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has never worked for a livelihood, Is the most despicable creature on
How a Peculiarly Feminine Change
of Mind Led Inez Milholland, the
Charming Suffragist Lawyer, to
Marry One of the
“Drones” She Used
to Say She Despised
. .w jr ATRIMONY was formerly the only refuge for the woman who
* * |\/| had no other way to make a living."
X V X “The only happy marriage is the one where both hus
band and wife do things, for the benefit of themselves, the family or
society. A female parasite is bad enough, b>t a masculine parasite is
the lowest form of human life.”
“The drone, the man who is content to “be’ rather than to ‘do,' who
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How to Give a Successful Garden Party-- ^..“IIS,
I N these days, when the love of
gardening is being cultivated
and encouraged everywhere,
what greater pleasure can there
be than to bid one’s friends come
to enjoy a garden, if has so
delightful a possession?
Although the term '“V—-a party"
tray seem to mean ar
ways a formal funeCor
given on a large scale,
where invitations are
sent out some time in
advance, and where mu
sic, refreshments, and a
quantity of guests in
elaborate Summer attire
make it a gay and im
posing scene, it may be.
on the other hand, a very
simple tea out of doors.
After all, the only ab
solute requirements for
a garden- party are a
pretty lawn, a few trees,
giving a grateful shade,
some refreshing 'things
to eat and drink, and
fair sunshiny weather! But the
weather cannot be ordered or ar
ranged. and if it proves to be dull,
cloudy or threatening, there is
nothing to- db but to make the best
of it and have the tea indoors.
Garden parties are on different
scales, and depend on what may be
the proposed expenditures. At a
large garden party music is an im
portant adjunct A band of music
gives a certain gayety to the occa
sion and an exhilaration to the spirits
of guests. The strains of music en
liven an out-door gather
ing of this sort in a
marked degree.
Invitations to a formal
garden party may be en
graved for the occasion,
if the affair is to be elab
orate, and issued two
weeks in advance, but it
is quite sufficient, as a
general rule, to use the
visiting card of the hos
tess, with date and hour
written in the lower cor
ner. The words Garden
Party may be added. The,
hours are from 4 to 7
o'clock. For an informal
affair cards may be
sent a week or even a
few days in advance.
Guests arrive at the front door
and may go in the house to leave
wraps, if they wish A servant is in
attendance to direct guests to the
part of the grounds where the
hostess is receiving. The hostess re
ceives on the lawn and wears a
pretty afternoon dress-and hat After
guests have greeted the hostess
they are expected to wander through
the grounds and gardens and return
for refreshments when they wish.
The host is expected to be present
at a large affair of the sort. He does
not stand to receive with the hostess,
but moves about among guests. An
open-air party usually appeals to a
man. and he does not make excuses
to his wife for unavoidable absence.
At an out-door entertainment o’f
this sort refreshments may be served
from a table under the trees or from
a marquee. Some hostesses prefer
to have them served within doors.
To have the refreshment tables out
of doors makes an agreeable variety
and is advisable, provided the
weather is propitious. Great care
should be taken to preserve orderli
ness if refreshments are served out
of doors. The table is arranged as
for a tea Two ladies may preside
at the table and pour iced and hot
tea A plentiful supply of china,
silver, glass and napkins should be
provided. Servants should have
baskets in which to remove promptly
all soiled china and bring fresh sup
plies. Lemonade or punch bowls
should be renipTtish°d without dels'-
On a separate table may be claret-
cup, or mineral waters. The old-
fashioned “shandy-gaff,” made of
beer and ginger ale, is liked.
At a garden party substantial
salads, little sandwiches, ices, cakes,
grapes, melons, peaches, or other
fruit in season, may be served, or
only such things as tea,
fruit punch and cake.
Comparatively few prep
arations are necessary
for a small and informal
party, and from the re
freshments suggested a
hostess may select the
simplest things.
On the lawn and ver
anda should be plenty
of chairs and seats. Small
tables and camp stools
may be at convenient
places on the lawn. Rugs
are spread on the grass,
that some persons who
are afratd of the dampness may
have their chairs placed upon
them.
The tennis ground should be in
order for the young people. In some
places the graceful sport of archery
is offered, or the old-fashioned
croquet is in favor for older people.
At a large affair a hostess is care-
are provided for chauffeurs or
coachmen coming from a distance.
It is not advisable to use one’s best
china or glass at an out-door party.
There is too great a risk of having
it broken. It saves worry to hire
these things for the occasion from a
caterer, if possible, or, at least, to
use what is not very
precious.
At an informal tea out-
of-doors young girls may
pass the tea and cake
and attend to the bring
ing of fresh china and
glass and see that every
thing is kept fresh and
neat.
The charm of a gar
den party, whether for
mal or informal, is in its
picturesque setting the
enjoyment of sitting un
der shady trees, or saunt
ering about on the lawns.
It is not surprising that invitations
to these delightful entertainments
are welcomed with pleasure.
Anyone who has a country place,
sufficiently removed or secluded from
public gaze, may entertain in this
fashion, whether it be a large
place, or a simple, suburban resi
dence, or, perhaps, a remote, old
er hlorrd farm.
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this earth.”
“Marriage is the one field of labor open to all women alike. It may
be our hirthright, but I never will take that birthright unless the man
in the case is one of the world's workers, not shirkers.”
“Laziness should be a legal cause for divorce, but a woman who
knowingly marries a man who would rather ‘be’ than ‘do,' has no right
to com plain if her marriage is unhappy. A woman should never marry
a man to support him nor to reform him.”
T HE above quotations are from
speeches made by Miss Inez
Milholland in the days when
File was more of a suffragist than a
woman—in the days before she met
and married Eugeu Boissevain, a
member of a well-known l>utch fam
ily, a man who has never done a
Ftroke of work in his life, a drone of
the most pronounced type, and who
prides himself on being a “loafer.”
"The theory that a man should
work is all very right in America, but
in Hol'laud, where I have always
lived, one can very well be what in
America you call a loafer.' ” Thus
spoke Mr. Boissevain the day his mar
riage was announced.
Six years ago Miss Milholland. then
n student at Vassar College, began
her career as a suffragist and public
speaker. She wuscold and dispassion
ate ns a speaker. She was logical, too
—one who, though beautiful in a
marked degree and magnetic in tem
perament. inspired her hearers with
the thought that she would never
marry. Men of brilliancy who met
and talked with her shook their heads
afterward and said: "What a pity
that so beautiful a girl should be so
abnormal! She is all intellect; there
is no lirtirt there.
After graduating from Vassar this
young beauty decided to become a
lawyer. Harvard refused to make her
a Portia and Oxford and Cambridge
likewise refused to “unsex" her. It
has been reported that the President
of one of these universities told the
would-tbe Portia that her place was in
her home, taking care of babies.
Instead of following this purely
masculine advice. Miss Milholland
studied law at New York University,
made suffrage speeches on the advan
tages of being a spinster and a voter,
did picket duty during two interest
ing strikes, and made it most evident
that she was “cold.” “dispassionate,”
“unfeminiue.” Perhaps there were
times when she thought of matri
mony, but there were no times when
she talked of it except when dispar
aging those who were foolish enough
to “fall in love” or who were "femi
nine enough to marry some man for a
living.” Whenever a suffragist mar
ried Miss Milhollaud shrugged her
lovely shoulders aud murmured. "The
eternal feminine again.’
And yet she has had many mascu
line adorers. Men have served her
faithfully and whole-heartedly. Men
of prominence in this country and
England have accomplished tasks of
magnitude, hoping to win that ‘cold’’
heart, to overpower her logic and her
A School-Girl Photo
graph of Inez Milhok
and—and (Above) a
intellect. They have all failed, and
with each failure the world has said:
“There is nothing of the woman in
Inez but her beauty; she is only an
intellect, aud will never marry.”
But the woman was there ail the
time. Under the suffrage enthusiasm,
under the lawyer, under the cold so
ciologist—the woman lurked all the
time; but none of these men had
found the touchstone.
Among the various men who laid
their hearts and the fruits of their
labor at her feet, six stand out in
bold relief—in Linden Bates, son.of a
millionaire, a rising young politician
and author; Lieutenant Toruey, grad
uate of West Point; Sidney Smith,
once a man of fashion and sports, but
now a hard worker in Mrs. O. H. P.
Belmont's suffrage camp (at least he
was up to the .day Miss Inez an
nounced her marriage); John Fox,
author and playwright; Lord Curzon,
ox-Vieeroy of India, aud Sheldon
Crosby, at present secretary to the
American Legation at Siam.
Six valiant men of brain and brawn
refused by this charming young mili
tant suffragist, whose slogan might
have been “Votes for Women and
Work for Men,” but who to-day. prov
ing herself a woman after all. has
married a man who knows not the
meaning of work! And. more than
this, -a native of a country which,
although governed by a woman, is
most strongly opposed to suffrage.
It is not necessary to ask an ex
planation from Miss Milholland for
the inconsistency of her words , and
her deeds. Is she not a woman? Has
she not done just what any other
woman would have done? Married
the man who found the touchstone,
and cares not a rap whether he i3 a
shirker or a worker!
But what of the valiant sextette
who labored to satisfy her by proving
themselves workers and falling in
love with her?
Lindon Bates, at the time he met
the fair but fickle Iuez. was a mem
ber of the New York State Assembly.
He was also a sou of a millionaire.
He had done things from his youth
up. He met Miss Milholland during
his first term in the Assembly. It
seemed a mutual attraction. He was
doing things politically and in other
ways, too, and she was interested in
doing things, too. They met fre
quently. “At hist Inez has found the
man to satisfy ner.” said her friends.
It seemed’ so. She made it a point
to corral Mr. Bates’s friends, putting
them through the third degree to find
out points in his favor. At dinner
parties she would say suddenly: “You
know Mr. Bates? Is he not splendid?
He is a great worker, is he not?”
And so on ad nauseum. At last she
really bored people by asking them
these questions, not only about Bates,
but of the others as well.
At the close of his first term Mr.
Bates took a long and laborious trip
through Russia, going even to the
Chinese coast. On his return he
wrote “The Russian Road to China,”
aud presented Inez with the first copy
off the presses. It was as if he said
in words, “Here is tangible proof that
I am a worker, not a shirker.”
But no wedding bells rang for him.
Miss Milholland was still more of a
suffragist than woman, more inter
ested in missions than in man.
Sheldon Crosby, member of an old
New York family, a man of wealth
and social standing, went into the
diplomatic service because she told
him that never could she marry a
gilded butterfly. He is still in the
“service” and likely to remain there.
Lord Curzon did not need to be
taught habits of industry. His won
derful career was the fruit he pre
sented to the handsome young lawyer.
Looked in the Days When She Led “Votes for Women” Parades and
Work the “Most Despicable Creatures.”
Picture of Her as She
Called Men Who Didn’t