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Parents question future with strong-willed child
Question: What are
the long-range implica
tions of raising a strong
willed child? What can
we expect as the years
go by?
Dr. Dobson: Well, I can
give you a few encouraging
conclusions from our study.
The tendencies of strong
willed children (SWCs) are
to return to parental values
when they reach adulthood.
Parents told us that 85 per
cent of their grown SWCs
(24 years of age and older)
came back to what they had
been taught -- entirely or at
least “somewhat.” That is
good news. Only 15 percent
were so headstrong that they
rejected their family’s core
values into their mid-20s. In
those exceptional cases, I’ll
wager that other problems
and sources of pain were
involved.
What this means, in effect,
is that these tough-minded
Dealing with invisible
supernatural entities
Two teachers appeared
recently before the
Crawford County
Board of Education to
request that the board cease
its practice of having prayer
before its meetings. One of
the teachers is an atheist.
The creed of Atheism
reads: “An atheist loves
himself and his fellow man
instead of a god. He accepts
that heaven is something for
which we should work now
- here on earth. He accepts
that he
can get
no help
through
prayer, but
that he
must find
in himself
the inner
convic
tion and
strength
to meet
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life, to grapple with it, to
subdue it and to enjoy it.”
Atheists believe that school
prayer is “a form of religious
indoctrination that teaches
children that there are invis-»
ible supernatural entities
which can be implored and
appeased through mumbling
prayers or reading words
from holy books.”
In a democracy, we should
respect the religions of other
people. Christians should
not impose their beliefs on
followers of other religions.
Neither should adherents
of other faiths attempt to
suppress the way we wor
ship. I do have problems,
however, with atheists who
say there is no Supreme
Creator. Atheists are not to
be ostracized but to be pit
ied.
They have no higher
power to call upon in a crisis,
whether it be a life or death
matter, or to cope with the
storms of life. At the point
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kids will argue and fight and
complain throughout their
years at home, but the major
ity will turn around when
they reach young adulthood
and do what their parents
most desired. That should
be reassuring. Furthermore,
if we coitld have evaluat
ed these individuals at 35
instead of 24 years of age,
even fewer would still be
in rebellion against parental
values.
Second, raising a strong
willed child (or a house full
of them) can be a lonely job
for parents.
You can begin to feel like
yours is the only family
that has gone through these
struggles.
Don’t believe it. In anoth
er study of 3,000 parents,
we found that 85 percent
of families had at least one
strong-willed child. This is
parenthood. This is human
nature.
of death, an atheist cannot
pray to a Supreme Being to
preserve his soul. Death to
atheists has a ring of final
ity.
If there is no God. there
will be no tomorrows-the
soul faces extinction, never
to exist again. Death to an
atheist amounts to annihila
tion of the soul and its ban
ishment to a nether world
where there is no thought,
no remembrance, and no
knowledge of ever having
lived. That has to be man’s
worse fear to face the
prospects of dying and never
living again.
I stood on the beach
recently and marveled at the
vast ocean whose tides move
like synchronized clockwork.
I gazed with wonderment at
the expanse of blue sky that
touched the ocean’s horizon
and rose above me. Directly
behind was the blazing sun
that warmed my body in the
gentle breeze.
The earth upon which I
stood was tilted at the pre
cise angle that permitted the
existence of life, its gravity
keeping me from floating off
into outer space. Along came
a man, his wife, and their
young son walking on the
beach, picking up sea shells.
Who put them here? Was it
by chance? Millions of years
ago, did chemicals spontane
ously produce life in a one
celled creature that evolves
over eons of time into a man?
Or did God make man and
woman as the Holy Bible
teaches?
We need not look hard
to witness the evidence of
God in creation. Psalm 19: 1
states: “The heavens declare
the glory of God; and the fir
mament sheweth his handy
work.” Psalm 14:1 was writ
ten to atheists: “The fool
hath said in his heart, there
is no God.”
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. Third, I urge you as par
ents of strong-willed chil
dren not
to feel
“cheat
ed” or
depressed
by the
assign
ment
of rais
ing such
individu
als. You
are not
an excep-
Dr. James
Dobson
Focus on the Family
tion or the butt of some
cruel cosmic joke. All human
beings arrive with a gen
erous assortment of flaws,
including the very compliant
child.
Yes, it is more difficult to
raise an independent little
fellow or gal, but you can
do it!
You can, through prayer
and supplication before the
Lord, bring him or her to
Oh, It’s really sooooooooooooooooo very good
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give proof that You care.”
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Living
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that period of harmony in
early adulthood that makes
the effort worthwhile. I also
believe that you can increase
the odds of transmitting
your values to these indi
viduals by following some
time-honored principles
found in Scripture. So hang
in there! Nothing of value in
life comes easily anyway.
Hold tightly to Solomon’s
encouraging words: “Train
up a child in the way he
should go: and when he is
old, he will not depart from
it” (Proverbs 22:6 KJV).
Question: My husband
is a good man, but he
gets angry at the kids
and says things that he
later regrets. Help me
convince him to be care
ful about these off-the
cuff comments.
Dr. Dobson: Psychologist
and author Abraham Maslow
once said, “It takes nine
affirming comments to make
introduces.
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up for each critical comment
we give to our children.” I
believe he is right. All nor
mal human beings respond
negatively to criticism and
rejection. Conversely, some
of us crave affirmation so
much that we’ll do almost
anything to get it.
Children are especially
vulnerable to those who use
affirmation to manipulate
them.
As someone said, “Whoever
gives your kids praise and
attention has power over
them.” That could be a drug
dealer, a gang member, or
anyone who could harm
them. People with evil inten
tions know how to use praise
to get what they want from
lonely kids.
This is, in fact, the tech
nique routinely used by
pedophiles to abuse their
victims sexually.
Each sexual exploitation
lasts for seven years, typi
brothers, sisters and other
relations, to allow us daily
pleasures. Our military men
and women unselfishly give
of themselves to protect our
country.
To go to sleep in a
comfortable bed feels
soooooooooooo good. To be
awakened by singing birds
feels sooooooooooooooo
good. To have the privi
lege of making choices feels
sooooooooooooo good.
While we enjoy the ben
efits of freedom someone
in the military service is
not having such an easy
life. Regardless of their
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cally, before the truth comes
to light. And how does he
accomplish that? A highly
skilled pedophile can enter
a room full of children and
instantly spot those who are
vulnerable to affirmation.
He can have those needy
kids under his control in five
minutes or less. All human
beings have deep psychologi
cal needs for love, belonging
and affection. If you don’t
meet those longings in your
children, I can assure you
someone else will.
Dr. Dobson is founder and
chairman of the board of
the nonprofit organization
Focus on the Family, P.O.
Box 444, Colorado Springs,
CO. 80903; or www.family.
org. Questions and answers
are excerpted from “The
Complete Marriage and
Family Home Reference
Guide" and “Bringing Up
Boys,” both published by
Tyndale House.
position they are away from
home - separated from fam
ily and friends. They are
risking their lives so that
we can relax and say, as
Mr. Food says, “Oh, it’s
sooooooooooooo good!”
Thank You, God, for
our men and women who
proudly wear the uniform of
our country.
Help them to know that
Thou art near as they fulfill
their duties. May Your lin
gering presence strengthen
them and give them cour
age to look to You and say,
“Oh, it’s sooooooooooooooo
good.”
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