Atlanta Georgian. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, July 24, 1913, Image 11

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* By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. “I AM 20,” writes a young man, ‘have no bad habits, and for eight months have been in love with a girl of my own age. I have always given her as good a time as my salary would permit. One day I went to her place of employ ment, opened the door quietly to sur prise her, and found her in the arms of a man who is known to have brought dishonor to at least two young girls. “I have learned since that she has frequently gone to places of amuse ment with him. When I told her of his true character she admitted it, but said he was a good spender, and. as she was not engaged to me, I had no right to object. I love her with all my heart and would not see any trouble befall her. Should I stand aside and let her pay the price?” No! That woflild be wrong were you only friends, and an unpardon able crime since you love her. She pleads that she is not engaged to you, and you have no right to object. Seek an engagement, and give yourself the right! The girl is going headlong to ruin, and a diverted interest may save her. She is not wicked; she is foolish. She is concerned only for the good times the present may bring. Make her, by the power of your love, see that there are better times in the future. Give her the interest that every girl longs for—the hopes, the dreams, the all-enveloping satisfac tion with one’s self and life that cen ter around an engagement ring. A Suggestion. Induce her to change her place of employment; you surely have women friends whose amusements are un questionable and whose influence is for good. See that they make her acquaintance, and that she is thrown in with them. Teach her the difference between the real and the shadowy. Never find fault with what she has done, or moralize on the degradation from which you hope to save her. Treat her as if you trusted her. Ap peal to her higher nature always, let ting her see that you know' she is too good to do the things other foolish girls do, and for whom life is never so long that they get through the paying. Always keep in her mind the little home you are building for her, and when you take her through the air- castle of your dreams explain its needs and your means as if you were talking to an intelligent being. This will give her a sympathetic under standing of the limitations of your income, and the knowledge that you are saving for her will check any en vious sighs for other men who are greater spenders, and cause her to, insist on a greater economy than even you had advocated. Try it! Every good woman is using her influence to redeem some man. If this w’ere not so, humanity would ret rograde instead of progress. With all these centuries of obligation heaped upon him, every man person ally owes to every weak and willful woman all the influence and strength he can muster to save her. The Best Way. 4 The strongest influence for a wom an’s good is that which appeals through the heart. All sighing for vanities of dress, position and person is stifled when she loves. Vanity is a stage of silliness that her heart sooner than her head helps her to out grow. If this girl loves you, It will not be impossible to rescue her. But, if she loves you or not, if she assents to an engagement or not, does not lessen your responsibility concerning her. If she will not heed you, and you know you are right concerning this man’s dishonorable intentions, you owe it to all womankind to inform the girl’s parents of what she is doing. Help them build the protecting rail at the top of the cliff. That will show' a greater Christianity than be ing content with contributing money or means to an ambulance to be stationed at its base. BACKACHE A SYMPTOM Of More Serious Illness Ap proaching. Mrs. Ben der’s Case. Backache is* a symptom of organic weakness or derangement. If you have backache don’t neglect it. To get permanent relief you must reach the root of the trouble. Read about Mrs. Bender’s experience: St. James, Mo.—“About a year ago I was irregular, had cramps every month, headache and constant backache. I took Lydia E. Pink- ham’s Vegetable Compound and used the Sana tive Wash and I am relieved of all my troubles and am in perfect health. I shall recommend your medicine to all my friends and you may publish this testimonial for the benefit of other suffering women.”—Mrs. Anna Bender. St. James. Missouri. Another Case. Dixon. Iowa.—‘‘I have been taking Lydia E. Pinkham’s Vegetable Com pound for some time and it has done me much good. My back troubled me very much. It seemed weak. I had much pain and I was not as reg ular as I should have been. The Compound has cured these troubles and I recommend It to all my friends.” —Mrs. Bertha Dierksen, Box 102, Dix on. Iowa. if you have the slightest doubt that Lydia E. Pinkham’s Vegetable Com pound will help you, write to Lydia E. Pmkham Medicine Co. (confiden tial), Lynn, Mass., for advice. Your U*ter will be opened, read and an- ^ red by a woman, and held in strict ^fidence. How to Dance the “Tango-Classique” Some Rules and Suggestions for the Up-lo-Date Whirlers By LILLIAN LAUFERTY. T HERE nro ms many rules fur dancing as there are successful dancers now before our public —and that number is legion. Hut the one rule from which we can never get nwAy if we want to really dance is: “Know your subject.” You can no more dance in a finished and attrac tive manner without all the ingredients that go to make a dance than you can bake a cherry pie with out flour and butter and sugar and water and cher ries. Learn this rule by heart before you get up at some giddy “The Dansant,” and with one eye on a supposedly admiring gallery, whirl in the mazes of a breakneck awkwardness. Up at the /.iegfeld “Follies of 1913,” at the New Amsterdam Theater, in New York, Rose Dolly and Martin Brov.n are doing a fascinating combination of true “Tango” and modified Turkey Trot, that they “You must keep exactly with the rythm of the music.” call “classique excentrique,” and for the benefit of all who have seen them and the other lovers of Terp sichore who have not, they formulated for me a few simple rules for dancing. Little Rose Dolly is like a scarlet tangoer streak ing across a Southern sky—or a dash of her own Hungarian Paprika in a prosaic salad; and Martin Brown is a typical, up-to-date American youth—with the tall, slender, thoroughbred look we are all be ginning to strive for. And here is “How they do it.” How to Do It. “If you are a beginner,” said Miss Dolly, “take a clever dancer—or a clever national dance—as your pattern. Study the steps, make up your mind which ones you can imitate, and then practice them one at a time with music to help you and spur you ou. Work and work till you can get up and do a step and have it look just like play.” “That Is quite right," said Mr. Brown. “Expres sion when you are doing it. Don’t look strairjed or anxious. Practice a gtep in private, and work at it go hard that when you do it publicly it will look like play. "You must keep exactly with the rhythm of the knees music—keep time, in other-words. Follow the music, do steps that you have mustered, and do not do freak steps that don’t fit in with your own personality at all. And above all, keep your toes pointed out all the time. No matter how pretty a step is, it does not look attractive if you do it in pigeon-toed fash ion.” He illustrated—and the same step done with pointing toA and with turned ankle and inpointed toe became a very different movement. “Toes are very important in dancing,” cried Miss Dolly, “although the modern dancer does not have to stand on them like a ballet dancer, she must keep them out and down, and sway gracefully on the ball of the foot and get the habit of keeping the instep and heel raised. A Good Way to Learn. “A good way to learn the modern dances is to stand up and just practice relaxing shoulders, el bows, knees and ankles in a sort of gradual shuffle. Do this first standing firmly on your feet, then rise to the balls of the feet and try it agaiii, then take a step or two with the body relaxed and swaying. Do this first without music and in front of a mirror, then add music, and do it again in front of the mir ror. And finally do aw’ay with the mirror, and just yield as unconsciously as possible to' the rythm of the dance. You will be surprised how easily it will come after you have learned to relax. “Then you must add steps to your ingredients of knowing how to keep time, how to relax and how to express the feeling that music gives you," added Mr. Brown. “Master a quick, little, short step and a long glide, combine them in various ways, add a little ability to kick gracefully—not high necessarily —but with gracefully pointed toe and an appearance of ease—and watch clever dancers for suggestions as to steps. In this way, even without the aid of a teacher, you can learn to be a home-made turkey trotter.” The Practice of Self-Control By MRS. FRANK LEARNED. Author of “The Etiquette of New York To-day.” I N any sphere of life self-control is an important element toward suc cess and happiness. Control of mind is a factor toward overcoming the tendency to be oversensitive, sus picious, or tormented by imaginary slights. Moping and brooding over fancied grievances will never achieve peace. Sensitive people, who take offense easily, are very difficult to get on with. We are never sure “where to find them." as the saying is. They are constantly making exactions of their friends, calling them to account for certain delinquencies. Social life often requires the mak ing of concessions, the common sense not to construe the thoughtlessness of a friend into an intentional slight, or absentmindedness into indifference. Naturally, we feel that Something is due between intimate friends, but even in the case of intimates a mar gin of kindly concession must be made. The fear that one is not re ceiving sufficient attention from oth ers is an unpleasant form of egotism. Delay in Calling. The many demands of social 11 f»» oblige people not to hold one another too seriously to account for delay in calling, for instance. Among acquaint ances delay in calling, or returning calls, need not be taken as an Indica tion of a wish to be exclusive or an intention to be neglectful. Allow ances have to be made for the fail ings of others on this score. When an acquaintance calls after a lengthy delay it is an important courtesy to welcome her cordially, not to allude to any misunderstanding, to hasten to accept, in the kindest spirit, any ex planation which may be offered, not to dwell on the subject but pass on to other matters and to do this with out permittin the shadow of a sug gestion that she has been dilatory. It is vrise for the person making a delayed call not to be too profuse In excuses. Many reasons for delayed calls may be considered by the sensible person who is willing to make concessions toward friends. Absence from home, illness, engagements, various home duties, interests in charitable or oth er work very absorbing to one’s time may be among the causes for delay. The wish to have some leisure to pursue personal tastes may be an other reason. Control of Temper. While the casting out of fretful grievances is of importance in daily life, control of temper is a rule of life to be practiced by every well-bred person. It is well not to get too ex- Helping Jimmy Today’s Short Story—Complete “I cited and to remember to close a door gently. “I never knew anyone who went about banging doors and play ing whirlwind to possess any influ ence whatever," said a wise woman. The practice of self-control and composure will have an immense ef fect on one’s own manners and will be sure to make a pleasing impres sion everywhere. To sit quietly, to keep the hands still, to walk calmly, these little things lend a charm to the person who has acquired them. It is salutary to take stock of our selves and recognize our own short comings and try to remedy them. It is good to get out of ourselves, to stop being self-centered, to give up talking of ourselves and our griev ances and to live in the sunshine of cheerfulness and the breeze of largei interests. SAW Jimmy this morning." I mentionel casually. “Yes?” answered Mrs. Vera- lour. Yes. I think we shall have to take to calling him James. The hand of time seems to have given him a sudden, fearful blow. He look- d as if he had seen trouble through a microscope. Has anybody left him money, do you know?” ‘Money? Good gracious, no!” ‘Poor old chap. Then he must have lost his little all." "What do you mean?” demanded Mrs. Veralour, tapping her foot im patiently. “Why must it be one or the other?” Well,” I said, ‘‘anybody could see it was money trouble of some sort. He had the appearance of being a pauper trying to look like a mil lionaire. or else a millionaire dis guised as a pauper. His clothes have aged frightfully during the last few days. In fact, you could hardly call them clothes; they were merely em blems of civilization.” Mrs. Veralour seemed about to speak, and then, changing her mind, put her hand in front of her mouth and converted her remark into a yawn. ‘Or else it is love,” I murmured, gazing dreamily into the fire. Mrs. Veralour said nothing. Taking a cigarette from the box, she tapped it uncertainly on the back of her hand. “Of course,” she said at last, with somewhat superfluous frankness, "I I make mistakes sometimes. You know' Florence Appleton, don’t you? Jimmy was frightfully gone on her. He used to come round here every afternoon and tell me how much he loved her.” What a ridiculous thing to do. It would have been considerably more sensible for him to have gone round and told the girl how much he loved you.” Very Extraordinary. "What?” ejaculated Mrs. Veralour. with a laugh that w r as nearly a shriek. ‘‘Mr. Blake, what an extraordinary thing to say.” "Well,” I said, "isn’t the next best thing to telling a girl you love her to tell her you don’t? Especially a girl so sought after as Florence Ap pleton. Bhe’d immediately begin to wonder what was the matter with him." "M’yes,” said Mrs. Veralour, "i sup pose she is inclined to think that ev ery man is in love with her; but then she’s got such hordes of admirers it’s really not the girl’s fault.” “No,” I agreed, "it’s not her fault, it’s her forune." "Misfortune?” murmured Mrs. Ver alour, who never by any chance lis tens to what 1 say, “well. I don’t know about that. Still, as I was say ing, Jimmy used to come round and tell me all about it. and I promised to help him.” "Mrs. Veralour," 1 said, indignantly, ‘‘you’re always match-making. It’s abominable. You'don’t deserve to be a widow." "I promised to help him,” repeated Mrs. Veralour, firmly, deaf to my re mark. "He wanted rather a lot of helping,” she added, reflectively; “he was so awfully shy. Fancy a man being shy.” "Why not? Somebody’s got to be. What did you do? I suppose you praised him up to the skies to her.’ Mrs. Veralour looked at me with an air of mild amusement. "My dear Mr. Blake. Is your grand mother still alive?” "Eh? Yes. Why?” "Oh, I was only wondering where you got all your old-fashioned ideas from. Of course, I didn’t praise him I ran him down. I used to go round and tell her most frightful 9tories of him. I warned her against him. Once you warn a girl against a man, you’ve wasted your time. It’s like putting a ‘dangerous’ notice up on a sheet of Ice; everybody goes to see why it was put there.” The Only Way. "Oh,” I said, weakly. "I have had many a ducking myself.” "The best reputation a man can have,” she pursued, "is not to have one. The worst of it is Jimmy wouldn’t live down to his reputa tion." "That must be very disheartening. ’ I said, sympathetically, "when you’re doing your worst for a man.” "Yes, it was. Really, I think it was her money he w'as afraid of.” "Coward.” "M’yes. Still, I suppose it is hu miliating for a rich girl to tell you she can never be a poor man’s wife. However, 1 got him at last to promise that he would propose if 1 contrived u good opportunity for him.” She paused for a reflective moment. "You know the summer house in the garden, don’t you?” "I do," I said, "and you know I do.” "Yes. you do, don’t you," she smiled. 1 had a spring lock fixed on that door. You know, one of those that you can only open from the outside.” "I know. I begin to see the end ot this story." "M’m,” she said. "That’s the worst of being so bright—nothing comes as a surprise. Well, after I’d had the lock put on I invited them both round to lunch. Of course, I asked a lot of other people,, so as not to arouse her suspicions. They all came; one or two girls and a lot of men—most of her horde, in fact. After lunch w T e all went out on the lawn.” "Do get cm, Mrs. Veralour; you’re like a writer on space rates. There are some things one takes for grant ed.” "I’d told Jimmy what he’d got to do.” “Get the girl in the summer house, YOUR EYES MUST NOT BE NEGLECTED Correctly fitted glasses are a permanent pleasure. We strive for the best—in skill, in material and in workmanship. Oculists’ services at opticians’ prices. L. N. HUFF OPTICAL CO. » Two Stores: 7<) Whitehall. 52 W. Mitchell. and then you’d come along and snap the door on them?” "Yes. Don’t you think being locked in a summer house together wus a good opportunity?” "I think so. lie could lead up to a proposal by saying how he wished they could never get out again. That’s what you meant, isn’t It?” "Yes; only nothing quite so silly as that. I was going to give them half an hour to themselves, but after about ten minutes all the men com menced to drift away in search of her, and I was afraid they’d take her away from poor Jimmy. So I hurried along to the summer house at once.” "Go on,” I urged. "Quicken the ac tion." "I listened for a minute to make sure they were really in there; as soon as I heard her voice I gave the door a push.” "Congratulations. A tip-top scheme, Jolly well carried out.” ‘‘Well, I do think so,” asserted Mrs. Veralour, in a tone curiously defen sive. I—I still think so." "Why, of course. You don’t mean to say. when you opened the door later on, they weren’t engaged?” "Oh, no; they were engaged all right.” ‘‘Good,’* I paused for ji moment, struck by a sudden thought. “But look here, w hat was old Jimmy look ing so absoluteb' wTetched about when I saw him this' morning?” Mrs. Veralour hesitated, and then pulled herself together. "It wasn’t he In the summer house with her, after all,” she said. The chief constable of a small town received by post six “Rogues’ Gal lery” photographs, taken in different positions, of an old offender wanted for burglary in a neighboring city. A fortnight later the city chief of po lice received this letter from the con stable; "I have arrested five of the men. and am going after the sixth to night." • • • Teacher—What little boy can tell me where the home of the swallow is? Long silence, then a hand Is waved. "Well, Bobbie, where is it?" "The home of the swallow,” de clared Bobbie, seriously, "is in the stummick.” * * * Heard at a South Coast resort: "Y'our town boasts a band, does it not ?” "Not exactly. We’ve got a band, but w r e don’t boast of it. We just endure it.” * * * Mr. Squills (dictating a letter of indignation)—Sir, my typist, being a lady, can not take down what 1 think of you; I, being a gentleman, can not even think it; but you. being neither, can easily guess my thoughts. Binks, the Hero. "Darling,” she murmured, as she nestled against his shoulder, "do you know that horried people are saying that you are marrying me for my money?” He leaped to his feet. "The miser able creatures!” he roared. "I won’t stand it! Tell me who they are. and I’ll horewhip them! I’ll ” “But, my dear," she objected, ‘‘you would create scandal, and the case would be made horribly public in the papers, and then I really could not marry you.” "What, then," he muttered, hope lessly, "can he done?” "Darling, it is easy,’ she replied. “I ydll make over my fortune to my brothers and sisters, and everybody shall know of it. Then no one shall be able to make horrible accusations against you.’’ But then he drew himself up proudly. His manliness had won a moral victory. "Nay. Araminta!” he exclaimed. "Do not put thy sweet self to any trouble. Anthrobald Binks is proof against every slanderer!” If You Like Coffee You’ll Love A surprisingly good combination of Cof- f e e and Roasted Cereals. Delicious, wholesome, econom ical and satisfying. Ask your grocer for it. Cheek-Neal Coflee Co., Nashville, Houston, Jacksonville. Ten Commandments of the Summer Visitor By DOROTHY DIX. I NVITE not thyself to the ho^se of another, oh. my daughter, for if so be thy friend hungereth and thlrsteth for thy society she will arise and send to thee a writing bid ding thee to come straightway to her abode. Yea. she will send for thee swiftly by means of the telegraph and the night letter, and If so be she holdeth her hand, take that for a sign which never faileth that she wanteth thee not. 2—Accept not an invitation from a man to tarry and stay at his house until it hath been O. K.'d by his wife, for verily I say unto thee that no man hath authority within his own home, no, not so much as to give a bone to a stray dog. It Is the wife and the wife’s people, and the wife’s friends who have dominion over the spare bedroom. 3—When thou visiteth cast not the goo-goo eyes at thy hostess’s son, nor upon her male relatives, nor upon her husband, for It is written that she that snareth the fancy of the men of the household shalt be Invited there no more. 4—Forget not to take In thy trunk thy curling iron, and thy sewing tools, and thy pos tage stamps, and thy script for let ters, and all the things of which thou hast daily need, for a bor rower Is an abom ination and worse than the pestilence that destroyeth by night. 6—Incline thy heart unto the imusements that hath been prepared for thee, and make thy countenance mirthful, though thy soul fainteth within thee when thy hostess sayeth. 'Rejoice and be glad, for to-day we So forth to picnic in the woods, and to partake of squaehed lemon pie flavored with ants.” Likewise dis semble thy sorrow when she trotteth thee to the church sociable, or naileth thee to the card table until thy stom- Invite Not Thyself. Don’t Stay Too Long, ach turn©th in desaplr and thy | riseth in rebellion. 6—When thou visiteth cast veracity to the winds, for vertly truth hath nw place In & popular house guest. Say of thy hostess's house, "Truly* this la a palace, fit for a king. Tell me, E pray the©. what marvellous architect planned It?" Beat upon thy breast and call Heaven to witness that tbero was never such a view, though it b« but as the view of a fly that is caught under a teacup* Praise the hsomty and the wit and. the way the ©CM spring of thy host ess reclteth, and when thou depart- eth thy hostess' shall say of thee. "Surely, here Is a woman of discern ment, and I will bid her return again.” 7—Conform thy ways to the ways of the house that thou visiteth. Arise while It Is yet night, if it be the custom of thy hosts, so that thou shalt breakfast wfth them, and give no trouble to the servants, for, be hold, a hand-maiden In the subnrba is as precious as gold, yea, aa Dae gold, and as difficult to keep. 8— If thou followeth a diet and eat- eth of strange food prepared after an ungodly manner, visit not at all. but hie thee to an inn where thou canst pay for the trouble thou glvest. Thus shalt thou save thyself from being hated by thy friends. 9— Forget not to tip the hand maiden who walteth upon thee, for the button - her - up - in - the - back is worthy of her hire. 10— And if thou forgettost all of the other commandments of the Sum mer visitor, remember this, oh, my daughter: Make thy visit short. Tarry not long in thy friend’s house lest she be weary of thee. O© while yet she entreateth thee to stay with her, for It is better that thy hostess should weep because thou goest than to shed tears because thou stay©*L Selah! Pralae Their Offspring, Saving His Face At a very convivial dinner a man with a preternaturally solemn face arose, wine glass in hand, to propose a toast. "May we never, he said, in deep, measured tones, "drink any more of this stuff—’’ He paused, and there was a horrified silence for several seconds—"than is good for us!" CHICHESTER S PILLS ■ T “CDIAMO,DBHiKI>. / v * ,K L*4l«r' ^ C'hl-el . niu i I boxes, I lake no other Bar •fymnr V At|t Cnl-Cinti.TIlg UiAMOVD BRAND PILLS, far years k nown as Beat.SafaRjUways Reliable SOLD BY DRUGGISTS EVERYWMFS5 Historic College For Women Wesleyan MACON, GEORGIA Delightful climate. Thorough and extensive course of study. Music, Art and Oratory of the highest order. Illustrious body of alum nae, choice student body, ideal home life, stu dent government, excellent faculty, splendid boarding department and good athletics. The oldest and one of the choicest great colleges for women in the world. Address, Depi. M. C. R. JENKINS, Macon Georgia Five Daily Trains from Cincinnati including the famous Mid-day Limited Leave Cincinnati 12:10 noon Arrive New York 9:11 ajn. Arrive Boston 11:55 a. m. NcwYorkfentral toes Big Four—“The Water-Level Route” Four Other Fast Trains Leave Cincinnati 8:30 a. m. 3:00 p. m. 6:05 p. m. 12:05 a. ra. Arrive New York 7:55 a. m. 3:45 p. m. 5:00 p. m. 10:10 p. m. Arrive Boston 10*0 a. m. 6:05 p. m. 8:15 p. m. 6:50 a. m. The Route is “Water-Level" You Can Sleep Ask for a copy of our “Guide to New York City.** It contains valuable and interesting information about the Metropolis. Sent on receipt of five cents in stamps. Apply to New York Central Lines Travel Bureau, 1225 LaSalle Street Station, Chicago. 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