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KEEP REFRIGERATED
Star Gays
Star Gays
by Martia Proba
Don't be surprised if you feel like you're
caught in the mud after the 12th. The four
planets that rule the parts of the body from the
waist down are all retrograde. Everyone should
attempt to patronize the arts this period since
the Full Moot is in artsy-fartsy Libra.
ARIES You should avoid any
dealings at all with any kind of
partnership matters on Full
Moon in your opposite sign on the
2nd. Try to avoid angry moments with
friends, especially on the 7th.
TAURUS Your career should
get an energy boost on the 7th,
when Mars moves into your 10th
house. Journeys and plans for the
future should be kept under wraps this month
and postponed entirely on the 11 th and 12th.
GEMINI Look out for a
Capricorn person messing with
your money around the 8th. The
weekend of the 9th may find you
energetically pursuing a philosophical journey
with like-minded friends - Venus will help you
there.
CANCER Venus in your 12th
house after the 4th encourages a
secret, regenerative romance. A
dalliance with an Aquarius on the
11th will be exciting but could require
a great deal of patience.
LEO Fire and brimstone around
| money matters with the Sun in
' Aries and the Full Moon in Libra
“on the 2nd. Venus in your 11th house
after the 4th suggests friends can become
lovers.
VIRGO Staying at home with
friends and partners is a good
idea this period. A Taurus can
bring you good fortune, especially on the 8th
and 11th. Your love life should be in high gear
now.
LIBRA Full Moon in your sign
on the 2nd and Sun in your 7 th
house could strain relationship
matters. Jupiter in your 8th house helps you to
be resourceful, especially on the 8th.
SCORPIO With 4 planets
retrograde after the 12th, be
low-key in business and family
matters. Venus will help salvage
a relationship after the 4th, but the Sun warns
you to watch your health.
SAGITTARIUS Make love
with an Aries on the 7th and
you'll both be impressed. Three
retrograde planets in your 2nd
house after the 12th warn you to be wary of
get-rich-quick schemes.
CAPRICORN At last! One
planet moves out of your 1st
house into your 2nd on the 6th.
Mars will energize your economic activities.
Be wary of an Aries on the 14th.
, AQUARIUS Go all out for
love on the 10th - the Moon is in
your sign and Mars and Venus
are in fortunate aspect. The flesh will
be willing but the spirit may just want to
meditate - try favorite sexual
fantasies.
PISCES Full Moon in your
8th house on the 2nd reminds
you to file those taxes if you
haven't already. Sun and Moon in Aries on the
14th indicate that you should make that big
purchase you've been putting off.
Dear Nadisa
Ammiano, Cont.
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I never worried about passing. (Laughs.) I
just knew that it wasn't happening.
PD:Do you ever think about your being a role
model?
TA:That's a little frightening. (Laughs.) The
feeling is most powerful when 1 perform at college
campuses. They're inspired that Tm out there
performing as a faggot fpi inspired that they're out
in college. Twenty years ago there was no gay
pride week in San Bernardino. It's a lot of fun.
PD.Where do you see yourself personally?
TA:I think I've evolved quite a bit from thinking I
was not a very nice person to feeling very good. I
think that was the real gay gift - the affirmation.
Once you get that, well then everything else is a
piece of cake. So that's the biggest gift So then
you give back in your performing if you're a good
performer.
With gay audiences, tee's a trade-off in
affirmation. And that happens even with straight
people, because once they get their act together, if
they're laughing with you, then they’ve grown too.
They're not going to march in your parade, but they
took a step.
PD\What is your life like at the present?
TA:Well, AIDS puts a damper on life or in general.
Not to be pessimistic or to despair, but it's with you
all the time. Maybe damper isn't the right word, but
certainly restraint. I don't just mean sexual restraint.
I mean it's such an agent for change - your attitudes
and your own mortality and being so intimate. So
that's just always tee.
Given that, my life is pretty rich. I have
DEAR NADISA:
It's silly that I even have to write you about
this, but I am beginning to feel like some kind
of joke. I consider myself a political dyke, but
others in my crowd give me no credit because
I wear femmie clothes. So, what if I do wear
high heels or dresses or scarves? Even flowers
in my hair, if I so please. Til be damned if I
dress like some dyke clOTe just to prove that I
am politically correct I'm sick of the whole
thing and simply need to say so.
Good for you. If you are spending a lot of
your time defending the way you dress, I
would think a new crowd is in order. Ideally,
our lifestyle is all about FREEDOM to be
ourselves and to live our lives as we see fit.
Unfortunately, the REALITY is that Lesbians
can be just as condemning as anyone else.
And many women feel that their way is the
only way to be, which, of course, is nonsense.
Stop feeling like a joke and find some dykes
with common sense. It sounds like you give
your own self all the credit you need.
DEAR NADISA:
My lover and I broke up a year ago because
she wanted to explore her heterosexuality.
Now she has come back into my life and is 8
months pregnant. I’ve given her a place to stay
and have helped with her medical costs
because I still have strong feelings for her. I'm
anxiously anticipating the birth of her child
and would like to assist in rearing it, but she is
incredibly indifferent, both to me and the
upcoming birth. Please advise because I'm at
a loss.
This woman explored her heterosexuality
without a road map arui now she is back with
an empty seat just for you. It is wonderful to
care so much for her, but don't let your love
cloud your eyes. Take her indifference as a
hint, OK.? Ask her some hard questions.
Does she want the baby? Is she financially
and emotionally prepared to commit her life
friends of20-30 years. I like that And their kids
are growing up. So I have a nice support network.
I have a nice extended family, and I have a nice
family.
Life can be very exciting, but then tee are
times when it's not You know, when you're not
working, that's when you get the most paranoid.
But I had a life before I started comedy, and I think
a lot of the youngsters don't And so it does become
life and death, and you're willing to compromise
more maybe. I have a house, and my lover (Tim
Curbo) and I have been together for ten years.
Really, I get to vent a lot of my feelings,
don’t!? So comedy is therapy. I mean, it's much
more than that So it's good. But I am worried
about AIDS, and I do worry about myself and my
friends. I can't seem to shake that But I don't live
to the needs of another person ? Does she
care at all about anyone but herself?
Though you are eager for the delivery of
the baby, you must realize that the baby is
HERS. Find out if she plans to stay with you
and raise the child with you. Consider the
possibility that she may disappear, leaving
you ALONE with the baby, to "explore"
someplace else. You can love this woman
and still not allow her to make a fool of you.
You deserve much better.
DEAR NADISA:
I am 54 and work in an office as a
consultant. I am divorced from my husband
but have raised 2 children into productive
adulthood. Now I find myself attracted to a co
worker who is also divorced from her husband.
I have never had feelings like this before.
Should I make the wrong move, I could lose
my job, my self-respect..every thing I have
worked so long and hard for. Are my feelings
a signal that I am "coming out"?
Perhaps you are. Perhaps you are not.
You did not say whether your feelings for this
co-worker were sexual or not. And you made
no mention of how bng it has been since your
divorce. Loneliness can intensify feelings and
cause a person to mistake a strong need for
friendship with someone else. Yet, I suspect
that since you are reading this publication
and have written "Nadisa" that more is going
on inside of you. If you do not have an open-
minded and close friend to whom you might
confide your feelings, consider doing some
independent research of your own. This
publication could probably provide you with
the phone number to a hot-line that could
offer useful resources. Check with the nearest
women's bookstore for literature that may
assist you in clarifying your feelings. One
book you may wish to start with is Look Me In
The Eye by Barbara McDonald and Cynthia
Rich (published by Spinsters Ink) which
represents some "coming out" stories for
women in mid-life. It may held you gain
proper perspective.
with it to the point that you get round-shouldered.
But I was thinking about that the other day
when talking to somebody. And it is there. It's like
a spectre. It's amazing, you know, if we can survive
this not just physically but mentally, spiritually -
then that says a lot for us. It's just, whow, what a
test
Tom Ammiano will appear with Linda
Moakes on Friday night, April 15, at the
Southeastern Conference for Lesbians and Gay
Men. Admission is free to all those registered for
the Conference. Individual tickets for the show
only are available for $10 at thr door and $8 in
advance, available at Charis Books and The Boy
Next Door.
Look for an interview with Linda Moakes in
the April 12,1988 issue of Southern Voice.
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by Charles Haver
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