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A Waste of
Time
When Milady Strolls
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
A YOUNG girl writes:
"I am seventeen, and love a
man four years my senior. But
he meets other girls. When he meets
men with these other girls he
always talks to me but he keeps on
meeting them How can I break him
of this?"
Jithel tells her troubles: “What do
you think of a young man who pro
fesses to love a girl and still admits
he goes with others? He claims 1 am
the only girl he cares for. but still he
meets others."
"I am seventeen," writes B. W , and
in love with a boy of nineteen. We
have been meeting each other steady
till last week, when he didn’t come,
and I found out he was meeting an
other girl and was deceiving me. For
all that. 1 cannot seem to lose my love
lor him. How can I win back his
love and get him from the other
girl?"
Can’t Believe Him.
Heartbroken writes: “I am eighteen
and In love with a boy two years older.
He tells nte ne loves me. but 1 see him
with other girls. When I ask him If he
cares for the other girls he always says
"No.” hut I can't believe him. How can
I win him back?"
There are no two in the world, per
haps, who can agree on what It Is
that causes the greatest waste of time.
And by that 1 mean something a little
more than time as measured by the
clock and calendar. I mean the value
of it, as compared with the results
achieved One wastes time while wait
ing for a car. but the car finally comes
One wastes time In reading worthless
literature, but often such mental nausea
results that one is cured of the dehire.
The skeptical say that much time is
wasted in making love, hut those of
broader minds and younger hearts have
learned that every such experience
leaves one a little more sympathetic and
charitable.
The man who hoards his money
regards every minute wasted that
doesn't bring him more, and the tramp
who spends his days blinking lazy eyes
at the sun Is sure that every one who
works is a time waster
But I contend that there Is a way
more prodigal than all of these. And
that Is the time wasted In trying to
win back a lover whose afTectlons have
begun to cool
It Is as If one lost something abso
lutely worthless In the beginning, and
Instead of straightening up and walk
ing on, glad to be relieved of the
burden, went down on one's knees In
the dust and dirt to seek for that which
was lost.
A Good Thing.
There Is a well and a cry and time
Is spent In weeping that should be
<,evoted to rejoicing. A love that can
st is a mistaken love; It Is the
beat thing that can happen to a girl
to lose it before It is fettered on her.
If it had been worth while It wouldn't
have been lost so easily. It would
have taken much more than the pretty
face of another girl to have won It
away The fact that It could be lost
puts a price mark on it, and that price
mark is very, very low.
Vet day after day girls, on their
knees in the dust of humiliation and
despair, cry to me after vainly search
ing for the worthless bauble they have
lost "How can I win It back? Help me,
for my heart Is broken'."
And how I would like to help you.
you poor little girls with your aching
hearts! But my method would not be
■the kind you seek. I would raise you to
lyour feet and have you laugh at your
Joss, and walk on, glad to be relieved
„f the care of anything so worthless, and
glad that you lost It before Its pos
session had become more serious.
CHILDREN
Parents Should Counsel I hem
About Their Habits
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A tailorrmtde
costume of ma
rine blue serge.
This is one of
the most
popular models
for Spring,
1913, viz. curv
ing up to the
bust, and hang
ing well below
the waist line
in the back,
The three-quar
ter sleeves are
finished by a
euff of black
satin with small
revers of em
broidered linen.
The small
turned-up col
lar is also of
embroidered
linen. The
skirt, straight
and plain, is
only trimmed in
front with tiny
buttons.
Snap Shots
By LILLIAN LAUFERTY.
Oh, a "Mint Melange" Is a plensant
thing;
May this word melange now a message
bring
That s as quick and as sharp as the
peppermint.
IWith its flavor and tang and its color
ful glint.
• • •
Is virtue a thing remote? 1 wish to
be virtuous, and lo! Virtue 1s at hand.
•—Confucius.
• • •
LOVE—THE ILLUSION.
I»ve Is Just a cobweb, wet with morn
ing dew;
Tore 1s Just a fairy spell. Invisible to
view.
A tread, a touch too heavy, and the
cobweb Is not there;
J& s!gh too long, and lo! the spell has
vanished in the air.
Love is Just a morning-glory, doomed
at noon to die;
Tx>ve Is only half a story told In pass
ing by.
Love is gold so delicate the faintest
flame would melt it;
Love's nothing but Lord help the man
who's never known or felt It!
—IJfe
• • •
MAIDEN MUSINGS.
If the man you met day before yes
terday tells you to look at things from
a broad-minded viewpoint, make sure
that he is not going to express a few
views that are a little too broad.
T>ear girl, if you are certain that you
could never love a man who did not
bare strong feelings, be careful to love
one who has strong command over them
too.
It docs not psy to look for trouble
but be prepared for difficulties with
your savings bank account If yon will
buy clothes that are tagged "Rue de la
Fabc * and wear ’em out on Peachtree.
Good-Nature and Success
WHY ONE IS NOT COMPATIBLE WITH THE OTHER.
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
B KFORE you send your little girls ,
an-l boys to the public school, j
take them in your arms anti
talk with them pleasantly, but yet
rloiisly. regarding their conversa- j
tion and habits while away from you.
If you an- not mentally fitted for
the task of giving them some knowl- j
«-«!gc of the great facts which under
lie ail created life and giving these
lai — In the right way, it might be
well for you to consult some of the
women's clubs in your own town and
ask for the best teacher of eugen-i
a and find what booklets have been
written to guide parents in these very
matters.
Eugenics Important.
This science of eugenics is becom
ing an important factor in the train
ing <>f children, and it wUl not be dif-
fieult for you to learn something of
its workings. It shows how the world j
i- progressing, for ten years ago, when
this subject was discussed in this col - J
umn, it brought down a flock of dis
approving letters, and horrified par
ent;. declared the proposition was one,
which aimed at the destruction of in-
| nocent childhood.
Now there are eugenic organiza-1
tions formed all over the world, with i
the object of beginning to train chil- i
dren in right ideals of sex relations,
and in so laying the foundation of
mental and moral and physical health
for the rising generations. The scien
tific facts of the dangers of alcoholic I
stimulants are being taught In schools.;
and it is having its marked effects
on the minds of the young.
Ignorance Is Worse.
.One ~mall boy urged his parents
to avoid the use of stimulants, giving
them a scientific treason for his plan.
It will be impossible for that boy to
become a drunkard, for deep In his
conscience is the knowledge of the
deStvuctive powers which lie in strong
drink. The dangers which lie in ig
norance of sex facts are much graver
than ignorance of the evils of drink.
Childhood is imperilled, youth, matur
ity and future generations menaced
by this ignorance.
The public schools and all private
schools and all country schools are
endangering evil along with good.
Children are taught everything save
the most vital truths of life during
school hours, and there is no guid
ance* or protection given them out o?
j school hours.
Innocent and perverted are thrown
side by side, and sacred facts are
made known to pure young minds in
the guise of obscenity and depravity.
Mothers and fathers are blind and
stupid on these subjects, and through
conceit and vanity imagine their chil
dren beyond and above any danger of
I contamination. Yet the contamina
tion takes place all the same.
It is the business of instructors to
provide the common-sense teaching
which parents so woefully lack in the
training of the young. But let it oe
done wisely, carefully and delicately.
Many books, written with a view of
guiding tht* young away from un
healthful thoughts, only serve to guide
| toward them, and many instructors,
who seek to allay precocious curiosi
ty, produce it by lack of right method.
Should Be Taught.
Children should be taught that we
are ONE WITH NATURE, ONE
WITH MOTHER EARTH. And that
as plants spring forth, so does man,
and that God. the Source and the
Cause, lies back of everything, anA
that all His methods are beautifu\
sacred and holy.
And then they should bo taught to
he silent on these subjects, and to re
fuse to talk or associate with children
vho make light or obscene references
to the topic.
Begin to-day some plan to instruct
your children in these matters.
Never, perhaps, has the camera illustrated the
force of wind and waves on a vessel of iron and
steel as strikingly as in this picture.
This shows the German freighter Orion, which
was blown on the Rik^r sands. Sunderland, Eng
land, during a terrific gale.
All efforts to float the vessel failed, and it was
abandoned. * Within two weeks after it had strand
ed It split literally In two, a.s the picture shows.
THE
ORION ON THE SANDS.
Freak Companies
to the
Ad
vice
Lovelorn
Real Financier.
Junior—Here's an order from Mrs.
Peterkin-Smytbe, father.
Senior—Really? Clever woman, Mr*.
Peterkin-Smythe. We must do what
ever we can to oblige her.
Junior -She wishes us to purchase a
thousand shares of J. T. and W. on her
account at 75 and sell at MO. and send
: a check for the profits by 12 o’clock
-day.
H OW many really successful men
do you know who are good-
natured ?
Your successful man may be will
ing to give you a lift, he may be one
of the best employers going, but.
rarely you will find him brimming
over with good nsture.
The fact Is that good nature and
success cannot go hand In hand. A
good-natured man Is a failure in busi
ness for many reasons His fellow-
workers soon find out his good na
ture and Impose upon him.
It Is always a case of: 'T say,
Jones, old chap, you might count up
these figures for me;” or, "Jones. I
should be awfully obliged If you’d
help me with these accounts this
afternoon—there's a good fellow! 1
want to get off early.”
Too Busy for Others.
The result Is that Jones does his
own work, and as much of every
body else’s that he can But he never
gets the credit for the latter. Nor
will he be appreciated any more by
those around him. If there is any
Joke going on, then you may be sure
Jones is the butt of It. "Oh, Jones
won’t mind! He’s such a good-natured
chap, you know!”
Being of such a good nature, Jones
lets everybody push him aside, and
takes the Jobs he could do equally as
well—If It were not for his good
nature If there Is any Mg business
transaction to be pulled off, Jones is
not there The man chosen is the
hard-headed, pushful type, who will
drive as hard a bargain a* possible
The good-natured man never drives
a bargain He would much rather
give way for the sake of peace.
The simple fact Is that a good-
natured man has no will or temper
of his own; no initiative He always
follows where others lead, afraid to
strike out on his own account, for
fear, not only of failure, but of tread
ing on other people'a corns. He would
do anything rather than disagree
with his rivals Following. Instead
of leading, he i s always a servant,
never a master.
Even when he gets married, he is
not master in his own home. As in
business alnd the rest of his life, he is
imposed upon at home. His wife will
get all she wants, because of her hus
band’s good nature.
In her heart of hearts his wife will
hate his good nature, his lack of tem
per and his week will. A woman
would rather have a man who ruled
her, whether he had a violent temper
or not. She goes out of her way to
please that kind of a husband, and
the more indifferent he is the more
she tries to please him.
In the Marriage Mart.
Not so with the good-natured hus
band. Anything does for him. He
has to be at her beck and call, help
her when she needs it, put up with
her temper and give way to all her
silly fads. And because he does so
cheerfully she only gets angrier with
him! That’s a woman’s nature.
The good-natured man rarely mar
ries a really nice girl. Before he is
married he is the slave of every girl,
and in their inmost hearts each of
them despises him. The result is that
the girl who marries him is she who
can get nobody else.
Just as she imposes upon him, so
j do all her relatives. They will visit
J him, borrow off him. sponge upon him
; to a heartless extent, but woe betide
him if he ever wants any help. It’s
always: ‘‘Sorry, old man, but I’m par
ticularly hard up this month,’’ or
some similar excuse.
Although life is worth living, taken
all round it is a hard world, and one
has to be fairly hard-natured to make
any respectable show in it nowadays.
Good nature can be carried too far.
What Did She Mean?
"Lovers are prone to self-deprecia
tion.” said he. tenderly, as they sat
looking at the stars “I do not under-
sand what you see in me that you love
me so much.”
"That’s what everybody says,” gur
gled the ingenous maiden.
Then the silence became so deep that
you could hear the stars twinkling.
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
YOU ARE RIGHT.
T AEAR JV1ISS FAIRFAX:
* ' I am 20 years of and re
cently met a young man two
years my senior. He asked to call
on me, which I permitted. But
each time he asks me for a kiss,
which I don’t think is nroner until
we aTe enga^d. MAMIE.
Don’t grant his request until you
have your engagement ring on you.
finger.
NOT A MATTER OF WILL.
D EAR MISS FAIRFAX:
I am 16 and In love with a
young man one year my senior A
few weeks ago he left the city
and promised to write to me.
Shall I wait and see If he writes,
or shall I forget him? MADGE.
If you love him you will find that
forgetting Is not entirely a matter of
will. I question the depth of your af
fection. Were It the kind that en
dures, you would, at least, give him
opportunity to prove his affection.
C OMPANIES may be formed for aJ- f
most any purpose, so long as that J
purpose 1s not an unlawful one.
That Is the reason why any one who
has an Idea for making money, no mat
ter how freakish or impossible It may
be, is able to invite the public to sub
scribe funds for the carrying out of
that Idea. As Mr. Herbert W. Jordan,
who has written and lectured much on
the subject of company promotion and
flotation, has pointed out, since the
days of the South Sea Bubble, com
panies have been promoted by the
score with objects quite as impractica
ble as that of the famous philosopher
who formulated a plan to extract sun
beams from cucumbers, to be preserved
in hermetically sealed bottles and let
loose to warm the air In cold and wet
winter weather. /
The fact that scientists have zn
pressed the opinion that gold is to be
found in sea-foam, which, if it could
be extracted, would make us rich be
yond the dreams of avarice, led some
enterprising persons a few years a|%>
to form a company with the object, ac
cording to their prospectus, of gather
ing the foam and placing it on the mar
ket. The scheme attracted a large
number of people, who applied for
shares in the hope of becoming sea-foam
millionaires.
Balance of $4,500.
Equally extraordinary' was the com
pany floated by certain individuals who
told a confiding public that many for
tunes were to be made by importing
compressed dried grapes from Spain,
Italy and elsewhere, then saturating
them with good English water, mak
ing wine from them. It was stated
in the prospectus that dried grapes
could be Imported at a much cheaper
rate than wine, and that it was pos
sible to produce an equal quantity of
wine of equal quality to that made
abroad. Thousands of pounds were
subscribed by the public, who firmly
believed in the idea until the scheme
collapsed.
Another company was floated to raise
the vessels sunk by Nelson in the Bay
of Aboukir, with the treasure contained
Use Less Butter—
More Cottolene
therein, when Jie gained his victory over
the French In what Is known to his*
tory as the battle of the Nile. The
result was that further treasure was
lost in addition to that which went
down with Napoleon’s unfortunate ships.
Presumably as a joke, one Individual
formed a company with a capital of
#5 divided Into 500 shares of one cent
each.
Twenty companies, according to Mr.
Jordan, were formed in a fortnight in
London for providing seats for those
who wished to view the Diamond Jubi
lee procession of 1897, and one clever
individual managed to pay his return
fare to America, and have a balance of
$4,500 in hand, by selling somebody
else’s window ten times over at $500
a time.
The window-letting ’public seem to be
ignorant of the fact that any seven
individuals might form a company bear
ing a high-sounding name, with an in
significant capital, and that, promises
and agreements notwithstanding, not a
penny beyond the subscribed capital
can be legally recovered. A company,
for instance, with a paid-up capital of
$50, may enter into a contract to pur
chase a set of windows for 55,000, but
Getting Gold from
Foam of the Sea, Etc.
the owner of the windows has no legal
redress against his customers for more
t-han $50, which represents—if not al
ready exhausted—the total value of the
concern.
Daysey Mayme
And Her Folks
Turning the Tables.
I N some cases counsel receive answers
A to questions which they had no busi
ness to put, and these, if not quite to
their liking, are what they Justly de
serve. The following story of Robert
Harris, a celebrated negro minstrel, is
a case in point.
"You are In the minstrel business, I
believe?" inquired the lawyer
"Yes, sir," was the reply.
“Is not that rather a low calling?"
"I don’t know but what It is, sir," re
plied the minstrel: "but It Is so much
better than my father’s that I am proud
of it.”
The lawyer fell into the trap.
"What was your father’s calling?” he
inquired.
“He was a lawyer,” replied Harris, in
a tone that sent the whole court into a
roar of laughter as the discomfited law
yer sat down.
By FRANCES L. GARSIDE.
D AYSEY MAYME APPLETON had
dined at a home where there were
so many children in the family It
was necessary for the grown folks
to pass a megaphone around at the
dinner table in order to be heard.
Naturally, under such circumstances.
Daysey Mayme could not permit her
host to see hfer home. It would mean
a rude interruption of the children’s
hour, a poetic period observed in this
family by the father holding three,
while the mother spanked the remain
ing seven to bed.
“I’m not afraid,” said Daysey Mayme.
"These are the days of advanced wo
manhood when any woman can put a
mere man to rout."
Then, with her head held high, a*
becomes a representative of the future ' '
arbiters of our destiny, she went for^h
bravely and proudly.
Had she been a man she would have
whistled, for the recollection of that
megaphoned table had made her quiet
splnsterhood a Joy in comparison. She
was dreamily happy, when suddenly a
sound behind her made her heart Jump
with fear.
IL was the sound of a STEP. J\ *
MAN’S step, and it was BEHIND her
and COMING FAST.
She remembered that she must be
every inch a woman, and she tried to
be brave. But the gooseflesh began to
rise, the cold chills played hide and
seek up and down her spine, and her
hair began to stand on end, no easy
task with so much false hair to be
lifted.
She didn’t dare turn and faoe him,
but she knew from the stealthiness of
the STEP that he was pursuing her.
She also knew that he was six feet
high and of powerful physique, and
that his cruel black eyes were fixed
upon her.
She heard a dank, clank, clank,
keeping time with his step. Ah, he
carried a sword! More than one! There
were two, and In his right hand he *
carried a long, sharp knife.
He was after her life’s blood I She
must walk faster. The STEP kept
pace with her. And there was now
the clank, clank, clank of three swords,
five knives and a gun keeping time
with the STEP.
She tried to run: her knees fail d
her. She tried to scream; the sound
died in her throat. She felt that she
would go mad with fright. The mon
ster pursuing her had now grown to
ten feet in height, and he had his
knife raised to plunge into her back.
She made another attempt to run.
The STEP kept close behind. With a
sudden scream she turned and threw
herself on her knees before the villain.
"Spare me!” she cried, with her head /
bowed to the ground. \ t
"S'matter with you?" said a thin lit
tle voice in contempt, and -Daysey
Mayme looked up to find herself kneel
ing before a boy of seven.
In one hand he carried a number of
empty milk cans, which had clanked as
he walked.
How
To Be
Beautiful
An Easy Solution.
T HE mother of Master Gustave
Adolphus Bims was giving a
Christmas party, and, on the sole
condition that he behaved himself, he
was allowed to participate in the fes
tivities. 9
The guests were seated round a
friendly cup of tea, preparatory to the
games, and were waited cm by a ma.1d
with a swollen face. The youthful saint
scrutinized the rounded contour of her
cheek with keen avidity as she moved
to and fro in the performance of her
duties Then, rising and stretching
himself to the full extent of his four-
foot nothing, he thrust both hands deep
into the pockets of his black velvet
Fauntleroys, and, cried, as he glanced
around:
"Mother, I do wish you could have a
toothache, instead of Jane."
His adoring mother showed her pearly
teeth in an amused smile at her ex
pectant friends as she asked:
"Why, darling?”
“Because,” answered the small in
corrigible. as ho resumed his seat on the
black satin hassock which so completed
the picture, “you can pull yours out,
and Jane can’t.”
No wonder butter is so high.
Particular women who are loath
to use lard or cooking butter in
their cakes and fine pastry, use
table butter. With butter at the
price you have to pay for it,
that’s downright extravagance.
Cottolene is just as good as but
ter for pastry; for frying, it is
better. And Cottolene costs no
more than lard. Moreover, Cot-
toiene is richer, and two-thirds
of a pound of it will go as far
as a pound of butter or lard.
And lard and Cottolene are
not to he mentioned in the same
breath, for
Cottolene is
a vegetable
p r oduct,
healthful, al
ways safe—
makes diges
tible, rich,
but never
greasy food.
THE N. K. FAIRBANK COMPANY
Are American women deficient in the art of
making themselves beautiful? Anita d’Este, a
noted authority on beauty, thinks they are.
"In nearly e eery country of Europe I ha te stri ten
tc cull the essence of beauty and the mysteries of each
system de toted to its culture and the wore my search
took me upon untrodden ground, the more con
vinced I became that the most of this wealth lay
hidden from the women of America*'
is what she says in “Modern Fountains of Youth,”
the opening article of the May number of Good
Housekeeping Magazine. She carefully analyzes
the various methods by which the beautiful
women of Europe scientifically retain their loveli
ness. This message from a woman who has spent
years in examining the “beauty culture” systems
of the world has much of information and en
couragement for the women of this country.
Read it for a really helpful article. It introduces
a new department, “Good Looks,” which tha
Countess of Warwick has consented to conduct
for Good Housekeeping Magazine. Every woman
interested in improving her good looks will want
to read what this noted beauty has to say month
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