
register your nu-metal band and bring protec
tion. You can be any other kind of band, too,
but what else rocks more than nu-metal?
As if.
> NUpi’S SPACE (227-1515)
• Monday: “Jazz Night V” with The Music of
Thelonious Monk.
> TASTY WORLD (543-0797)
• Thursday: “Benefit for Dance FX” with
S.M.O./Simple Slick Device.
• Friday: Swimming Pool Q’s/The
Envelopes/The Albacore Pageant. Now is it
‘envelopes or ‘an’velopes? Crazy Southern
folk. Come on, it’s not Coke, it’s soda pop!!!
• Saturday: Chris McCarty/Sol. Ahh yes, at
least someone knows the true name of our
sun. No, it’s not Chris McCarty.
• Monday: 87 Sheepdog. I had a sheepdog
once, his name was Bibbs and he bit some of
the neighborhood kids. He wasn’t too smart
and he smelled bad, but aren’t most big dogs
that way?
• Tuesday: Spin Man/Music Hates You. Well
that's no surprise, I know God hates me, too. It
took me 40 minutes to find a parking spot the
other day, and that just proves the whole thing.
>■ WILD WING CAFE (543-8309)
• Friday: Shana Alverson Band. Shana
Alverson has been a big name in Athens. I
actually had a chance to see her, and the
show was somewhat enjoyable due to the nice
fiddler in the band.
• Saturday: Tentiflour.
— Parker Davidson
VARIETY
► TOWN & GOWN PLAYERS
(208-8696)
• The Hot L Baltimore: Set in a Baltimore
hotel lobby with talks about lives of various
people. This one is for mature audiences
only, which pretty much rules out everyone
at the University, especially me. Fri. and
Sat. at 8 p.m. and Sun. at 2 p.m. Tickets are
$5-110.
— Parker Davidson
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Lisa Earle McLeod
with JoAnn Swan Neely
By CHASE THOMAS
cthomas@randb.com
When University alumness Lisa
Earle McLeod wanted to prepare a
pitch for her new book, she went to
the self-help section of the book
store and thumbed through all 642
volumes on the shelf.
After trudging through each
title, she discovered that none of
them were actually funny.
Women’s self-help books tend to
be either very serious or very ethe
real,” McLeod said.
McLeod, a motivational speaker
who works out of Atlanta, hopes to
change all of that. Her first book,
“Forget Perfect,” co-authored with
Joanne Swan Nelly, attempts to
give women a peek into the future,
to let them know what women have
come to find important in life.
In the end, the collective knowl
edge gleaned from countless inter
views with women of all ages boils
down to a humorous yet sincere
look at women’s needless pursuit of
perfection.
McLeod will sign copies of
“Forget Perfect” at Barnes & Noble
books on Atlanta Highway tonight
at 7.
Whether it be the Virginia Slim’s
body or the “Better Homes and
Gardens” house or the “Leave it to
Beaver” family, McLeod sees these
pursuits as inevitably disappointing
goals.
“Women have been led astray,”
McLeod said. “They don’t realize
that trying to be perfect doesn’t
make people like you more, it
makes them like you less.”
In the first paragraphs of
“Forget Perfect,” McLeod gives her
readers the foundation of her work.
“This book is some of the con
clusions we’ve reached during our
own personal flashes, as we tried to
ponder the ‘what the hell am I
doing with my life’ question,”
McLeod said.
For McLeod, the major flash of
realization occurred at age 29.
Sitting at her mother’s funeral, she
listened as neighbors and friends
spoke of the differences her mother
had made in their lives.
Her father summed up their
sentiments in the words of an old
country song: she left the woodpile
higher than she found it.
This experience left McLeod
with the question: would she?
“Origins and Ideas”
“I’ve always thought I was going
to write a book,” McLeod said.
Her original idea was to write a
book for working mothers about
balancing life and family. However,
she came to find out she had noth
ing new to say.
At the time, she was on the road
giving sales seminars to health care
companies. After the seminars
finished up, she would go out to
dinner with the participants, who
were mostly women, and listen to
them talk and worry about their
lives.
What she came to realize was
that despite all their fretting over
trying to be perfect, there was
nothing wrong with these women.
They had accepted other peo
ple’s standards of who they should
be and what they should look like
in the place of their own.
Or as McLeod succinctly puts
it, “ ‘Forget perfect’ means
abandoning everyone else’s
standards and creating your own.”
“The Problem with
Expectations”
At the bottom of these women’s
unnecessary worries, McLeod
found a central theme.
“People have unrealistic
expectations based on a lack of
SPECIAL | The Red a Black
a Author Lisa McLeod’s first book, ‘Forget Perfect,’ discusses
the futility of striving for perfection and encourages women to
value themselves for who they are.
information,” McLeod said.
As she explains, the person who
expects the perfect marriage is
inevitably the kid whose only point
of reference was the neighbors in
their rose garden.
The person who expects the per
fect child is a kid who never under
stood the reality of raising a baby.
“You only have what you
thought things were supposed to
be like or look like, and these
things are rarely based on reality,”
McLeod said.
What McLeod finds to be the
reality stands in stark contrast
to the unfounded images of
perfection.
Of the women she interviewed,
almost all remembered being hap
piest when they were either sur
rounded by close friends, or they
felt what they were doing was
important to someone else’s life.
McLeod particularly focuses on
the importance of friendship in her
book, even including a section on
how to make and be a better
friend.
“Women are wired for relation
ships,” McLeod said.
As she sees it, friends serve as
a sort of reality check.
“The more time you spend with
your real friends, the less all the
‘perfect images’ will bother you,”
McLeod said. “When you’re with
your friends all the time, you realize
that not everybody is perfect.”
“Just for Women?”
While McLeod has written her
BOOK SIGNING
When & Where: Tonight at 7
at Barnes & Noble on Atlanta Highway
book primarily for a female audi
ence, the lessons illustrated could
apply to anyone.
She chose to aim her lessons at
a female audience because she felt
it would be helpful for them to see
what women are thinking and feel
ing — to help them realize how life
experiences of women are similar.
However, McLeod has given
much thought to the pressure
mounting on men to be perfect.
“For men, the expectations have
risen,” McLeod said. “It used to be
that if you were a man and earned
a living for your family, that was
enough, but not anymore.”
“The Woodpile”
In the end, McLeod hopes to
give women insight into their
future, into what will be important
ten years down the road.
She believes that through her
stories of other women, she can
dispel the myths of perfection that
will inevitably fade.
“All the older women I talked to
said they wished that they had
given up on their ideas of perfec
tion earlier,” McLeod said.
With such aspirations, one can’t
help but agree that she, indeed,
leaves the woodpile higher than she
found it.
MOVIES
> BEECHWOOD (546-1011)
• Ali (R) 9 p.m. A stronger Will Smith
assumes the character of Ali in this slow film
that tries its best not to describe how Ali’s
religion changed his life. Instead, the focus is
on girls and fame. (D)
• A Beautiful Mind (PG-13) 1:30, 4:15, 7,
9:40 p.m. Russell Crowe should start
rehearsing his best actor acceptance speech.
He stars as John Nash, a student with visions
of fame and fantasy that raise him up and
then tear him down. Complete with a brilliant
ending that’ll make you feel all warm and
fuzzy inside. (A)
• Black Hawk Down (R) 1:10, 4:05, 7,
9:55 p.m. Ridley Scott and Jerry Bruckheimer
pair up to produce a film that is both directed
superbly, and well, fast and furious. Josh
Hartnett stars with Ewan McGregor in this
highly praised war flick.
• Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone
(PG) 1:25, 7 p.m. Daniel Radcliffe stars as
the boy wizard who defeated an arch
nemesis and is now praised throughout the
wizard world. But he just keeps getting into
trouble... (B+)
• Imposter (PG-13) 9:15 p.m. (ends 1/17)
This film has failed to create even a ripple in
the box office. (D)
• In the Bedroom (R) 1:35, 4:20, 7:05,
9:45 p.m. A heart-wrenching drama complete
with tears, arguments and revenge. Sissy
Spacek should get a nod for her wonderful
performance. (A)
• Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius (G) 1:05,
3:05,5:05, 7:05 p.m. “Spy Kids” is better, but
if you’re in the mood for a kid flick with magic
and some humor go see Harry Potter— yes,
again. (C)
• Kate and Leopold (PG-13) 4:30, 9:55 p.m.
What if Hugh Jackman’s last name was
Jass? (B)
• The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of
the Ring (PG-13) 1:30,5, 8:30 p.m. A
sweeping epic that will dazzle your eyes, toy
with your adventurous side, and leave you
feeling satisfied and ready for more. (A)
• The Man Who Wasn’t There (R) 2:20,
4:50, 7:20, 9:50 p.m. The Coen brothers new
dark film starring Billy Bob Thornton.
• Ocean’s Eleven(PG-13) 2:10,4:35, 7:10,
9:35 p.m. Already a classic casino heist, film
and the actors, combined, made almost as
much as they stole. (A)
• Orange County (PG-13) 1:20,3:20, 5:20,
7:20, 9:20 p.m.
• The Royal Tenenbaums (R) 2:25, 4:45,
7:30, 9:50 p.m. A royal cast and a dry, dry
script with a great Gene Hackman perfor
mance and many humorous scenes. (A)
• Snow Dogs (PG) 12:55, 3:05, 5:15, 7:25
9:35 p.m. (opens 1/18) It’s DEFINITELY no
“Iron Will.”
• Vanilla Sky (R) 4:25, 7:10, 9:50 p.m. (ends
1/17) You’re in for an interesting cruise. Or is
it Cruz?
> CARMIKE 12 (354-0584)
• Ali (R) 7:30 p.m. Ali’s life is broken down
into a few fights and a few long nights and
brought to us in a narrow, boring light.(D)
• Black Hawk Down (R) 1,2, 4,5, 7, 8, 10,
11 p.m. (opens 1/18) Based on a conflict in
Somalia... brought to you by Hollywood.
• Gosford Park (R) 1:10, 4:10, 7,9:50 p.m.
Robert Altman's highly praised whodunnit?
that’s a cross between MASH and well, a
mystery.
• How High (R) 2, 4:30, 7:20, 9:30 p.m. Red
Man and Method Man must be superheroes
because their names end with “man” and
they have “adventures.”
• Imposter (PG-13) 9:25 p.m. (ends 1/17)
Posing as a feature film, this movie is a big
mistake. (D)
• Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius (G) 1:55,
4:25, 7:15, 9:15 p.m. Go rent your kids
“Dumbo." (C)
• Joe Somebody (PG) 1:50 p.m. (ends 1/17)
He’s still a nobody. (C)
• Kate and Leopold (PG-13) 1:40, 4:15,
7:05, 9:40 p.m. Meg Ryan doesn’t look a day
over 33 in this trite little romance involving, of
course, chivalry, true love and time travel. (B)
• The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of
the Ring (PG-13) 1:30,5, 9:15 p.m. In the
land of Mordor where the shadows lie... One
ring to rule them all, one ring to bind them,
one ring to bring them all and in the darkness
bind them.(A)
• The Majestic (PG) 1:20,4:25, 7:30 p.m.
(ends 1/17) Good thing it’s ending.
• Monsters, Inc. (G) 1:50,4:15, p.m. Good
family fun. Loaded with humor and pleasant
misadventures, two finely-rendered monsters
must save their world from an “attack” by a
small girl from the human world.
• Ocean's Eleven (PG-13) 1:45, 4:25, 7:10,
9:45 p.m. Not only is there humor, action,
romance and some perfect casting, but
there’s a surprise ending that'll please. (A)
• Orange County (PG-13) 1:45,4:20, 7:25,
9:35 p.m. Jack Black helps his brother get
into college when his great transcript is
swapped with an awful one.
• Snow Dogs (PG) 1:15, 4:30, 7:20,
9:30 p.m. Watch as a bunch of talking, poorly
animated dogs carouse with sled driver Cuba
Gooding Jr. Doesn’t Disney know that
animals can’t talk?
• Vanilla Sky (R) 1:30,4:15, 7,9:45 p.m.
They say open your eyes, open your eyes,
open your eyes, open your eyes, open your
eyes ... but you'll be better off closing them if
you go to this mixed-up mess.
>- TATE STUDENT CENTER (542-5584)
• Thurs.: Blood Simple (R) 3,5:15, 7:30,
9:45 p.m. Coen brothers’ first movie. Very
morbid.
• Fri., Sat., Sun.: Zoolander (R)
3, 6, 9 p.m. Ben Stiller is male model extraor
dinaire. A strange film good for a few laughs.
- Matthew Hunt