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EDITORIAL PAGE THE ATLANTA GEORGIAN Published Every Afternoon Except Sunday By THE GEORGIAN COMPANY At 20 East Alabama St., Atlanta. Ga Entered as second-class matter at post off ice at Atlanta, under art of March 3. 1373. Subscription Price - Delivered by carrier. 10 cents a week. Ry mail, >5 00 a year. Taxable in advance. Advice to Married Women and Some Answers the Women Might Give » W> •> It Is Easy to Advise and Criticise. But There Are Usually Two Sides to Criticism. And Many Sides to the Difficult Life of the Average Wife. The Rev. Mr. Bustard, who looks after Mr. John D. Rockefel ler’s spiritual welfare when he happens to he in Cleveland, has given advice to wives. He told his congregation to take his “ten don’ts for wives’’ and put them up on the mirror frame where the wife would always see them. On behalf of the wives we beg to say, first, that if the ten don’ts were put in the mirror, the husband would he apt to .see them at least as often as the wife It is an old theory and foolish that the mirror reflects a woman more often than a man. The opposite is probably true. In many homes, if yon put the ten don’ts for wives in thf mir ror, the wife would have very little opportunity of seeing these don’ts. She would he more apt to see them if you pasted them up above the cook stove, or over the wash tub, or above the baby's crib, or over the coal bin. Here are some of the reverend gentleman's don’ts: Don't marry a man for a living, | money is better than money with but for love Manhood without out manhood. ANSWER—The average woman is only too eager NOT TO MARRY FOR A LIVING. Every woman on earth wants to marry for love. No woman would marry for money and turn aside from real affection if she had her choice. The trouble is that we have developed a civilization which teaches little girls from their baby hood that they MI ST MARRY FOR A LIVING, that marrying is the only career, the only BUSINESS opportunity open to them. Civilization has taught its daughters that they can only make a living by marrying. And civilization promptly puts at work at typewriters and in factories and elsewhere ninety-nine one-hun dredths of the girls that don't get married. Even a reverend cler gyman might find himself marrying for a living if the alternative compelled him to work at starvation wages, paid on account of his sex less than his services were worth. \There will be no trouble about women “marrying for a living’ - if reverend gentlemen and others will reorganize society so that women may have some better career. A wife in a hobble skirt and a I throw more out of a kitchen win husband with patched trousers dow with a spoon than a man can make » poor pair. A woman can put into the cellar with a shovel. This sounds well enough and familiar enough. But it really is not convincing. If one must wear the patched trousers and the other a well-made costume—certainly it is better for the man to wear the patches. Mau has been bragging for generations about his generosity, and all that he does for women. A good deal of the time he has been like the rooster that cackles, scratches and looks very unselfish when he finds a worm, and then, just as the hens rush up to him, SWALLOWS THE WORM WITH A VIRTUOUS AIR. The trouble in this world is not that woman wears the fancy hobble skirt and man the patched trousers. And the trouble is not that women throw more out of the kitchen window with a spoon than a man can put into the cellar with a shovel. The trouble is that the average man working for a living spends on his own selfish luxuries too much of the money that his wife amd children need. The trouble is that among the families that earn small or moderate incomes the husband spends more for cigars and luncheons downtown, and visits at drinking resorts on the way up town and downtown, than the mother can spend for her children. If the men who tell lies about the necessity of spending their income on business acquaintances, etcetera, could he persuaded to spend that money on their wives and on their children, the world would be better off. We assure the Rev. Mr. Bustard that his state ment about the spoon and the shovel is a mistake. The ordinary man can throw into a whisky glass, out of a small hottie, more real money than the average woman can find to clothe herself and her children—and that is not imagination. Don't think that the way to run I other nomen on how to bring up a house is to run away from It. It children while you are neglecting is wrong to go around lecturing your own. Very good, sound advice for everybody—from wives to clergy men The wife might turn and say to the clergyman, “ Very good, indeed; try it yourself For wives are no worse than clergymen or Tankers or peddlers when it comes to neglecting their own business and attending to other people's business We are all much alike except that wives leading very dull lives, having to endure a great deal more of the house than anybody could reasonably be expected to stand, are less blamable than others if they try to get away for a change. Don't nag The saloon keeper la I band with a smile, always glad to welcome your hus- This also sounds well. Bui we can assure the reverend gentle man—-sad as it may seem—-that the wife who nags, that is to say, the wife who has the courage to assort her rights and the rights of her children, is more apt to keep her husband awav from the saloon than the other kind of wife. The wife who never complains, who submits gently, and takes what she gets, whether it be kindness or coldness, neglect or atteu lion, is usually the wife whose husband gets the most frequent and the warmest welcome from the saloonkeeper. If wives nag. it is BECAUSE 11 USB A NDS H \V E COM CELLED THEM TO DO IT. Nagging on the part of a wife is no more than urging generosity when the moment comes "to let your light shine" and the collection box goes around The clergyman who doesn't nag a certain kind of congregation when collection time comes hasn't a prosperous church. And the wife who doesn't nag a certain kind of busband is apt not to have prosperous children. Don’t try to get more out of a wom.o.'s beauty than man's pon- looking glass than you put into it. d<r and paints. Nature’? sunshine is better for Very good and true What is needed, however, is a system of society that will enable women to get “nature s sunshine" and hap Continued in Lest Column I \ ♦ The Atlanta Georgian HE NEVER HAD A CHANCE That Is What Nine Men Out of Ten Who Are Failures Say. Look Out That You Don’t Say It Yourself. By TAD k y 'o hi B t * T ;i'! /1 11 “ ■> it AC 1 a -^ E ' ~ ' // • II illi jMi I ' !| l |l]i'''!llii|lilli'i 111 VA t NO. 9. Things broke bad for Yum. He voted early and often, yet his hoSs was defeated, and the promised job proved to be a bloomer. Yum was disgusted. Why shouldn’t he be? How hard be tried to get along, yet things seemed to he against him. He pointed his nose toward the saloon on the corner and took a drink. Whiskey was as good as anything he could think of to drown his troubles in. and he drank it. He drank it un til he tumbled into a chair by a table all alone. Yum figured the whole thing out. Some one told him long ago that every man was the archi tect of his own fortune. Yum thought, it over. Lots of them have had help; he knew it. He looked hack to the days when ho was a mere lad. He never had a chance; that was no kid. He. tried, that is, he They Will Say It Is Folly for a Boy to Marry on SB.OO a Week LET those who know through very hard experience tell "N. U." what he should do. "I am nineteen years of age,” he writes, “and have kept company for the past three years with a girl one year my junior. 1 am earn ing the small sum of $8 a week, and my prospects for an increase in the immediate future are slim indeed, all through no other fault than a youthful appearance. “The parents of the young lady have taken a liking to me. and en courage our keeping company, con tinually asking me if it is not time that our engagement was an nounced. This places me In a very bad predicament, as they are of the opinion that I earn a reasonable salary with which to attempt mat rimony. What would you advise me to do?” Years Ago Marriage on $8 a Week Was Possible. There are many men who mar ried on less than $8 a week and saved money Rut that was sev eral generations ago when neces sities cost less, and no one craved luxuries It was a time when a bride rolled up her sleeves and did the washing or worked with her husband in the field. It was a time when much that appeared on the table was raised in the gar den and a dross was worn at least five years. Eight dollars in those days, did more than Slfi today and lift a week will not permit every than to marry and support his wife If it is the intention of “N. U." to let his wife also be a wage-earner, their combined efforts, if Iter w ages match his. will not more than suf fice to keep their heads above water. Strange That Her Parents Approve the Match. If it is not intended that she should also add to the family sup port. then his lies’ friends should tie him up until all thought of tnat- Let Married Men Decide By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. FRIDAY, JUNE 7, 1912. rimony has departed from his heart and head. It Is a very strange situation when parents of a girl urge her marriage to an eight-dollar-a-week man. It is not against him that he gets no more. It is against them that they would approve of a mar riage so sure of suicidal results. W ith the most rigid economy they could batch exist on It. and if sick ness came they' would be helpless. The parents who urge a wealthy ■ match for their daughter are much to be condemned. 1 contend that the parents of this girl who urge a marriage that means near-starva tion are to be condemned more. This young man doubts the wis dom of marriage in his circum stances I beg of him that he lay his case before other men who married when as poor as lie. They will tell him tales of priva tion. bad luck, ill health, depression, lack of work, sickness, incessant toil under the most discouraging conditions: they will tell him of a burden borne that never grew light er. but that grew heavier with the The Wanderlust ®> By MINNA IRVING. I WANT to go up to the top. tip. top And see what is over the hill; There is maybe a garden of roses and bees. Or an orchard, a lake or a mill. A wood all a-shimmer with shadow and sun As it wanes to the blue of the sky. Or a winding white highway where, powdered with dust, The carts, heavy laden, roll by. I want t<> cross over the river beyond And follow the path that may lead To a tower and a town, or a farm and a field Where the red cattle lazily feed. And bridges are spanning the silvery streams. And pleasure boats rock in the sedge: I want to go on to the rim of the world And see what is'over the edge. thought he tried.®but he failed. He thought back to the time when he managed that fighter. The world lay enamelled before him. He had so far to go. yet it seemed beautiful. As he traveled along in tears he came nearer to the real world. Then he found cracks in the enamel, rough places that hadn't been enameled at all. pitfalls and crevasses. Now he was right in the midst of it all. There was no enamel. It was an illusion. It was rougher than he had ever dreamed of, yet he had to go along. He hadn’t much hope, hence the booze. There he lay on the old table in the corner saloon moan ing to himself. The regulars at the bar looked over at him sadly and remarked. “It's too bad; the kid can’t handle the stuff.” To Be Continued. years and the decreasing strength to bear it. Would love last under such cir cumstances?, In theory, yes. In practice—well. 1 beg of those who love not to make a test. It may only mean a needless and painful sacrifice. “N. U." is only- nineteen. He will be young enough to think of mar rying when lie is 25. His prospects will be brighter; he will have at tained • his physical growth, and with these will come better judg ment. Too Young, Too Poor to Dream of Marriage. He is no more fit to marry today than a boy who is snatched from the cradle If be were mature in mind he would know beyond a doubt that he is too young in years and too poor in prospects to think of marrying. He would, moreover, in fairness to the girl, tell her so frankly. If she decides against -waiting for him he should step aside and give some other man a chance. This. I hope, will he do. Not more for the sake of the g|r| than for his own sake. THE HOME PAPER The Importance of Taking One Step at a Time To Get On in Life You Must Know How to Keep Yourself Healthy HEALTH results from the en gine being in good condi tion. Energy is a plentiful supply of steam. Intelligence, con sists in knowing how to keep the engine on the rails, instead of using the energy to dump it into a ditch. This is a tragedy. And another one is to have an engine AND NO STEAM. It is important, then, to know how to keep the engine moving, for that is the actual GETTING ON (or the moving forward) in life. To know how to keep the engine mov ing means that we must know how tn produce energy. There are two ways: 1. By -following rigidly, as the Italian. Cornaro, did, the necessary rules in your own case in regard to food, drink, breathing, sleep. These are the basis. They keep the body in tune and the mind is clear. Is there anything else to do? There is. To make an engine move, water must be heated, and turned into an invisible force, called steam. To heat the water that it may be turned to steam requires fire. Thought Is Only Motive Power We Have. Do the same thing with the phys ical engine. Put the proper food Into it to burn, which is food in the stomach. Treat the stomach ex actly as you would treat the kitch en stove, using enough fuel for the fire you want, and never filling the grate so that the covers bulge up. When this is done, probably the steam will begin to come in the form of thought, WHICH IS THE ONLY MOTIVE POWER WE HAVE. A man traveling tn Switzerland, in the easy fashion of the summer tourist, was urged by some friends to join them in climbing the Mat tel-horn. He declined at first, but finally they persuaded him to try it. In describing his experience' up and down that famous peak he emphasized, first, the extreme care of the guides. Next, the mental bracing he felt in facing danger hour after hour; the care that had to be exercised IN TAKING ONE STEP AT A TIME; the thought of Advice to Married Women and Some Answers the Women Might Give 11 in ■I 11 ||■ || H !I«WJL_J« Continued From First Column. piness and thp beauty that comes from cheerfulness and freedom from worry. If women paint and powder, there are two reasons for it. First, the stupidity of man, who admires what is artificial. And, second, the dullness of life and the falseness of life which make women pale, thin and old before their time. If the Rev. Mr. Bustard will arrange to supply the wives of the country with hap piness. cheerfulness, plenty of sunshine and the beauty that comes from freedom from care, he will be very little bothered with powder and paint and over attention to looking-glasses. * Don’t forget that home is a worn- f Lincoln, a. Garfield or a McKinley an's kingdom, where she reigns as I is to be the mother of a prince, a queen. To be the mother of a 1 Good advice. Home ought to be a woman's kingdom. But you can't blame a queen for getting out of a kingdom that isn't worth having—a kingdom desolate, dull and tiresome. If the man would make the home his resort, his club. HIS king dom: if he would keep the promises that he made when he married; if he would show in the tired and often discouraged wife at home the same interest, politeness and deference that he shows to the first silly gadabout to whom he happens to be introduced, the home would be a kingdom worth while for the wife—and she'd be glad to st as in it and work in it. It ts quite true that to be the mother of a Lincoln is to be the mother of a prince—or rather the mother of a man worth many dozens of princes. But while the mother probably contributes nine tenths of the son. the husband must at least contribute ONE tenth. And we beg to inform the Reverend Mr. Bustard and all husbands that the one thing which makes for greatness jn a son IS THE MOTHER'S AFFECTION, ADMIRATION AND REVERENCE FOR THE HUSBAND. You don't find a great son, unless the husband by kindness, gentleness and consideration has deserved the affection the intense devotion of the wife. ' Leonardo was the greatest of artists, with one exception be cause his mother, a poor peasant woman, adored and revered her child's father. William the Conqueror was one of the greatest of rulers and statesmen because his mother, a poor girl, daughter of a tanner revered the Duke of Normandy, who made her his wife. And Lincoln was great in spirit, in body and in' accomplish nient because his own mother truly loved the husband with whoa, she shared her lot. the father of the boy born in the hut of one room with a dirt floor. Lincoln s power was the refleetion of the mother's love for Lincoln s father—you may he sure of that. And Lincoln's power also was (he reflection of'another woman's affection and devotion—the stepmother who eared for him, educated him and gave him opportunity. 1 he wives ot the world are only too anxious to make their homes their kingdoms, and to find their glorv in their children But first let the husbands do THEIR part, let them really con centrate their hours, their earnings, their money and their interest in the home. The rest will be easy. Remember that women are. morally ami spiritually at least O n® thousand per cent superior to men. That is why Um human race improves Bv THOMAS TAPPER. Eear that had to be banished when he realized that one single misstep meant a fali of thousands of feet into an eternal refrigerator Take One Step At a Tima And With Care. But he reached the top. and by . the same mental and physical expe rience he reached the bottom again. Then, his vacation being over, lifi left Switzerland and he began, so he said, to draw dividends on that trip up the Matterhorn. Situation* in business that had hitherto seem ed difficult to him now seemed easy. He had learned, in what seemed at that time a terrible ex perience. TO TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME IN ALL HIS UN DERTAKINGS, AND TO TAKE 17 WITH CARE. Nor was the lesson of the guides lost upon him. They prepared for the worst that could happen be fore they started up. That seemed to him a good idea, and he begau to apply It in all his business— getting all things ready for a new business venture before he started up. This illustrates the energetic ac tion of the mind when the owner has done one difficult thing, u<i done it wen. To the man who looks at th* Milky Way through a telescope there is opened up in a flash th* Infinity of space. He no longer walks in his little world, thinking that the rest of the universe circles around it and him. It pays to iff spire the mind with the fact that, the universe is larger than the of fice where we work. To Get More Energy You Must Inspire the Mind. To the man who cltmbed tin Matterhorn there was opened up in a flash the infinity of his own pos sibilities in doing things. He no longer thought it a marvelous thing to go over to the bank and cash a check for eight dollars. The care of the guides, the climb up. the yawning chasms of Ice and snow thousands of feet below him, had ! suddenly lighted up his mind/ as a lamp lights up a dark room. To get more energy, inspire tire mind.