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PAGE 2—The Georgia Bulletin, May 1,1980
Getting Married?
BY MITCHEL B. FINLEY
(One In A Series of Ten)
NC NEWS SERVICE
As the director of a
diocesan family life office
I come into regular and
frequent contact with
young engaged couples.
Not long ago one such
couple -- full of hope and
the joy of anticipating
their coming marriage -
inquired about what they
might be able to expect
from the church as a
married couple. Both were
Catholics.
I asked Bob and Alice
what they would like to
count on the church to
provide once they were
married. Though they had
some difficulty
articulating their
expectations clearly, it
seemed to me that what
they sought was authentic
Christian community.
They had both been
away from the church for
several years. But in the
process of preparing for
marriage they had been
challenged by the gifted
priest who was working
with them to re-examine
the religious tradition in
which they had been
raised. They had decided,
after several weeks of
discussion, to take a
second look. Gradually,
Bob and Alice concluded
that maybe there was
something to the church
after all.
Because Bob’s parents
had divorced when he was
a boy, he was very
sensitive to the need for a
marriage that would last.
Because of his experiences
during college, and after
that of living as a single
person for a couple of
years, he knew that a close
association with other
people - a community -
was important to him.
Alice, on the other
hand, had become more
deeply sensitive to the
need for a supportive
group, and of their need to
be of service to others, if
their rediscovered faith
was to grow strong and
flourish as the central
influence in their life
together.
Young couples today -
as well as an increasing
number of older couples
who have become
disillusioned with many of
the promises handed them
by a secular culture - not
infrequently turn to the
church with some hope
that perhaps here they can
find a lasting foundation
on which to base their
lives together. Very often
these couples are mature
adults, well educated and
hungry for Christ.
In the case of young
engaged couples, many
experience a real sense of
community in Christ in
their weekend marriage
preparation program, in
their Engaged Encounter,
or in their interaction with
the priest or deacon who is
helping them to prepare
for marriage. Yet what do
they find in their parish
once they are married?
Sometimes they are. in
fact, received into an adult
community in their parish
that is truly sensitive to
the concerns of the
Gospel, concerned about
them, and aware of the
investment the entire
parish has in the future of
this young couple’s
marriage. But perhaps
more often they find
themselves to be an
anonymous couple in an
impersonal parish of
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In my own experience I
have known several
couples - young, well
educated, sincere people -
who gave up on the
Catholic Church because
their experience of parish
left them dry and empty
and frustrated. Some of
these young couples
attempted to reach out to
their parish by becoming
involved in working with a
youth group or by-
teaching a religious
education class for
children. But they ended
up mostly frustrated and
bitter because the parents
of the youths and children
gave them little or no
support at all.
These young couples
today are Unitarians,
because, they tell me, as
Unitarians they are treated
like adults and supported
in their activities on behalf
of their new community.
Moreover, their adult
religious questions are
dealt with in a competent
and articulate manner.
Are these young
couples justified in their
decision to leave the
church and go elsewhere?
Only God knows. One
thing, however, seems
certain. Young married
couples today -- in many
ways the church’s
resources for the future -
are not about to settle for
a parish that is a large,
impersonal group of
strangers. They will not be
satisfied with a box of
envelopes as the most
tangible sign of their
church membership. Such
young couples are not
going to sit still for
homilies and adult
religious education
programs that bore them
or fail to deal honestly and
creatively with their adult
religious questions and
with the issues that are of
vital concern to them in
their daily lives of
marriage, family and work.
The outlook may look
bleak. Yet it is possible for
parishes to begin providing
married couples with the
kinds of Christian
community that are vital
to marriages today. It is
possible as long as we
accept head-on the
challenge and power of the
Gospel of Jesus Christ, as
long as we face head-on
the realities of life in the
world of the 1980s.
SMYRNA’S ST. THOMAS the Apostle will
welcome May with a May Basket sponsored by
the Women’s Club. From 10 until 4:30 on May 3
the parish will sponsor the bazaar that features
fun for all. Molly McCarthy and Jacqueline
Charnigo are pictured above preparing the event.
Festival At St. Philip
St. Philip Benizi
Catholic Church, located
at 591 Flint River Road in
Jonesboro, will hold its
annual MAY FESTIVAL
on May 3, from 10:00
A.M. until 5:00 P.M.
A major part of the
festivities is a gigantic yard
sale with treasures galore,
from small household
appliances, clothes, toys,
to bric-a-brac.
The all-day Church
Festival will offer hot
dogs, soft drinks, tacos,
cotton candy and
snowcones, in a carnival
atmosphere. Also, a large
selection of baked goods
and crafts have been made
by the church ladies.
Chairperson Dick
Tolcher announced that
22 carnival game booths, a
hay ride, pony rides, space
walk, a dunking machine.
face painting and a toy
shop will be included in
the attractions. There also
will be a special exhibition
by the Flint River
Promenaders square dance
club at noon.
The MAY FESTIVAL
will culminate with an
evening “Deutsch Fest”
for adults, in the Parish
Hall from 8 P.M. until
midnight. Cost for the
Deutsch Fest is only $3.00
per person. Enjoy a
German atmosphere with
refreshments and live
entertainment.
The purpose of the
MAY FESTIVAL is
two-fold: to provide a day
of fun and fellowship for
the Parish and community,
and to help pay for an
addition to the Priests’
house.
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17 and were out on the
road selling we used to say
we would sell time for “a
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pays, it steams along. Sure
it will be tough.”
The big executive is
excited that it’s all
happening right here in
Atlanta. “Our center for
news will be New York,
Washington, and Atlanta,
we’ll be up there with the
biggies,” says Terry.
Turner’s Man Terry is
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all the way. One of seven
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school at plush
Portsmouth Priory in
Rhode Island whose most
famous alumnus was
Senator Robert F.
Kennedy. During college
he worked a summer for
Ted Turner in Atlanta.
The lieutenant was
commissioned and the
bright career of Terence
McGuirk began.
Now with both hands
on the wheel, at 28, he is
helping to launch a
television network in
Atlanta.
When that’s done, the
marvelous maverick
Robert Edward (Ted)
Turner will give birth to
another wildly successful
idea and Terry McGuirk.
the trusted lieutenant, will
begin putting all together
once more.
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Nurses Are People Too:
Professional Burnout
PART TWO
BY JOAN CASSELS, R.N.
Unrealistically nursing
is regarded by some as a
glamorous profession.
Where else could one lead
such an exciting life?
Dealing with life and death
and working with many
interesting and intelligent
doctors are often lures
which attract young
women to nursing. Those
who enter the field based
on these assumptions
rarely finish the first year.
Very soon it becomes
evident that being a nurse
is an exacting, exhausting
and often thankless job.
At some time in our
lives all of us are idealistic.
This is very true of the
young nursing student.
Her hope is that the
welfare of her patient will
always be tantamount to
her own. But there comes
a time in the career of
every nurse when she must
stop and take a good look
at herself and her goals.
What she sees is sometimes
the opposite of what she
had intended herself to be.
Some nurses become
cynical as they see
themselves bogged down
with paperwork and
personnel problems.
Others become
disillusioned as they see
their peers shirking
responsibility or
developing a too tough
exterior. Doctors are
human and they make
mistakes like anyone else.
But somehow society is
not as generous and
forgiving toward doctors
who err. Nurses are no
exception, and it is often
disturbing enough to cause
them to lose respect for
the medical profession
entirely. Nurses sometimes
just get tired. Tired of the
attention to petty details
instead of time spent
sitting with a lonely-
patient. Tired of the thirty
minute lunch break that is
often cut short or
interrupted. Tired of the
lack of staffing which
requires a heavier work
load. Tired of working
holidays, weekends,
birthdays, and other
special days. Tired of
supervisors who never give
a word of praise but who
are quick to criticize.
Tired even of the patients
who don’t understand that
there are others who also
demand attention. Tired
of demanding relatives and
visitors who don’t seem to
realize that a nurse has
feelings, too.
All of these situations
exist to some degree in
every hospital and every
nurse has experienced at
least one of these. As one
former nurse explains it;
“I thought if I saw one
more crying, helpless
person lying there
complaining I would die. I
didn’t realize that I was
the one whose attitude
was wrong. It didn’t
happen overnight. I was a
good nurse. There was so
much I wanted to do but
there was never enough
time. I even felt guilty if I
was seen sitting in a
patient’s room talking to
him.” This attitude is
being reflected by more
nurses every day. It is a
sad prospect for the
future.
So many people ask a
nurse, “How can you
stand to be around all that
sickness and dying? Isn’t it
depressing?” The answer is
always complicated
because every person who
has chosen nursing as a
career has her own
personal reason, goal, and
dream. It can be
depressing to see people
who are constantly ill. For
some this perpetual
contact with suffering
takes its toll. They bail
out. Perhaps they find
another profession far
removed from medicine.
Maybe all they need is a
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change in fields, such as
leaving the stressful job as
an emergency room nurse
to work in a doctor’s
office. Others decide to
become mothers and use
their nursing skill and
experience in dealing with
their own children. Most
importantly, the nurse
needs an outlet which
realizes itself in a favorite
hobby or sport. Perhaps
she needs to work on a
part time basis. For those
whose livelihood depends
on their job, a complete
career change may be
necessary.
Often I have heard
people say that when one
is sick there is nothing as
wonderful as putting
oneself in the hands of a
compassionate, skillful
nurse. If a nurse is all skill
and no feeling she is a
failure as a nurse. Nursing
is one profession that can
never be done half way.
Even when a nurse has a
bad day, doesn’t feel well,
or has personal problems,
she must never convey this
to her patient. She is
sometimes asked to be
super-human. A nurse who
continues in a job which is
no longer satisfying to her
cannot be effective. She is
not only hurting herself,
but the patients who are
entrusted to her care.
Contest Winner
Michael Brown of
Christ the King School,
Gregory Lee of
Immaculate Heart of Mary
School and Patrick
Brisbane of St. Thomas
More School were named
winner and runners-up
respectively in the final
competition of the
Arch diocesan Oratorical
Contest held at Christ the
King School on April 15.
The contest was under the
auspices of Modern
Woodmen of America.
Judging contestants’
talks on “If I Were
President . . .” were Ms.
Lucy Lereah, Atlanta
Journal-Constitution, Mr.
Augustine Dunn, St. Pius
X High School and Ms.
Lynne Anderson,
University of Georgia.
Michael Brown received
a school trophy, an
individual trophy and a
$50 Savings Bond, while
the two runners-up
Gregory Lee and Patrick
Brisbane each received a
trophy and a pennant.
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