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There can be, what Clarkson calls, a
misrepresentation of trust. For instance,
when two people begin dating one may
adhere to the other’s requests in hopes
of making the relationship work; even if
it means putting his needs on the back
burner. “And sometimes they aren’t
even aware of their own needs.” Pro
blems are likely to erupt, however, when
hot-blooded passion begins to settle.
There are such things as basic trust and
basic mistrust, Clarkson says. Basic trust
begins in infancy. Children must trust
that their parents will take care of them.
When a parent is not there the child can
develop a basic mistrust that translates
into fear.
“What it does is keeps me from wan
ting to get close because you may disap
point me.” That mistrust can follow a
person into adulthood and affect his
ability to have a healthy relationship.
Men generally are taught to go for the
jugular and to suppress emotions. They
are solution-oriented, meaning they want
to “solve the problem,” especially when
it relates to women. “But we don’t
always solve the problem.” So instead of
always trying to “fix” a woman’s con
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cerns, Clarkson says, men should learn
to listen closely to the concerns and help
her find a solution.
One must enhance the trust a woman
has in him to accomplish that feat.
“When someone is talking about her
needs don’t throw in your concerns.
Your time will come if you just wait.
“Once you make assumptions about
someone else’s needs or feelings they pro
bably are your needs and not the per
son’s.”
And above all, be consistent. “It
means don’t show compassion for her
needs today and not care about them
tomorrow.”
Clarkson states four points a man
should adopt to enhance the amount of
trust a woman has in him. First: conduct
a self-examination to figure out what
your needs are. Second: look at your
original family and determine how you
were reared and how your needs were
met, or not met. Third: ask yourself
what factors would have helped you
mature more and feel secure, and what
made you insecure? Fourth: what did not
having certain needs met do to you, how
did you work through the loss and who
Herald Boys Coach of the Year Award.
The Gladiators reached the state
quarter finals losing to the eventual state
champion, Wheeler.
During the 93-94 season, Wade’s
Gladiators beat arch-rival Cedar Shoals
twice, won the 8-AAAA South regular
season title, and finished second in the
Region Tournament.
Going into his 9th season as head
basketball coach at Clarke Central, Bil
ly Wade’s main objective is to give each
player an opportunity to go to college.
The 39-year-old coach played basketball
at Clarke Central under the watchful eye
of the late James “Pee Wee” Crawford.
Coach Wade hopes that the Clarke
County School District will rename the
CCHS Arena after James Crawford.
did you go to for help?
“After you have established your own
needs, then you get with your partner
and come up with a contract. This con
tract can be formal, or informal, but in
effect you are willing to say to your part
ner ‘this is what I like or this is what I
need,’ and it’s important that your part
ner do likewise.
“You must prioritize needs, because
some are not needs, they are wants,”
Clarkson says, pausing as he collects his
thoughts on the sensitive subject. “A
need is something you can’t do without.
But a want is something that can be
deferred or not addressed.
“You need to re-examine your con
tract to see how it’s going and if you need
to modify it,” Clarkson, continues, his
voice reflecting the desire to make his
point clearly understood. “This contract
is a way of adding to security, which
leads to trust.”
In summary, Clarkson also says a man
must be willing to take risks, although
he may be uncomfortable. In essence, he
should confront subjects and concerns he
is afraid to discuss openly.
Billy Wade gives special acknowledg
ment to James “Pete” Fair and the late
Tom Lay for instilling in him the desire
to succeed inspite of gigantic obstacles.
Gladiators honored tor 22-8 record:
Donovan Gray, Ron Lawrence, Robert
Smith honored at CCHS Banquet.
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