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♦ FRIDAY, JULY 7, 2006
Son seeks parent's advice on pending engagement
QUESTION: My son
and his girlfriend have
been talking about get
ting engaged, but he’s
worried about the high
divorce rate that threat
ens every new marriage
and asked me how he
could lower the risk.
What advice would you
have given?
DR. DOBSON: The
answer to that question
could go 600 different
ways, but I’ll be content
to offer just one sugges
tion. You need to explain
to your son how women
are different from men and
how that uniqueness will
affect his marriage.
It concerns what might
be called “differing assump
tions.” Many men come into
marriage laboring under
the mistaken idea that their
wives are going to be their
cheerleaders, who will take
care of the children and
expect nothing in return.
They believe that their
greatest and perhaps only
responsibility is to make
The Bible
A young man once asked
for advice on how to suc
ceed at work.
I told him to apply him
self and to learn everything
he possibly could about his
job, that this would provide
him the experience and
know-how to accomplish
the most challenging tasks.
I further advised him to
readily accept responsibil
ity, to put in eight produc
tive hours every day and to
constantly strive for perfec
tion.
And finally, I related that
there were two groups in
every organization: the
“in crowd” and the “out
crowd.” I warned him not
to join either one as the “in
crowd” today may well be
the “out crowd” tomorrow
when managerial changes
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money and to succeed
professionally, even if it
requires 12 hours a day to
do it.
The assumption of
women, on the other hand,
is that their marriage will
be a wonderfully roman
tic affair. They anticipate
candlelit dinners and
walks in the rain and eve
nings of soul-to-soul con
versations. Both of these
expectations are illusions
that bump along for a few
years until they finally col
lide. Workaholic men and
Cinderella women often
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occur.
There are far more dis
illusioned people in the
workforce than those who
are contented. Many work
under oppressive and
unfair supervisors. Others
are passed over for pro
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people get the higher posi
revival preacher will be the
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Thomaston will be present
for the Sunday homecoming
celebration on July 18 at
2:30 p.m.
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destroy each other.
I strongly urge fathers
to tell their adolescent
and college-age boys that
girls are incurable roman
tics and that it will not be
enough for them as hus
bands to be successful in
their professional pursuits.
That would have been suf
ficient in decades past.
Today, something more is
expected. If they are going
to have strong marriages
and families, they must
reserve time and energy
for the marital relation
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tions. It’s not like playing
on a college football team,
for example, where the top
quarterback will start the
game on Saturday.
That’s because the coach
knows that only by win
ning can he keep his job.
In the business world, how
ever, the ol’ boy network
Only Jesus satisfies the soul
Entering one of those ice
cream parlors that offer a
wide variety of flavors, an
individual is faced with a
decision. Having discovered
the flavor most satisfying to
my taste buds, my decision
has been established.
On one occasion, after
hearing of another flavor of
ice cream being highly rec
ommended, I had reconsid
ered my choice. Much to my
disappointment the second
choice did not measure up to
my expectations.
Since experiencing the
change of flavors, I am
reminded of several known
facts. The first being, what
satisfies one’s taste buds
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treating each other as
sweethearts.
This is the advice that I
would like to give to every
engaged or newly married
couple: A simple under
standing of these “differing
assumptions” could pre
vent many painful divorces.
I think you should share it
with your son.
QUESTION: Teenage
rebellion has hit our
home at last. My 15-
year-old son’s rotten
attitude just went from
bad to worse! How do
I get him through the
“rapids” of adoles
cence without rocking
the boat any more than
absolutely necessary?
DR. DOBSON: First of
all, you need to recognize
that the trial you’re fac
ing is “common to man.”
Adolescent revolt is hor
monally driven and occurs
in the best of families.
When hostility and rebel
lion begin to appear, how
do you keep your boys (and
can put a fourth stringer in
a position of responsibility
and no one will know the
difference if they choose
to overlook the selectee’s
inadequacies.
Those wrongly passed
over fall into a trap when
this happens. They become
cynical and wear their bad
attitudes like a medal. By
virtue of their disenchant
ment, they become poor
performers who assume the
exact mold their superiors
placed them in to justify
promo|ting someone else.
Those facing such circum
stances should begin looking
for transfer opportunities
to another department or
another company. In these
circumstances, it behooves
one to introspectively iden
tify his/her own shortcom
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will not necessarily satisfy
another.
The more valuable remind
er relates to greater deci
sions in life.
Survival is possible with
out ever eating ice cream,
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girls) from blowing up and
doing something stupid?
I’ve addressed that subject
in the past, but let me offer
a finding that I haven’t
shared before.
The National
Longitudinal Study of
Adolescent Health surveyed
11,572 teenagers to deter
mine which factors were
most helpful in prevent
ing harmful behavior, such
as violence, suicide, sub
stance abuse, early sexual
behavior and teen
pregnancy. Here’s
what the researchers
found:
The presence of parents is
beneficial at four key times
of the day - early morning,
after school, dinnertime
and bedtime. When that
regular contact is combined
with other shared activities
between parents and kids,
the most positive outcome
is achieved. The research
ers also observed that ado
lescents who felt a sense of
connection with their par
ents (feelings of warmth,
ings and to work toward
improvement. If your boss
doesn’t like you for any
reason, don’t be deceived
into thinking you can stay
the course and change his
mind. Your worker-supervi
sor relationship may begin
to improve superficially,
but people who harbor prej
udices against you seldom
change their views.
Young people in the work
force make the mistake
of becoming discouraged
when they aren’t advanc
ing as rapidly as they had
planned. They must guard
against becoming myopic to
the extent of getting overly
concerned with their pres
ent status. Instead, they
should look at the bigger
picture and take a long
range perspective in assess
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but there are decisions to be
made upon awakening each
day. In addition, satisfac
tion that lies within is more
important than satisfying
the taste buds.
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love and caring) were least
likely to engage in harmful
behavior.
Some of my readers
might be asking, “How
can I be with my teen
agers morning, noon and
night? I have altogether too
much work to do.” Well,
you simply have to decide
what is most important to
you at this time. It won’t
matter as much a few years
down the road, but your
availability right now could
make the difference for
your child between sur
viving or plunging off the
cliff.
Dr. Dobson is founder and
chairman of the board of
the nonprofit organization
Focus on the Family, P.O.
Box 444 , Colorado Springs,
CO. 80903; or www.family,
org. Questions and answers
are excerpted from “The
Complete Marriage and
Family Home Reference
Guide ” and “Bringing Up
Boys, ” both published by
Tyndale House.
ing their career progres
sion.
We should not judge our
success as workers by the
money we make, our rate of
advancement, or the posi
tion we acquire. The only
yardstick that applies is
how well we do our job and
the way we treat our fellow
workers and supervisor.
Ephesians 6:5-9, which
describes how a slave
should work for his master,
equally applies today. We
should perform our work
with a sincere heart, cheer
fully and conscientiously, as
though we were serving the
Lord and not man.
As for supervisors, they
are admonished to treat
workers in a Christian-like
manner, fairly and impar
tially.
that a second choice will not
even be considered. So com
plete that we will want to
help someone else make the
“BIG DECISION.”
The strongest reminder
comes from the tune and
words, “only Jesus can sat
isfy your soul.” Repeatedly
these words echo through
my mind. Written by Lanny
Wolfe, the chorus of the song
gives assurance.
“Only Jesus can satisfy
your soul, and only He can
change and make your heart
whole, He’ll give you peace
you never knew, Sweet love
and joy and heaven too, For
only Jesus can satisfy your
soul.”
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