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editorial, page THE ATLANTA GEORGIAN Published Every Afternoon Except Sunday By THE GEORGIAN COMPANY At 20 East Alabama St., Atlanta, Ga. entered as second-class matter at postofftce at Atlanta, under act of March 3. 1873. Subscription Price—Delivered by carrier, 10 confs a week. By mail, 15.00 a year. Payable In advance. Advice to Married Women and Some Answers the Women Might Give M n » It Is Easy to Advise and Criticise. But There Are Usually Two Sides to Criticism. And Many Sides to the Difficult Life of the Average Wife. The Rev. Mr. Bustard, who looks after Mr. John D. Rockefel ler’s spiritual welfare when he happens to he in Cleveland, has given advice to wives. He told his congregation to take his “ten don’ls for wives’’ and put them up on the mirror frame where the wife would always see them On behalf of the wjves we beg to say, first, that if the ten don’ts were put in the mirror, the husband would be apt to see them at least as often as the wife. It is an old theory and foolish that the mirror reflects a woman more often than a man. The opposite is probably true. In many homes, if yon pnt the ten don’ts for wives in the mir ror, the wife would have very little opportunity of seeing these don’ts. She would be more apt to see them if you pasted them up above the conk stove, or over the wash tub, or above the baby’s crib, ©r over the coal bin. Here are some of the reverend gentleman's don’ts: Don't marry a man for a living, l money ie better than money wl»h but for love. Manhood without out manhood. ANSWER—The average woman is only too eager NOT TO MARRY FOR A LIVING. Every woman on earth wants to marry for love. No woman would marry for money and turn aside from real affection if she had her choice. The trouble is that we have developed a civilization which teaches little girls from their baby hood that they MUST MARRY FOR A LIVING, that marrying is the only career, the only BUSINESS; opportunity open to them. Civilization has taught its daughters that they can only make a living by marrying. And civilization promptly puts at work at typewriters and in factories ami elsewhere ninety-nine one-hun dredths of the girls that don't get married Even a reverend cler gyman miglit find himself marrying for a living if the alternative compelled him to work at starvation wages, paid on account of his sex less than his services were worth. There will he no trouble about women “marrying for a living" if reverend gentlemen and others will -eorganize society so that women may have some better career. \ A wife In a hobble skirt and a throw more out of a kitchen wln husband with patched trousers don with s spoon than a man can make a poor pair. . A woman can put Into the cellar with a shovel. This sounds well enough and familiar enough. But it really is not convincing If one must wear the patched trousers and the other a well-made costume certainly it is bettor for the man to wear the patches. Man has been bragging for generations about his generosity, and all that he does for women A good deal of the time he has been like the rooster that cackles, scratches ami looks verv •k unselfish when he finds a worm, and then, just as the hens rush up to him. SWALLOWS THE WORM WITH A VIRTUOUS AIR. The trouble in this world is not that woman wears the fancy hobble skirt and man the patched trousers And the trouble is not that women throw more out of the kitchen window with a spoon than a roan can put into the cellar with a shovel. The trouble is that the average man working for a living spends on his own selfish luxuries too much of the money that his wife and children need. The trouble is that among the families that earn small or moderate incomes the husband spends more for cigars and luncheons downtown, and visits at drifiking resorts on the way up town and downtown, than the mother can spend for her children. If the men who tell lies about the necessity of spending their income on business acquaintances, etcetera, could be persuaded to spend that money on their wives and on their children, the world would be better off. We assure the Rev. Mr. Bustard that his state ment about the spoon and the shovel is a mistake. The ordinary man can throw into a whisky glass, out of a small bottle, more real •money than the average woman can find to clothe herself and her .children —and that is not imagination. Don't think that the way to run | other women on how to bring up a hou»e is to run away from it It children while you are neglecting Is wrong to go around lecturing your own. Very good, sound advice for everybody from wives to clergy men The wife might turn and say to the clergyman, “Very good, indeed; try it yourself For wives are no worse than clergymen or hankers or peddlers when it comes to neglecting their own business and a. -V’ing to other people's business. We are all much alike except tn s -..wives leading very dull lives, having to endure a great deal more d7*be house than anybody could reasonably he expected to stand, are less blamable than others if they try to get away for a change. Don’t nap The salnnn keeper Is band with a smile. always jrlotl tn welcome your hus- This also sounds well. But we can assure the reverend gentle man—sad as it may seem -that the wife who nags, that is to say. the wife who has the courage to assert her rights and the rights of her children, is more apt to keep her husband away from the saloon than the other kind of wife. The wife who never complains, who submits gently, and takes what she gets, whether it be kindness or coldness, neglect or atten t ; nn ig usually the wife whose husband gets the most frequent and the warmest welcome from the saloonkeeper. If wives nag. it is BECAUSE HUSBANDS HAVE COMPELLED THEM TO DO IT. Nagging on the part of a wife is no more than rug-rng generosity when the moment comes “to let your light shine" and the collection box goes around. The clergyman who doesn't nag a certain kind of congregation when collection time comes hasn't a prosperous church. And the wife who doesn't nag a certain kind of husband is apt not to have prosperous children. Don’t try to set more out of a woman's beauty than man's pnw. looking <IMB than you put into it. der and paints. Nature’s sunshine is better for Verv good and true. What is needed, however. >s a system of society that will enable women to get “nature s sunshine and hap Continued in La»t Column- The Atlanta Georgian HE NEVER HAD A CHANCE That Is What Nine Men Out of Ten Who Are Failures Say. Look Out That You Don’t Say It Yourself. By TAD •y S _ J. i7- ra . -WAa : - I Juj 7*l Hi' 7 • 'WRj| ■ Puiiiiiiigfc ‘ Iff ’ *• 4 NO. 9. Things broke bad for Yum. He voted early and often, yet his boss was defeated, and the promised job proved to be a bloomer. Yum was disgusted. Why shouldn’t he be’ How hard he tried to get along, yet things seemed to he against him. He pointed his nose toward the saloon on the corner and took a drink. Whiskey was as good as anything he could think of to drown his troubles in, and he drank it. He drank it un til he tumbled into a chair by a table all alone. Yum figured the whole thing out. Some one told him long ago that every man was the archi tect of his own fortune. Yum thought it over. Lots of them have had help; he knew it. He looked hack to the days when he was a mere lad. He never had a chance; that was no kid. He tried, that is, he They Will Say It Is Lolly for a Roy to Marry on SB.OO a Week IET those who know through very' hard experience tell "N. U." what he should do. "I am nineteen years of age." he writes, "and have kept company for the past three years with a girl one year my junior. I am earn ing the small sum of $8 a week, and my prospects for an increase in the immediate future are slim indeed, all through no other fault than a youthful appearance. "The parents of the young lady have taken a liking to me, and en courage our keeping company, con tinually asking me if it is not time that our engagement was an nounced. This places me in a very bad predicament, as they are of the opinion that I earn a reasonable salary with which to attempt mat rimony. What would you advise me to. do?” Years Ago Marriage on $8 a Week Was Possible. There ere many men who mar ried on less than $8 a week and saved money But that was sev eral generations ago when neces sities c ost less, and no one craved luxuries. It was a time when a bride rolled up her sleeves and did the washing or worked with her husband in the field, it was a time when much that appeared on the lahle was raised in the gar den and a dress was worn at least five years. Eight dollars in those days did more than Jl* today, and $lB a week will not permit every man to marry and support his wife. If it is the intention of "N. U." to let his wife also be a wage-earner, their combined efforts, if her wages match his, will not more than suf fice to keep their heads above water. Strange That Her Parents Approve the Match. If it i.« not intended that she should also add to the family sup port. then his best friends should tie him up until all thought of mat- Let Married Men Decide ER 1 DAY, JUNE 7, 1912. thought he tried, hut he failed. He thought back to the time when he managed that fighter. The world lay enamelled before him. He had so far to go, yet it seemed beautiful. As he traveled along in tears he came nearer to the real world. Then he found cracks in the enamel, rough places that hadn't been enameled at all. pitfalls and crevasses. Now he was right in the midst of it all. There was no enamel. It was an illusion. It was rougher than he had ever dreamed of. yet he had to go along. He hadn't much hope, hence the booze. There he lay on the old table in the corner saloon moan ing to himself. The regulars at the bar looked over at him sadly and remarked. “It’s too bad; the kid can't handle lhe stuff.’’ To Be Continued. ly BEATRICE FAIRFAX. rimony has departed from his heart and head. It Is a very strange situation when parents of a giri urge her marriage to an eight-dollar-a-week man. It is not against him that lie gets no more. It is against them that they would approve of a mar riage so sure of suicidal results. With the most rigid economy they could barely exist on it. and if sick ness came they would be helpless. The parents who urge a wealthy match for their daughter are much tec be condemned. I contend that the parents of this girl who urge a marriage that means near-starva tlon are to be condemned more. This y oung man doubts the wis dom of marriage in his circum stances I beg of him that he lay his case before other men who married w hen as poor as he They will tell him tales of priva tion. bad luck, ill health, depression, lack of work, sickness, incessant toil under the most discouraging conditions; they will tell him of a burden borne that never grew light er, but that grew heavier with the The Wanderlust ® By MINNA IRVING. I WANT to go up to the top. tip, top And see what is over the bill; There is maybe a garden of roses and bees. Or an orchard, a lake or a mill. A wood all a-shimmer with shadow and sun As it wanes to the blue of the sky. Or a winding white highway where, powdered with dust, The carts, heavy laden, roll by. I want to cross over the river beyond And follow the path that may lead To a tower and a town, or a farm and a field Where the red cattle lazily feed. And bridges are spanning the silvery streams. And pleasure boats rock in the sed^e; 1 want to go on to the rim of the world And see what is over the edge. years and the decreasing strength to bear it. Would love last under such cir cumstances? In theory, yes. In practice—well. I beg of those who love not to make a test. It may only mean a needless and painful sacrifice. "N. U." is only nineteen. He will be young enough to think of mar rying when he is 25. His prospects will be brighter: he will have at tained his physical growth, and with these will come better judg ment. • Too Young, Too Poor to Dream of Marriage. He is no more fit to marry today than a boy who is snatched from the cradle If he were mature in mind he would know beyond a doubt that he is too young in years and too poor in prospects to think of marrying. He would, moreover. In fairness to the girl, toll her so frankly. If she decides against waiting for him he should step aside and give some other man a chance. This. I hope, will he do. Not mote for the sake of the girl than for his own sake. THE HOME PAPER The Importance of Taking One Step at a Timej To Get On in Life You Must Know Alow to Keep Yourself Healthy HEALTH results from the en gine being in good condi tion. Energy is a plentiful supply of steam. Intelligence con sists in knowing how to keep the engine on the rails, instead of using the energy to dump it into a ditch. This is a tragedy. And another one is to have an engine AND NO STEAM. It is important, then, to know how to keep the engine moving, for that is the actual GETTING ON (or the moving forward) in life. To know how to keep the engine mov ing means that we must know how to produce energy. There are two ways-: 1. By following rigidly, as the Italian. Cornaro. did. the necessary rules in your own case in regard to food, drink, breathing, sleep. These are the basis. They keep the body in tune and the mind is clear. Is there anything else to do? There is. To make an engine move, water must be heated, and turned into an invisible force, called steam. To heat the water that it may be turned to steam requires fire. Thought Is Only Motive Power We Have. Do the same thing with the phys ical engine. Put the. proper food Into It to burn, which is food in the stomach. TYeat the' stomach ex actly as you would treat the kitch en stove, using enough fuel for the fire you want, and never filling the grate So that the covers bulge up. When this is done, -probably the steam will begin to come in the form of thought. WHICH IS THE ONLY MOTIVE POWER WE HAVE. A man traveling In Switzerland, in the easy fashion of the summer tourist, was urged by some friends to join them in climbing the, Mat terhorn. He declined at first, but finally they persuaded him to try it. In describing his experience tip and down that famous peak he emphasized, first, the extreme care of the guides. Next, the mental bracing he felt in facing danger hour after hour; the care that had to be exercised IN TAKING ONE STEP AT A TIME; the thought of Advice to Married Women and Some Answers the Women Might Give Continued From First Column, piness and the beauty that comes from cheerfulness and freedom from, worry. If women paint and powder, there are two reasons for it. First, the stupidity of man. who admires what is artificial. And. second, the dullness of life and the falseness of life which make women pale, thin and old before their time. If the Rev. Mr. Bustard will arrange to supply the wives of the country with hap piness, cheerfulness, plenty of sunshine and the beauty that comes from freedom from care, he will be very little bothered with powder and paint and over attention to looking-glasses. Don't forget that home is a worn- t Lincoln, a Garfield or a McKinley an's kingdom, where she reigns as | is to be the mother of a prince, a queen. To be the mother of a Good advice. Home ought to be a woman's kingdom But vou can't blame a queen for getting out of a kingdom that isn't worth having—a kingdom desolate, dull and tiresome. If the man would make the home his resort, his dub. HH> king dom; if he would keep the promises that he made when he married; if he would show in the tired ami often discouraged wife at home lhe same interest, politeness and deference that he shows to the first, silly gadabout to whom he happens to be introduced, the home would be a kingdom worth while for the wife—and she'd he glad to sta* in it and work in it. It is quite true that to be the mother of a Lincoln is to he the mother of a prince—or rather the mother of a man worth manv dozens of princes. But while the mother probably contributes nine tenths of the son, the husband must at least contribute ONE tenth. And we beg to inform the Reverend .Mr. Bustard and all husbands that the one thing which makes for greatness in a son IS THE MOTHER'S AFFECTION. ADMIRATION AND REVERENCE FOR THE HUSBAND. You don't find a great son, unless the husband by kindness, gentleness and consideration has deserved thij affection, the intense devotion of the wife. Leonardo was the greatest of artists, with one exception, be cause his mother, a poor peasant woman, adored and revered her child's father. William the Conqueror was one of the greatest of rulers and statesmen because his mother, a poor girl, daughter of a tanner revered the Duke of Normandy, who made her his wife. And Lincoln was great in spirit,, in body and in accomplish ment because his own mother truly loved the husband with whom she shared her lot, the father of the hoy born in the hut of one room with a dirt floor. Lincoln's power was the reflection of the mother's love for Lincoln's father—you may be sure of that. And Lincoln's power also was the reflection of another woman's affection and devotion—the stepmother who cared for him, educated him and gave him opportunity. The wives of the world are only too anxious to make their homes their kingdoms, and to find their glory in their children. But first let the husbands do THEIR part, let them reallv con centrate their hours, their earnings, their money and their interest, in the home. The rest will be easy. Remember that women arc. morally and spiritually at least, one thousand per cent superior to men That is why the human race improves Bv THOMAS TAPPER. Pear that had to be banished w hen he realized that one single misstep meant a fall of thousands <t?f feet into an eternal refrigerator \ Take One Step At a Tima i And With Care. \ But he reached the top. and byV the same mental and physical expe rience he reached the bottom again. Then, his vacation being over, h* left Switzerland and he began, »o he said, to draw dividends on that nip up the Matterhorn. Situation* in business that had hitherto seem ed difficult to him now seemed easy. He had learned, in what seemed at that time a terrible ex perience, TO TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME IN ALL HIS UN DERTAKINGS, AND TO TAKE IT WITH CARE. Nor was the lesson of the guides lost upon him. They prepared toe the worst that could happen be fore they started up. That seemed to him a good idea, and he began to apply it in all his business getting all things ready for a new business venture before he st*»-led up. Tills illustrates the energetic ac tion of the mind when the owner has done one difficult thing, ax»a done it wen. To the man who looks at the Milky Way through a telescope there is opened up in a flash the infinity of spare. He no longer walks in his little world thinking that the rest of the universe circle* around it and him. It pays to in spire the mind with the fact that the universe is larger than the of fice where we work. To Get More Energy You Must Inspire the Mind. To the man who climbed Gie Matterhorn there was opened up in a flash the infinity of his own pos sibilities in doing things. He no longer thought it a marvelous thing to' go over to the bank and cash a cheek for eight dollars. The care of the guides, the climb up, the yawning chasms of Ice and snow' thousands of feet below' him. had suddenly lighted up his mind, as a lamp lights up a dark room. To get more energy, inspire the mind.