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6 Copyright, 1913, by the Star Company. Great Britain Rignis Reserved / Aft i has never worked for a livelihood, Is the most despicable creature on How a Peculiarly Feminine Change of Mind Led Inez Milholland, the Charming Suffragist Lawyer, to Marry One of the “Drones” She Used to Say She Despised . .w jr ATRIMONY was formerly the only refuge for the woman who * * |\/| had no other way to make a living." X V X “The only happy marriage is the one where both hus band and wife do things, for the benefit of themselves, the family or society. A female parasite is bad enough, b>t a masculine parasite is the lowest form of human life.” “The drone, the man who is content to “be’ rather than to ‘do,' who Another Phot Surprising Ma But he also went Then up sprang Fresh from West other points in would have gone her—but she only was during the si that he served oi Miss Milholland “'Surely now Inez said “everybody,” body" was wrong, disappeared from Fair became a v the law firm of Os “That young wc nature; she will up a chorus of rr has seemed so. L of a passion with suffrage and woi feud Choy, a C' murder, and sh famous Bishop di But how aboui John Fox, Juniu there could be n pressed his suit tl him books, boob books, interspersei the mountains t West. "All these are the children fruits of my hand "I am a lawyer a marrying woma When the Bisho its unsavory deta: the hour, Miss M boot? was assuihed reer was her life time her father a their oldest dau marry; would ne" On June 12 Misr the Holland Housi At the next tab young Hollander, conis. He was pr holland. The de was only a womar How to Give a Successful Garden Party-- ^..“IIS, I N these days, when the love of gardening is being cultivated and encouraged everywhere, what greater pleasure can there be than to bid one’s friends come to enjoy a garden, if has so delightful a possession? Although the term '“V—-a party" tray seem to mean ar ways a formal funeCor given on a large scale, where invitations are sent out some time in advance, and where mu sic, refreshments, and a quantity of guests in elaborate Summer attire make it a gay and im posing scene, it may be. on the other hand, a very simple tea out of doors. After all, the only ab solute requirements for a garden- party are a pretty lawn, a few trees, giving a grateful shade, some refreshing 'things to eat and drink, and fair sunshiny weather! But the weather cannot be ordered or ar ranged. and if it proves to be dull, cloudy or threatening, there is nothing to- db but to make the best of it and have the tea indoors. Garden parties are on different scales, and depend on what may be the proposed expenditures. At a large garden party music is an im portant adjunct A band of music gives a certain gayety to the occa sion and an exhilaration to the spirits of guests. The strains of music en liven an out-door gather ing of this sort in a marked degree. Invitations to a formal garden party may be en graved for the occasion, if the affair is to be elab orate, and issued two weeks in advance, but it is quite sufficient, as a general rule, to use the visiting card of the hos tess, with date and hour written in the lower cor ner. The words Garden Party may be added. The, hours are from 4 to 7 o'clock. For an informal affair cards may be sent a week or even a few days in advance. Guests arrive at the front door and may go in the house to leave wraps, if they wish A servant is in attendance to direct guests to the part of the grounds where the hostess is receiving. The hostess re ceives on the lawn and wears a pretty afternoon dress-and hat After guests have greeted the hostess they are expected to wander through the grounds and gardens and return for refreshments when they wish. The host is expected to be present at a large affair of the sort. He does not stand to receive with the hostess, but moves about among guests. An open-air party usually appeals to a man. and he does not make excuses to his wife for unavoidable absence. At an out-door entertainment o’f this sort refreshments may be served from a table under the trees or from a marquee. Some hostesses prefer to have them served within doors. To have the refreshment tables out of doors makes an agreeable variety and is advisable, provided the weather is propitious. Great care should be taken to preserve orderli ness if refreshments are served out of doors. The table is arranged as for a tea Two ladies may preside at the table and pour iced and hot tea A plentiful supply of china, silver, glass and napkins should be provided. Servants should have baskets in which to remove promptly all soiled china and bring fresh sup plies. Lemonade or punch bowls should be renipTtish°d without dels'- On a separate table may be claret- cup, or mineral waters. The old- fashioned “shandy-gaff,” made of beer and ginger ale, is liked. At a garden party substantial salads, little sandwiches, ices, cakes, grapes, melons, peaches, or other fruit in season, may be served, or only such things as tea, fruit punch and cake. Comparatively few prep arations are necessary for a small and informal party, and from the re freshments suggested a hostess may select the simplest things. On the lawn and ver anda should be plenty of chairs and seats. Small tables and camp stools may be at convenient places on the lawn. Rugs are spread on the grass, that some persons who are afratd of the dampness may have their chairs placed upon them. The tennis ground should be in order for the young people. In some places the graceful sport of archery is offered, or the old-fashioned croquet is in favor for older people. At a large affair a hostess is care- are provided for chauffeurs or coachmen coming from a distance. It is not advisable to use one’s best china or glass at an out-door party. There is too great a risk of having it broken. It saves worry to hire these things for the occasion from a caterer, if possible, or, at least, to use what is not very precious. At an informal tea out- of-doors young girls may pass the tea and cake and attend to the bring ing of fresh china and glass and see that every thing is kept fresh and neat. The charm of a gar den party, whether for mal or informal, is in its picturesque setting the enjoyment of sitting un der shady trees, or saunt ering about on the lawns. It is not surprising that invitations to these delightful entertainments are welcomed with pleasure. Anyone who has a country place, sufficiently removed or secluded from public gaze, may entertain in this fashion, whether it be a large place, or a simple, suburban resi dence, or, perhaps, a remote, old er hlorrd farm. **X ouug KtrlM -|»unm (he tea aud eoke." -Hastens wears an afternoon dress and hat.** this earth.” “Marriage is the one field of labor open to all women alike. It may be our hirthright, but I never will take that birthright unless the man in the case is one of the world's workers, not shirkers.” “Laziness should be a legal cause for divorce, but a woman who knowingly marries a man who would rather ‘be’ than ‘do,' has no right to com plain if her marriage is unhappy. A woman should never marry a man to support him nor to reform him.” T HE above quotations are from speeches made by Miss Inez Milholland in the days when File was more of a suffragist than a woman—in the days before she met and married Eugeu Boissevain, a member of a well-known l>utch fam ily, a man who has never done a Ftroke of work in his life, a drone of the most pronounced type, and who prides himself on being a “loafer.” "The theory that a man should work is all very right in America, but in Hol'laud, where I have always lived, one can very well be what in America you call a loafer.' ” Thus spoke Mr. Boissevain the day his mar riage was announced. Six years ago Miss Milholland. then n student at Vassar College, began her career as a suffragist and public speaker. She wuscold and dispassion ate ns a speaker. She was logical, too —one who, though beautiful in a marked degree and magnetic in tem perament. inspired her hearers with the thought that she would never marry. Men of brilliancy who met and talked with her shook their heads afterward and said: "What a pity that so beautiful a girl should be so abnormal! She is all intellect; there is no lirtirt there. After graduating from Vassar this young beauty decided to become a lawyer. Harvard refused to make her a Portia and Oxford and Cambridge likewise refused to “unsex" her. It has been reported that the President of one of these universities told the would-tbe Portia that her place was in her home, taking care of babies. Instead of following this purely masculine advice. Miss Milholland studied law at New York University, made suffrage speeches on the advan tages of being a spinster and a voter, did picket duty during two interest ing strikes, and made it most evident that she was “cold.” “dispassionate,” “unfeminiue.” Perhaps there were times when she thought of matri mony, but there were no times when she talked of it except when dispar aging those who were foolish enough to “fall in love” or who were "femi nine enough to marry some man for a living.” Whenever a suffragist mar ried Miss Milhollaud shrugged her lovely shoulders aud murmured. "The eternal feminine again.’ And yet she has had many mascu line adorers. Men have served her faithfully and whole-heartedly. Men of prominence in this country and England have accomplished tasks of magnitude, hoping to win that ‘cold’’ heart, to overpower her logic and her A School-Girl Photo graph of Inez Milhok and—and (Above) a intellect. They have all failed, and with each failure the world has said: “There is nothing of the woman in Inez but her beauty; she is only an intellect, aud will never marry.” But the woman was there ail the time. Under the suffrage enthusiasm, under the lawyer, under the cold so ciologist—the woman lurked all the time; but none of these men had found the touchstone. Among the various men who laid their hearts and the fruits of their labor at her feet, six stand out in bold relief—in Linden Bates, son.of a millionaire, a rising young politician and author; Lieutenant Toruey, grad uate of West Point; Sidney Smith, once a man of fashion and sports, but now a hard worker in Mrs. O. H. P. Belmont's suffrage camp (at least he was up to the .day Miss Inez an nounced her marriage); John Fox, author and playwright; Lord Curzon, ox-Vieeroy of India, aud Sheldon Crosby, at present secretary to the American Legation at Siam. Six valiant men of brain and brawn refused by this charming young mili tant suffragist, whose slogan might have been “Votes for Women and Work for Men,” but who to-day. prov ing herself a woman after all. has married a man who knows not the meaning of work! And. more than this, -a native of a country which, although governed by a woman, is most strongly opposed to suffrage. It is not necessary to ask an ex planation from Miss Milholland for the inconsistency of her words , and her deeds. Is she not a woman? Has she not done just what any other woman would have done? Married the man who found the touchstone, and cares not a rap whether he i3 a shirker or a worker! But what of the valiant sextette who labored to satisfy her by proving themselves workers and falling in love with her? Lindon Bates, at the time he met the fair but fickle Iuez. was a mem ber of the New York State Assembly. He was also a sou of a millionaire. He had done things from his youth up. He met Miss Milholland during his first term in the Assembly. It seemed a mutual attraction. He was doing things politically and in other ways, too, and she was interested in doing things, too. They met fre quently. “At hist Inez has found the man to satisfy ner.” said her friends. It seemed’ so. She made it a point to corral Mr. Bates’s friends, putting them through the third degree to find out points in his favor. At dinner parties she would say suddenly: “You know Mr. Bates? Is he not splendid? He is a great worker, is he not?” And so on ad nauseum. At last she really bored people by asking them these questions, not only about Bates, but of the others as well. At the close of his first term Mr. Bates took a long and laborious trip through Russia, going even to the Chinese coast. On his return he wrote “The Russian Road to China,” aud presented Inez with the first copy off the presses. It was as if he said in words, “Here is tangible proof that I am a worker, not a shirker.” But no wedding bells rang for him. Miss Milholland was still more of a suffragist than woman, more inter ested in missions than in man. Sheldon Crosby, member of an old New York family, a man of wealth and social standing, went into the diplomatic service because she told him that never could she marry a gilded butterfly. He is still in the “service” and likely to remain there. Lord Curzon did not need to be taught habits of industry. His won derful career was the fruit he pre sented to the handsome young lawyer. Looked in the Days When She Led “Votes for Women” Parades and Work the “Most Despicable Creatures.” Picture of Her as She Called Men Who Didn’t